Am I being unfair with my girlfriend?

[zoiks]

Originally posted by: Charmed

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy

Originally posted by: Charmed

Originally posted by: sniperruff
that's how girls are. just suck it up.

Not ALL chicks are like that. :disgust:

FALSE

TRUE!!! Im a chick here dude....I think I can say if im controlling like that or not...every person is different. You can't stereotype "ALL" women like that based on one or two relationships...

Pics? 😛

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: Charmed

Originally posted by: sniperruff
that's how girls are. just suck it up.

Not ALL chicks are like that. :disgust:

Aren't you the crazy chick that played mind games with Eli and then came here to read through his threads? :roll:

 

[daveymark]

Have to admit, if you can find a latin chick without the whininess, you've got it made. My Cubana g/f is awesome, noot whiny at all.

Latinas ftw

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
If she chooses her family over you, I'd suggest not marrying her. If you have kids, think of the hassles involved in her parents having more say over them than you.

Respecting family is great, but at some point you need to detach yourself.

Agreed.

 

[LtPage1]

Originally posted by: sniperruff
that's how girls are. just suck it up.

BS. you don't have to take that, but you do owe her some communication. you've gotta have a discussion about how you feel, and how you would like things to be. she can't handle it, you guys are done.

 

[KarenMarie]

holy thread ressurection!!!

 

[LumbergTech]

how traditional is her family? my understanding is that the spanish culture values family and they do tend to value sticking together..it may just be a difference of opinion on how one should relate to his or her family when it comes to celebrations etc

 

[gigapet]

she's got you by the balls its plain to see. Put your foot down and if she doesnt comply move on.

 

[ahurtt]

GF :camera: or /thread.

 

[farmercal]

She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.

then get another girlfriend, nuff said!

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: cpals
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I don't think you're being unfair, but honestly, I've found this to be the case with many women I've dated, including my wife. They've all been attached at the hip to their parents, but that might just be a coincidence found in my particular selection of women.

Anyway, until my parents passed away, my wife and I would fight quite a bit about where we were going to spend holidays, etc. She had a lot of traditions with her family and this caused problems whenever I wanted to partake in any traditions with mine. To make matters worse, her parents are divorced and both remarried; and she just happens to be close with BOTH sets of families. So in effect, I had THREE families to deal with.

So when the holiday season rolled around, I had to try to squeeze something in for my folks because she wanted to basically divide the holidays in half; but not between my family and hers but rather her "mom's side" and her "dad's side".

Quite a few fights later, she began to see how insanely unfair this was. Unfortunately, she came around just about the time my parents died. But we now have two kids of our own, and while I really want to establish our own traditions with our kids rather than being pawns in her parents' traditions, I find I still have to stand pretty firm to get any kind of reasonable time with just my immediate family. For instance, we still go to her mom's house on Christmas morning so my wife - who's damn near THIRTY - can open presents with her sisters and brothers - ALSO who are 25 - 30. This year I said "fsck no... we're having Christmas here with OUR kKIDS like ADULTS with KIDS DO. Cut the cord already and explain to your family that you're a parent now."

After 8 hours of fighting, she either saw my way or she caved in. I don't know which it was nor do I really care, because after 5 years of this sh*t I just wanted results and I wasn't too concerned with the means by which they were achieved. I'm happy to say that, for the first year, my kids' Christmas morning came FIRST. Of course, we still haven't got to the point where they can actually play with their toys, because my wife insisted that we still house hop between her two families.

That will be next year's fight, and I'm already prepped.

Cliffs:
- No, you're not being unfair.
- This situation, while somewhat extreme, is pretty common
- You'll probably have to buck up some day and deal with it, so you might as well practice that battle on your current GF so you can properly strategize for the onslaught you'll face from your future wife.

 

[ColdFusion718]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: cpals
<snip>

I don't think you're being unfair, but honestly, I've found this to be the case with many women I've dated, including my wife. They've all been attached at the hip to their parents, but that might just be a coincidence found in my particular selection of women.

Anyway, until my parents passed away, my wife and I would fight quite a bit about where we were going to spend holidays, etc. She had a lot of traditions with her family and this caused problems whenever I wanted to partake in any traditions with mine. To make matters worse, her parents are divorced and both remarried; and she just happens to be close with BOTH sets of families. So in effect, I had THREE families to deal with.

So when the holiday season rolled around, I had to try to squeeze something in for my folks because she wanted to basically divide the holidays in half; but not between my family and hers but rather her "mom's side" and her "dad's side".

Quite a few fights later, she began to see how insanely unfair this was. Unfortunately, she came around just about the time my parents died. But we now have two kids of our own, and while I really want to establish our own traditions with our kids rather than being pawns in her parents' traditions, I find I still have to stand pretty firm to get any kind of reasonable time with just my immediate family. For instance, we still go to her mom's house on Christmas morning so my wife - who's damn near THIRTY - can open presents with her sisters and brothers - ALSO who are 25 - 30. This year I said "fsck no... we're having Christmas here with OUR kKIDS like ADULTS with KIDS DO. Cut the cord already and explain to your family that you're a parent now."

After 8 hours of fighting, she either saw my way or she caved in. I don't know which it was nor do I really care, because after 5 years of this sh*t I just wanted results and I wasn't too concerned with the means by which they were achieved. I'm happy to say that, for the first year, my kids' Christmas morning came FIRST. Of course, we still haven't got to the point where they can actually play with their toys, because my wife insisted that we still house hop between her two families.

That will be next year's fight, and I'm already prepped.

Cliffs:
- No, you're not being unfair.
- This situation, while somewhat extreme, is pretty common
- You'll probably have to buck up some day and deal with it, so you might as well practice that battle on your current GF so you can properly strategize for the onslaught you'll face from your future wife.

LMAO