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Am I being unfair with my girlfriend?

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cpals

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Okay, me and my girlfriend have being going out for a year and ten months.... last New Years Eve we spent at her family's house and didn't do much except watch tv and then like a 1/2 hour before the new year they get out the champagne and what-not and it's over.

She's spanish and very clingy with her family and we spend most of our time at her house.

So this year I thought it would be cool to go out with some friends and we could catch a movie, play golf, whatever... something better than just sit at home doing nothing. She starts making this big deal about I'm wanting to spend my time with my friends over her and she isn't going to come with us and is just going to stay home with her family. It's not like she wasn't going to be there with us and I was going to leave her home while we went out to the movies.... so I try to explain this to her and she just gets upset and starts crying saying she's just going to stay home. Now I'm brought out to be the bad guy here....

Am I doing something wrong? If her family actually did something besides get drunk or something I wouldn't mind, but they DON'T do anything special.

Oh yeah, I forgot, she says that we always have to do what I want to do and never what she wants to do. When I ask for examples she can't think of any, but I can think of many of times where we did things that she wanted but I really didn't want to do.
 
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
 
Be a man and tell her that you're doing what you want for NYE this year, because you did what she wanted last year.
If she doesn't like it, tough sh!t for her, she can stay home with her family.
 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
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She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.
 
No matter what you end up doing now she's gonna be pissed at you. Might as well go out and have fun.
 
Originally posted by: cpals
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
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She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.
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You are doomed. Either get used to her having her way or paying in the end. From my old fart perspective no amount or quality of poon is worth putting up with this type of crap. It is not ever going to get any batter, it will only get worse. You had better re-evaluate your situation.
 
Actually, you are probably the opposite of what she percieves you to be. You are trying to introduce her to a good time, and she is rejecting it.
 
If she chooses her family over you, I'd suggest not marrying her. If you have kids, think of the hassles involved in her parents having more say over them than you.

Respecting family is great, but at some point you need to detach yourself.
 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Originally posted by: cpals
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
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She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.
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You are doomed. Either get used to her having her way or paying in the end. From my old fart perspective no amount or quality of poon is worth putting up with this type of crap. It is not ever going to get any batter, it will only get worse. You had better re-evaluate your situation.
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That's the truth. Put a stop to this nonsense now, or suffer eternally. She has to decide whether she wants to grow up and make her own life or stay a little girl and cling to her family. If you're going to have a serious relationship, you should put each other first. Go and have fun New Years Eve and let the chips fall where they may!
 
She's trying to train you and establish her dominance. If you put up with it, you'll be miserable every day until you die (or finally snap and go on a rampage). I've been married for 10 years and neither my wife nor I would ever put up with that crap from each other. Tell her to get over the power trip or GTFO. Life is too short.

 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Originally posted by: cpals
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You marry the whole family, remember that because if it s bad in "girlfriend" mode it will get worse in "married" mode. A women like this will eventually use her family against you whenever you disagree on things and you will LOSE. Her family will be her safety net, you will be outvoted, and no matter what you do life will be hell. That is of course unless you always do what she wants.
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She tells her mom "everything" already and has taken her parents side over me a few times... it sucks sometimes.
Click to expand...

You are doomed. Either get used to her having her way or paying in the end. From my old fart perspective no amount or quality of poon is worth putting up with this type of crap. It is not ever going to get any batter, it will only get worse. You had better re-evaluate your situation.
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^^
 
It won't get any better, was about to tell you to talk to her about it but you did already, you better sort this out now coz later if you gonna get married you'll be living a life dictated by them...good luck anyhow
 
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