anger problems

[Corporate Thug]

this is a serious post, please keep the wise cracks at a minimum

anyway, lately i have been getting really angry at the smallest thing. at first i thought it was a temporary thing partly due to the fact that i have been stressed about midterms and job. i spoke to one of my friends about this anger issue and he told he that he thought i was like this in high school to, just to a lesser extent.

i realized it was a serious problem when i lost it in front of my female companion, making her leave because she was scared. of course i called her back later and apologized but i dont want to keep on fvcking up and apologizing to people

is there anything i can do to control my temper?

thanks

 

[Nebor]

Don't worry about it, it's not your problem. Seriously, it's not like you're going off for no reason, things are happening that make you angry, that's a natural response.

Also, don't apologize for it, it's not something you can help.

 

[Crusty]

Can you give us some examples of why you angry?

 

[sonambulo]

take up exercise. you can vent your anger in the gym.

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: Nebor
Don't worry about it, it's not your problem. Seriously, it's not like you're going off for no reason, things are happening that make you angry, that's a natural response.

Also, don't apologize for it, it's not something you can help.

thanx for the response

i feel that it is a huge personality flaw and a weakness in my character. i want to reduce or eliminate this problem ASAP before it escalates any further

 

[Xionide]

Beat up the homeless/elderly. Always works for me!

-Xionide

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: shady06

Originally posted by: Nebor
Don't worry about it, it's not your problem. Seriously, it's not like you're going off for no reason, things are happening that make you angry, that's a natural response.

Also, don't apologize for it, it's not something you can help.

thanx for the response

i feel that it is a huge personality flaw and a weakness in my character. i want to reduce or eliminate this problem ASAP before it escalates any further

You've become a victim of America's view towards psychology, "there MUST be something wrong with you" no matter what you're doing. "You feel ok all the time? You must be some kind of mutant, take this pill... and these."

Different people deal with their problems in different ways. I tend to joke a lot, and drive like a severe asshole, it makes me feel better.

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: MCrusty
Can you give us some examples of why you angry?

the most recent one was because of a debate i had with a friend on the issue of defimation (sp?) of character

i made a comment, he called me idiotic, i lost it in a public resturaunt

his response was no appropriate but it wasnt to the level where i should have gone off

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: Xionide
Beat up the homeless/elderly. Always works for me!

-Xionide

to many felonies already

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: Xionide
Beat up the homeless/elderly. Always works for me!

-Xionide

But what if you were beating a homeless guy drinkin' his booze, and he turned into Agent Smith? Ooooh, you're in some deep sh!t now!

 

[rh71]

stop listening to MetallicA. I haven't been able to myself though.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Some medications can affect mood like that, if you're on any you might want to check into using something different. If not, then the suggestion to work some stress/anger out in physical activity was a good one.

 

[Corporate Thug]

dont listen to metallica

nebhor, i wish everyone felt the same way. this girl was like "we cant have a relationship until you learn to control your anger, etc...." which pissed me off even more

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: Yo_Ma-Ma
Some medications can affect mood like that, if you're on any you might want to check into using something different. If not, then the suggestion to work some stress/anger out in physical activity was a good one.

no medications at all

i really havent thought about exercise on a daily basis but it seems like a really good idea

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: shady06
dont listen to metallica

nebhor, i wish everyone felt the same way. this girl was like "we cant have a relationship until you learn to control your anger, etc...." which pissed me off even more

Just tell her you can't walk the path of the Jedi Knight? I don't know what to tell ya bud, except that girl ain't for you.

