Family does not come before shoving it to multiple roommates and forcing cancelation of a planned event because on person was too freaking stupid to mention the visit earlier.
Family does not come before shoving it to multiple roommates and forcing cancelation of a planned event because on person was too freaking stupid to mention the visit earlier.
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no no, we still gonna have the party, so nothing is canceled, at least as far as i know, you'd have to ask broebo on that one.
I wonder if the BF told the mother the real truth. He probably said they wanted to have a party and that she should stay at a hotel, neglecting to tell her that he never informed his roommates that she was even coming. He seems like a real ass to me.
No, I'm referring to the Mom's visit, the concert I they were planning on going to and whatever else they intended on doing. You know, the typical mother-daughter thing.
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yeah, thats what i think happened, somewhere, something got misscommunicated via the BF, and now theres gonna be great drama for all of the OTers to hear about, or maybe the issue will resolve itself somehow.
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I was thinking that her mom threw a large temper tantrum about this whole thing by canceling ALL of their plans. It really just blew my mind that someone would be sooo stubborn. I am going to confront my roommate tonight to see wtf he actually told them. He is kind of a thick headed anal guy sometimes, so I think he might have escalated the problem when he called his GF.
JulesMaximus
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Agreed. What's more important? Maintaining a civil relationship with the people you live with or a freaking party? You are imature, grow up and realize what everyone else on the planet already knows, that you aren't the center of the universe.
how is the house divided
does she have her own room or does she share with the BF?
if she has her own room than she should have definitely told all of the roomates that her mom was coming
if she is just living with the BF than she should have told him and he should have told you in advance
but either way the mom should be staying in a room and your room mate and his GF sleep in the living room
my solution is to talk straight to the GF and just cut out her BF and deal with the situation
does she have her own room or does she share with the BF?
if she has her own room than she should have definitely told all of the roomates that her mom was coming
if she is just living with the BF than she should have told him and he should have told you in advance
but either way the mom should be staying in a room and your room mate and his GF sleep in the living room
my solution is to talk straight to the GF and just cut out her BF and deal with the situation
I still don't see OP reasons, 2 senarios:
1. You going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> you said, no can't do & want mon to go to hotel...
2. You NOT going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> ARE you going to said, no can't do & want mon to go to the hotel... or it is ok for her to stay there?
Basically, what I am trying to say is... what is the big deals with you that the mon stays there whether you have a party or not? Are you planning to do something during the party that you feel ashame off or illegal? Or because with an adult present during the party, it's going to "cram" your styles? Base on what you said, you all are in college/works. That means you all are an adult, act like one.
1. You going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> you said, no can't do & want mon to go to hotel...
2. You NOT going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> ARE you going to said, no can't do & want mon to go to the hotel... or it is ok for her to stay there?
Basically, what I am trying to say is... what is the big deals with you that the mon stays there whether you have a party or not? Are you planning to do something during the party that you feel ashame off or illegal? Or because with an adult present during the party, it's going to "cram" your styles? Base on what you said, you all are in college/works. That means you all are an adult, act like one.
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and the parent is? the world is bassed on comprmise so that both parties can have what they want. you should realise what the rest of the world knows, you find a solution, if i want a party, i should be able, jsut as she should be able to have her mom. i'm not going to hold my life up for someone else compleatly, my goal would be to find the middle ground. sorry to hear the world is so black and white for you man. but in this case its not that we are having a party, its that its expected that we just stop everything we've been doing so that the BF and GF (who do share a room) can have it there way. they didn't come out and say, how can this be worked out, it was told to us how it would be. that is not how the universe works.
Yes, that was a pretty stupid thing to do. On both your parts. He should have told you earlier (that is very irresponsible), but if you were any of a friend/roommate, you would have cancelled the party or moved it somewhere else. It is just one party, you can have a bigger one next week, you have to live with the guy. He would have to make it up to you though, like provide the keg for the next party, because he was in the wrong, too, for not telling you sooner, but you did a really d!ck thing there. Good job. :roll:
Both of you sound too immature to live with each other. I feel bad times coming ahead.
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So should i talk to the mom possibly? find out what happened?
most likely the BF talked to the GF and then things where "discussed" between them.
i mean, this is going to cause problems in the house with tension and all...that or we just ignore it untill it goes away, but that only works if your like 10....
most likely the BF talked to the GF and then things where "discussed" between them.
i mean, this is going to cause problems in the house with tension and all...that or we just ignore it untill it goes away, but that only works if your like 10....
complete lack of communication. your couple roommate is an idiot for not mentioning it before... and i bet your question got skewed in transition. And you guys could have moved the party
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yeah, thats pretty much the problem in a nutshell. i think everyone just got to hotheaded, the ever present "i'm right your wrong" syndrome.
You'd better make it up to him and apoligize, because you are screwed.
Say you are sorry that you made such a big deal, tell him it took you by complete surprise and you had a gut reaction because you were really jonesing for that party, then tell him in the future to just tell you earlier. Then take him out drinking ON YOU to make it up to him. Otherwise, you are totally screwed. There is nothing worse than living with a disgruntled roommate.
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