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Am I being unfair with my girlfriend?

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women controlled by the mothers are like the devil....at least that has been my experience. drop them like a bad habit.
 
Originally posted by: SampSon
Be a man and tell her that you're doing what you want for NYE this year, because you did what she wanted last year.
If she doesn't like it, tough sh!t for her, she can stay home with her family.
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Your problem is that you don't have a spare girl or two available when when you dump her ass. You need to get you a few hos, while you continue to hit what you got. Then drop her, and move on to #2.

You need to get a rotation going man!
 
Originally posted by: cpals
Okay, me and my girlfriend have being going out for a year and ten months.... last New Years Eve we spent at her family's house and didn't do much except watch tv and then like a 1/2 hour before the new year they get out the champagne and what-not and it's over.

She's spanish and very clingy with her family and we spend most of our time at her house.

So this year I thought it would be cool to go out with some friends and we could catch a movie, play golf, whatever... something better than just sit at home doing nothing. She starts making this big deal about I'm wanting to spend my time with my friends over her and she isn't going to come with us and is just going to stay home with her family. It's not like she wasn't going to be there with us and I was going to leave her home while we went out to the movies.... so I try to explain this to her and she just gets upset and starts crying saying she's just going to stay home. Now I'm brought out to be the bad guy here....

Am I doing something wrong? If her family actually did something besides get drunk or something I wouldn't mind, but they DON'T do anything special.

Oh yeah, I forgot, she says that we always have to do what I want to do and never what she wants to do. When I ask for examples she can't think of any, but I can think of many of times where we did things that she wanted but I really didn't want to do.
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It's amazing, I'm in your exact situation 😵

I think I'm going to put it in her butt next week. We'll see if that fixes things. Hopefully it does.
 
Bottom line, it depends. If she happens to be a billionaire or something, you should immediately marry her and then start working on the divorce to get $$. Otherwise, trust me (and others) on this one, this behavior will not get better, it will only get worse. She's pretty much established the order of priority, and you're nowhere near the top. Drop her like a bad habit.
 
if you waited until last minute.... when it was expected that you go to her place, then i can see her getting angry.

but if you gave her plenty of notice and she still did this... then she needs an attitude adjustment.
 
Let me make this as simple as I can....
Holidays = Family
WeekEnds = Friends
I don't make the rules, I just explain them.
BTW,
Is She Spain spanish or Hispanic? Because family get togethers are very important to most "Latin" women.
ARE YOU SERIOUS ABOUT HER OR JUST MESSING AROUND?
Telling her you want to go out with "your friends" in lieu of spending time with her family, especially if these are the only times she "forces" you to go over there is not a wise thing to do. That is, unless you want to drive her away.
AND..... Breaking out the Champagne doesn't sound as bad as "get drunk" does. Your spin indicates an aversion to something. Maybe you need to think about YOUR motives.

Or not.
 
Originally posted by: cheapgoose
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
There's a delicate balance between the scales of poon and crap we'll put up with. sounds like the scales are tipping in your case.
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quote of the week.
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ACTUALLY, The rule you're referencing here is No matter how good looking she is, somewhere, someone is sick of her sh1t."
 
Originally posted by: TBone48
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Originally posted by: cpals
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
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She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.
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You are doomed. Either get used to her having her way or paying in the end. From my old fart perspective no amount or quality of poon is worth putting up with this type of crap. It is not ever going to get any batter, it will only get worse. You had better re-evaluate your situation.
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That's the truth. Put a stop to this nonsense now, or suffer eternally. She has to decide whether she wants to grow up and make her own life or stay a little girl and cling to her family. If you're going to have a serious relationship, you should put each other first. Go and have fun New Years Eve and let the chips fall where they may!
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I have to agree with this line of thinking. From the information we currently have, it seems to me like she needs to seriously grow up.
 
Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
Originally posted by: Charmed
Originally posted by: sniperruff
that's how girls are. just suck it up.
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Not ALL chicks are like that. :disgust:
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FALSE
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TRUE!!! Im a chick here dude....I think I can say if im controlling like that or not...every person is different. You can't stereotype "ALL" women like that based on one or two relationships...
 
Originally posted by: Charmed
Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
Originally posted by: Charmed
Originally posted by: sniperruff
that's how girls are. just suck it up.
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Not ALL chicks are like that. :disgust:
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FALSE
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TRUE!!! Im a chick here dude....I think I can say if im controlling like that or not...every person is different. You can't stereotype "ALL" women like that based on one or two relationships...
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not all women are controlling, ill give that.
 
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