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: Nebor

Originally posted by: shady06
dont listen to metallica

nebor, i wish everyone felt the same way. this girl was like "we cant have a relationship until you learn to control your anger, etc...." which pissed me off even more

Just tell her you can't walk the path of the Jedi Knight? I don't know what to tell ya bud, except that girl ain't for you.

why do i always misspell your name???? its not like its the hardest thing in the world

unfortunately, you may be right. i thought i cared about her and all, but lately i feel like she spends too much time judging

 

[Turkish]

Originally posted by: shady06
this is a serious post, please keep the wise cracks at a minimum

anyway, lately i have been getting really angry at the smallest thing. at first i thought it was a temporary thing partly due to the fact that i have been stressed about midterms and job. i spoke to one of my friends about this anger issue and he told he that he thought i was like this in high school to, just to a lesser extent.

i realized it was a serious problem when i lost it in front of my female companion, making her leave because she was scared. of course i called her back later and apologized but i dont want to keep on fvcking up and apologizing to people

is there anything i can do to control my temper?

thanks

I know these are going to sound lame, but I am going for it...

First of all, if you are not in schedule, try to do so... try going to bed at the same time every night, and wake up around the same time, dont' sleep more than 8 hours... get on a healthy diet, seriously, these things sound unrelevant, but they are what our body does 24/7 ... these things are important.

Find yourself some hobbies. Something that doesn't involve the internet. Do you like photography? or drawing? Maybe try learning an instrument.

Exercise, it will help a lot. Do something good for your body (I don't know your current body shape, but majority of Americans are out of shape).

Play some sports, something that requires team effort, but try playing with people that you don't know. To be honest, I wouldn't recommend playing with someone that you know. You'll get competitive and your anger may overcome your passion for winning (if you have it).

Also, another thing that may sound lame, try calling people you haven't called/seen for a while... just ask how they have been and don't get in the argument of why you/he/she didn't call for such a long time...

That's about all I got...

 

[compuwiz1]

This can be a serious issue and left unchecked, the thing to be most concered about, is if this continues, eventually, you are going to do something you might regret. Anger is so spontaneous, that you can hurt someone in an instant, or at least say something you'll regret later. It's not weak to seek counseling. It might even help you come to grips with what's causing this anger.

Your concerns are valid and you should be concerned. I'm sure you are not the type of person who would want to hurt someone you love, or destroy a relationship.

Check out any anger management help available.

 

[Xionide]

Originally posted by: shady06

Originally posted by: Xionide
Beat up the homeless/elderly. Always works for me!

-Xionide

to many felonies already

You "let" them remeber?

-Xionide

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
This can be a serious issue and left unchecked, the thing to be most concered about, is if this continues, eventually, you are going to do something you might regret. Anger is so spontaneous, that you can hurt someone in an instant, or at least say something you'll regret later. It's not weak to seek counseling. It might even help you come to grips with what's causing this anger.

Your concerns are valid and you should be concerned. I'm sure you are not the type of person who would want to hurt someone you love, or destroy a relationship.

Check out any anger management help available.

Any relationship destroyed by something so small wasn't meant to survive in the first place.

 

[Xionide]

Originally posted by: Nebor

Originally posted by: Xionide
Beat up the homeless/elderly. Always works for me!

-Xionide

But what if you were beating a homeless guy drinkin' his booze, and he turned into Agent Smith? Ooooh, you're in some deep sh!t now!

I will give him the virus backdoor.vd and his system will currupt. KING KONG AINT GOT SH!T ON ME!

-Xionide

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: Xiety

Originally posted by: shady06
this is a serious post, please keep the wise cracks at a minimum

anyway, lately i have been getting really angry at the smallest thing. at first i thought it was a temporary thing partly due to the fact that i have been stressed about midterms and job. i spoke to one of my friends about this anger issue and he told he that he thought i was like this in high school to, just to a lesser extent.

i realized it was a serious problem when i lost it in front of my female companion, making her leave because she was scared. of course i called her back later and apologized but i dont want to keep on fvcking up and apologizing to people

is there anything i can do to control my temper?

thanks

I know these are going to sound lame, but I am going for it...

First of all, if you are not in schedule, try to do so... try going to bed at the same time every night, and wake up around the same time, dont' sleep more than 8 hours... get on a healthy diet, seriously, these things sound unrelevant, but they are what our body does 24/7 ... these things are important.

