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Another example of why I can't stand suburbia

johnjohn320

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I spent the last few days visiting my parents, who live in a pretty well-to-do neighborhood in a nice suburban town. The area's really nice, but geez...the people...I grew up in this neighborhood, and I don't remember it as being so cold and well, bitchy.

The house neighboring our house on the backside (our backyards meet) used to be occupied by a nice family, with two kids I used to babysit for. When they got older, they came over to my house for piano lessons. I took care of their dog when they were out of town, they returned the favor, etc. That family doesn't live there anymore, apparently. Today my girlfriend and I were walking the family dog, took her to some nearby parks and whatnot. Since my parents live in a cul-de-sac, if you're in this neighborhood behind ours, you either cut through a yard to get back or walk about a 10 block circle to come around to the front again.

The old neighbors and ourselves always strolled through each other's backyards for the aforementioned reasons, and dogs were no exception. Well, as my girlfriend and I walked through the neighbor's yard to get back to ours, I saw the new resident in her yard (ironically cleaning up dog mess from her own pooch). I smiled said hello, which was returned with a frown and a rude, sharp "excuse me, please don't cut through our yard, this is private property." I calmly, still smiling, told her we were her next door neighbors and extended my hand for an introductory handshake. Rather than return it, she shrugged it off and grilled me on why she had never seen me or my dog before. I shrugged and politely informed her that my family and I have been in that house for 20 years (before her house was even built, mind you). She scolded "well....it's still private property." and stalked off.

Is she technically right? Of course! It's her property, and she can disallow whomever she chooses from setting foot on it. But what the fuck? Who meets their next door neighbor for the first time, and begins with an accusation of lying and "get off my property"? I don't think she even had a problem with our dog, as it was well behaved and she has two of her own. She just didn't want us, her neighbors, to set foot on her grass.

Sigh...makes me think of this song: Text
 
I don't really think that is coming from being in suburbia. There are jerkoffs in any particular neighborhood, whether rural, suburban, or urban. You just happen to have a real 'winnar' of a neighbor. Some suburban neighborhoods are actually quite pleasant and friendly. It is only the last few decades that people have lost their sense of what a 'community' is.
 
Also, who actually picks up after their own dog in their own yard in a suburban neighborhood? The whole point of having a lawn is so that you can just take ye olde Briggs and Stratton to it without giving a shit...literally.
 
Originally posted by: MovingTarget
Also, who actually picks up after their own dog in their own yard in a suburban neighborhood? The whole point of having a lawn is so that you can just take ye olde Briggs and Stratton to it without giving a shit...literally.

Not many in my neighborhood. They just walk their dogs to a vacant lot where the builders haven't built a house yet and let them do their "business". Sadly no one cleans it up, and I have no ideal what these people will do when houses are built on these lots.
 
Originally posted by: Blayze
Originally posted by: MovingTarget
Also, who actually picks up after their own dog in their own yard in a suburban neighborhood? The whole point of having a lawn is so that you can just take ye olde Briggs and Stratton to it without giving a shit...literally.

Not many in my neighborhood. They just walk their dogs to a vacant lot where the builders haven't built a house yet and let them do their "business". Sadly no one cleans it up, and I have no ideal what these people will do when houses are built on these lots.

I dunno either.... back to the backyard then? Payback for neighborly grudges?

😕
 
My parents were worried about having kids on their property because of liability concerns - kid walks onto our property of his own accord, kid gets hurt on our property, parents sue us.



This neighbor sounds like she's just really given in to her primitive territorial instincts.

 
So your neighbor saw some strange dude walking through her backyard and you're expecting her to welcome you with open arms? From her perspective, you claimed to be her neighbors but you're not the people that she's seen living in the houses around her. You don't walk through your neighbors yard let alone their back yard w/o at least introducing yourself first. She may or may not be the worst neighbor in the world, but your choice of introduction made you a random douche in her back yard instead of a friendly neighbor saying hello.
 
Savij - it was him, his special ladyfriend and their dog - assuming they weren't dressed like white trash (PICS OF GF?! OMG OMG) the neighbor was pretty bitchy and needlessly curt.

But still, OP - you have to realize that some people have bad days, bad weeks and... well, bad lives 🙂 This isn't the exclusive domain of suburbia!
 
Originally posted by: Auggie
Savij - it was him, his special ladyfriend and their dog - assuming they weren't dressed like white trash (PICS OF GF?! OMG OMG) the neighbor was pretty bitchy and needlessly curt.

But still, OP - you have to realize that some people have bad days, bad weeks and... well, bad lives 🙂 This isn't the exclusive domain of suburbia!

It's not about how they looked. It's still a random couple walking through your backyard and it's worse that they're neighbors that just assumed they could walk all over your property. Until you know your neighbors and have had at least a hello/nod, you don't just assume you can cut through their lawn.
 
Unless you know the neighbors, don't walk through their yard. Not saying that the neighbor couldn't have handled it a little better.
 
you've clearly never lived in an apartment building in the city with a bitchy neighbor who calls the landlord to complain every time she hears you coughing through the walls.
 
I just bought a house out in the suburbs. My last place is in the city. It has a bullet hole in the frame around the front door. I'll take the chance on having a bitchy neighbhor instead of neighbors that shoot at me.
 
Originally posted by: MovingTarget
I don't really think that is coming from being in suburbia. There are jerkoffs in any particular neighborhood, whether rural, suburban, or urban. You just happen to have a real 'winnar' of a neighbor. Some suburban neighborhoods are actually quite pleasant and friendly. It is only the last few decades that people have lost their sense of what a 'community' is.

i see what you did there!!111
 
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