any ideas to meet new people?

[DaShen]

Toastmasters is a good one, but you need to find a club where the people are all friends. (you can also find singles TM groups )

There are Career organizations "Junior Chamber of Commerce" and stuff like that, where there are a lot of career minded people. (I tend to shy away from those groups because it seems more fake, like everyone has an agenda to network not really build relationships, but I know quite a few of my friends are active in those groups)

If you are religious or you don't mind religion, church groups are always good.

Also, volunteering is a great way to meet interesting and genuine people (genuine as in not fake with an agenda).

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: Coquito

Originally posted by: gotsmack
I like cigars, gin, and comedies.

I'm one damn boring guy.

theres a bunch of stuff I want to do, buts they;re one time things just to say I did them, like sky diving and building a ship in a bottle.

I have the glasses, you have the gin. Let's chill.

Originally posted by: EKKC
but you sound just like me, i dont play sports, i hate my work people since they're all older, i dont work out, dont go to the gym, i dont go outdoors (well i do rollerblade or bike once in a while, or if you count shopping w. the gf as going outdoors), and i hate reading books too!!!

holy sh!t OP, are you me?:Q

I live not ten minutes away from EKKC, yet he never responds to my posts; don't listen to him. He wants nothing to do with you.

I live by giants stadium, takes 25 minutes to get to the city by bus. I might be interested in hanging out.

EKKC if you went to grad school you might as well be my clone.

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: SViper

Originally posted by: badmouse
How to meet people at Starbucks:

Bring something that you are REALLY interested in and that is obvious enough to catch people's attention - a large format book about comedy movie classics, for example. Sit down, look around. Smile slightly and nod slightly at anyone who looks back at you.

Laugh out loud a few times while you're reading, and look around. Somebody will respond to you. If you look approachable, people will say "what are you reading?". You tell them, and ask if they like it.

Etc. Conversation ensues. If you like talking to them, exchange phone numbers/email/carrier pigeon data.

You do have to work a little bit at making friends.

Interesting T-Shirts also are good at inviting others to make comments.

Another Starbucks thing you can do is Become a regular. Pick a time (every day at 11? Tuesday after work? etc) and go. Be extra nice to the staff - pay attention to them, smile at them, ask for their advice. If you always order the same thing, they'll have your order ready for them, if you always order different things, ask for their advice.

Once you get comfy, notice who else is a regular. Lots of people are. Say hi.

Once you say hi on a regular basis, break your leg (just kidding, but you get the idea) and everybody will start talking to you.

That's some really good advice. You might want to try that out.

Bottom line is that you are going to have to move out of your comfort zone to meet new people. All people are the same.

They take sh!ts and fart just like you do. Don't think they are "better" than you.

That is pretty good.

I know I'll have to move outside my comfort zone.


Eakers- I thought about Pilates class, but then I realized I'd have to join a gym to do that and I don't like gyms in general, if I wanted to go to one I can go for free at the one at work.

 

[slsmnaz]

Start to play cards. Finding a free poker game/tourney isn't very hard. Lots of people that are regulars at those and it worked very well for me. (I'm terrible at poker too) Eventually you have to nut up and do something you may not know you'll like. Just cause you meet them there doesn't mean that's all you guys will ever do.

 

[gotsmack]

Had a work social today after work at the local bar, but I didn't feel like waiting around for the extra hour before the designated meeting time, so I was a bitch and went home.

Will update more as more events come along.


slsmnaz - I went to play cards with my friends once, they're nuts and the people they play with are equally crazy. The wouldn't let me cash out my chips and if I stopped I forefit my chips. It was freaking 2am on too, it didn't end until 6 am.