Anandtech Off Topic probably isn't the place for this, but I need some serious advice.

[Mears]

God, you guys are actually making this harder for me I don't really know how much I like her yet, but everything was going perfect until I found that out that. I can't believe you don't think that wouldn't be a fight if we had kids. Both of us would be pushing them towards our religions. I think she is pretty religous because I'm still waiting for her to get back from some jewish meeting. It is weird though because she doesn't seem to care that I'm not jewish, but judging from my friends she probably thinks I don't have a religion and would be easy to convert. Oh, and I am not thinking that far ahead really. I'm just saying if there isn't a future what is the point you know?

 

[lowtech1]

Mears,

How old are you?

Age & maturity could make a big diff here. My assumption is that you are not much older than 17 to be asking question like that here...Where marriage shouldn?t even be consider in the equation.

It seemed silly to befriend the opposite sex for the purpose of procreation only.

It doesn?t really matter which race or religion she have, because you could always be friend and learn some thing from her & religious believe. You could have a poor perception of her and her religion because you don?t understand it and trying to predict the out come with out the knowledge of her persona nor what Jewish is all about.

I was a Catholic till 16 years ago...I believe in the idea of sharing, helps and don?t do any harm to others (common sense believe), but I don?t be live in the Christianity teaching/bible. But, its doesn?t stop me from reading about other cultures and befriend people with religious believes that is diff than my own.

Don?t be so narrow-minded...of what bad things could happens, because on the flip side the good thing could come out of it too.

 

[Warrenton]

About 15 of my closest friends are Jewish, yet Christian. They are Messianic Jews. Great group, has every aspect of the Jewish religion, yet still has all the Christian parts of salvation, etc. Being Jewish is a way of life, being Christian is faith. My opinion is this: the Jewish religion is a bunch of rules and guidlines for good proper living, morality, etc. with a faith in the one true God. Christianity is Jewish with the way to heaven, salvation. Christianity completes the Jewish faith. The Messianic Jews I know are about the strongest Christians I know.

 

[Blain]

Mears,
Make an effort to understand her and her beliefs. After all Christianity had it's roots in Abraham (in a way). I'm with the others on not rushing things. Take your time and get to know her and her family if possible. If they are openminded enough to welcome you into their home as their daughter's friend, COOL. Try not to look at the issues that could divide you. But try and see (through their life and faith), the roots of your own Christianity. Even if you and her part ways down the line, you will have been introduced to a faith and culture that you wouldn't normally have been.
I am a Christian. But as I look at the lives and faith of Jewish people, I see so much of my "roots" there. Christians, in general could experience more richness in their own faith by an understanding of Judaism.

Let me help shed some light on my thinking...
Let's say your team is playing in a big football game. You are late to the stadium, you only get there at the final 2 minute whistle. Your team goes on to win a very close game. You can rejoice about your teams victory, but not as much as someone who was there during the whole four quarters.
By understanding more about the Jewish people and their beliefs, you can get a better understanding of your own Christianity. Christianity didn't start at the "cross", it started in the "garden".
Gen. 3:15 "And I will put emnity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel."

 

[monckywrench]

If you are asking the question in the first place thats a good indication not to pursue the relationship. Even looking for a long term relationship before you have accumulated a few years of experience is a recipe for disaster. Take your time, and if your religion is of primary importance to you don't bother with women who do not share it. I'm not religious at all, but do know that successfull relationships are based on compatibility. Why waste each others time?

 

[DABANSHEE]

I take it Your only bloody 17. Relaxe, have fun, go out with here. If you have any sense whatever, it will be at least 5 to 10 years before you'll start thinking about settling down with someone & have kids.

So have a good time with the girl, you'll regret it for the rest of your life otherwise. You are only young once.

Its a bit early to worry about what religion your lovers' are. Beside at 17, you should be going out of the way to break every taboo your parents have

Just remember, safety first. So if it looks like you both will be tempted into exchanging bodily fluids, then hold your breath & think about it first, & if you both are still tempted, then buy some condoms & spermercide.

 

[Mears]

Ok. First off I'm not 17...I'm 18 I'm no where even thinking about getting married to anybody. I'm very familiar with religions. I've always been in church and youth groups. When I was younger I memorized bible versus and I had read the entire bible by the time I was 14. I am just simply wondering if anyone has been in this situation or has any insight on how relationships like this go. Anyone who is familiar with Judaism, I have a question for you. As I understand it, your version of the bible included exodus correct and a lot of your laws come from there. Like you don't eat pigs and stuff. Since you don't believe in Jesus and the new testament he brought with him how come you don't follow the laws in exodus exactly are they listed? Was it rewritten in the Judaism bible or what?

 

[Blain]

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