Find yourself some hobbies. Something that doesn't involve the internet. Do you like photography? or drawing? Maybe try learning an instrument.

Exercise, it will help a lot. Do something good for your body (I don't know your current body shape, but majority of Americans are out of shape).

Play some sports, something that requires team effort, but try playing with people that you don't know. To be honest, I wouldn't recommend playing with someone that you know. You'll get competitive and your anger may overcome your passion for winning (if you have it).

Also, another thing that may sound lame, try calling people you haven't called/seen for a while... just ask how they have been and don't get in the argument of why you/he/she didn't call for such a long time...

That's about all I got...

those are some very good suggestions that i will try to implement ASAP

i love playing basketball, i use to play everyday. but i found even that caused me to get angry. i posted a thread a while back descrbing the situation: i felt like i was trying 110% to win the game and a friend of mine was just fvcking around. that is he was missing layups, some on purpose, and wasnt getting back on D. the game ended when i gave him a HUGE tounge lashing which turned into a shooving thing before our mutual friends broke us up

 

[Turkish]

Originally posted by: shady06

Originally posted by: Xiety

Originally posted by: shady06
this is a serious post, please keep the wise cracks at a minimum

anyway, lately i have been getting really angry at the smallest thing. at first i thought it was a temporary thing partly due to the fact that i have been stressed about midterms and job. i spoke to one of my friends about this anger issue and he told he that he thought i was like this in high school to, just to a lesser extent.

i realized it was a serious problem when i lost it in front of my female companion, making her leave because she was scared. of course i called her back later and apologized but i dont want to keep on fvcking up and apologizing to people

is there anything i can do to control my temper?

thanks

I know these are going to sound lame, but I am going for it...

First of all, if you are not in schedule, try to do so... try going to bed at the same time every night, and wake up around the same time, dont' sleep more than 8 hours... get on a healthy diet, seriously, these things sound unrelevant, but they are what our body does 24/7 ... these things are important.

Find yourself some hobbies. Something that doesn't involve the internet. Do you like photography? or drawing? Maybe try learning an instrument.

Exercise, it will help a lot. Do something good for your body (I don't know your current body shape, but majority of Americans are out of shape).

Play some sports, something that requires team effort, but try playing with people that you don't know. To be honest, I wouldn't recommend playing with someone that you know. You'll get competitive and your anger may overcome your passion for winning (if you have it).

Also, another thing that may sound lame, try calling people you haven't called/seen for a while... just ask how they have been and don't get in the argument of why you/he/she didn't call for such a long time...

That's about all I got...

those are some very good suggestions that i will try to implement ASAP

i love playing basketball, i use to play everyday. but i found even that caused me to get angry. i posted a thread a while back descrbing the situation: i felt like i was trying 110% to win the game and a friend of mine was just fvcking around. that is he was missing layups, some on purpose, and wasnt getting back on D. the game ended when i gave him a HUGE tounge lashing which turned into a shooving thing before our mutual friends broke us up

As I said, don't play with people you know. You won't lose friends, better, you'll meet new people... good luck..

 

[Corporate Thug]

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
This can be a serious issue and left unchecked, the thing to be most concered about, is if this continues, eventually, you are going to do something you might regret. Anger is so spontaneous, that you can hurt someone in an instant, or at least say something you'll regret later. It's not weak to seek counseling. It might even help you come to grips with what's causing this anger.

Your concerns are valid and you should be concerned. I'm sure you are not the type of person who would want to hurt someone you love, or destroy a relationship.

Check out any anger management help available.

last year i got so pissed about at my mom ABOUT LUNCH and broke my hand cuz i punched a hole in the wall

do you mean counseling like a psychologist or something? i dont want people to think i have serious mental problems or anything like that. for the most part i'm a pretty happy go lucky person

 

[nageov3t]

ever think about going to see a shrink?

I don't know if a forum filled with angry tech folks is the best place to get advice on controlling anger

I sometimes get the feeling after reading posts that 75% of ATOT is either passive agressive or full-out homicidal.