- Feb 9, 2005
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I live with a couple and one other guy, 4 of us in all. This Friday my one roommates was going to have a party at our place, he's been planning this since about last Saturday (best way to get word out for BYOB). Last night my other roommate comes up, says he can't have the party; his girlfriends mom is coming up and going to stay in our living room area for the weekend..
That?s when the problems start
There?s the argument of, why would you tell me this now if you new I talked about this last weekend bla bla bla...you new she was coming...no you only said your GF was coming back, not her mom..Well, she's bringing her mom...
Ok ok, so what would be a compromise?
I?m like, why can't she stay in a hotel, its intrusive for her to come stay since he had plans for a party, and you just tell us this now"
Of course that leads to hostility of things such as her mom pays the girls rent, they've planned this for months (unknown until last night to me and my other roommate). So I keep pushing the question of "why can't she stay at a hotel" it's what most parents do when they visit.
He says fine, you want me to ask, I?ll call her right now. Dials in front of me. I leave at that point to go watch TV hang with a friend.
I come back about 1/1.5 hours later....
The girl and her mom had canceled their plane tickets, canceled some concert tickets, and decided to not come up at all because of an apparent "why can't you stay in a hotel"
Am I crazy, or is this extreme? wouldn?t' most people say something like "its to much money, so is it ok if we stay at your place, or we'll stay one night in a hotel, and the rest of the time in the living room...I mean, I can understand if she felt put out of place a little bit, but I?m beginning to wonder if my roommate who talked to his girlfriend said it in such a way that made then think they couldn?t' come at all. I mean, canceled a plane and a concert because I was wondering why they couldn?t' stay in a hotel? Could I have really made them feel that unwanted (given I never talked to them, all relayed through my roommate...)
cliffs:
Roommate a wanted party - pre organized
Roommate b said girlfriend and mom where coming up
I asked "why can't they stay in hotel"
I left for 1.5 hours, came back
Girlfriend and mom canceled plane ticket, concert ticket, and whole trip
Read story for more detail.
Oh yeah, GF's mom also threatened to cancel paying her rent....
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Update for those of you who wanted to know
I ignored the whole situation as if it never happened and now things are ok for myself and BroeBo, goes to show that everything really does just work out in the end.
the mother still pays the rent, everyone gets along just right dandy.
That?s when the problems start
There?s the argument of, why would you tell me this now if you new I talked about this last weekend bla bla bla...you new she was coming...no you only said your GF was coming back, not her mom..Well, she's bringing her mom...
Ok ok, so what would be a compromise?
I?m like, why can't she stay in a hotel, its intrusive for her to come stay since he had plans for a party, and you just tell us this now"
Of course that leads to hostility of things such as her mom pays the girls rent, they've planned this for months (unknown until last night to me and my other roommate). So I keep pushing the question of "why can't she stay at a hotel" it's what most parents do when they visit.
He says fine, you want me to ask, I?ll call her right now. Dials in front of me. I leave at that point to go watch TV hang with a friend.
I come back about 1/1.5 hours later....
The girl and her mom had canceled their plane tickets, canceled some concert tickets, and decided to not come up at all because of an apparent "why can't you stay in a hotel"
Am I crazy, or is this extreme? wouldn?t' most people say something like "its to much money, so is it ok if we stay at your place, or we'll stay one night in a hotel, and the rest of the time in the living room...I mean, I can understand if she felt put out of place a little bit, but I?m beginning to wonder if my roommate who talked to his girlfriend said it in such a way that made then think they couldn?t' come at all. I mean, canceled a plane and a concert because I was wondering why they couldn?t' stay in a hotel? Could I have really made them feel that unwanted (given I never talked to them, all relayed through my roommate...)
cliffs:
Roommate a wanted party - pre organized
Roommate b said girlfriend and mom where coming up
I asked "why can't they stay in hotel"
I left for 1.5 hours, came back
Girlfriend and mom canceled plane ticket, concert ticket, and whole trip
Read story for more detail.
Oh yeah, GF's mom also threatened to cancel paying her rent....
----------------------
Update for those of you who wanted to know
I ignored the whole situation as if it never happened and now things are ok for myself and BroeBo, goes to show that everything really does just work out in the end.
the mother still pays the rent, everyone gets along just right dandy.
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