yours truly
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- Aug 19, 2006
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hi, my dad died when he was 56.
he used to come home, and down a 1litre bottle of whiskey in less than hour
he then used to scream at us. he made my sister and i stand to attention for hours, like soldiers. we had to stand there, not moving or make eye contact with anything, just stare at the wall. when we did move he used to beat the shit outta of us. he hit me so hard one night thick gooey blood was oozing out of my ear and all i did was cry and go to bed. i was only 6!
then my mum would try and protect us and all his madness was unleashed on her.
there was nothing worse than hear my mother tell us to go upstairs, when my dad was throwing her round the living room, pulling her hair out
because my mum hated my dad, they didnt sleep together. he used to come into my room and have his wicked way with me.
this went on everyday for at least 5 years
dark days..
he used to come home, and down a 1litre bottle of whiskey in less than hour
he then used to scream at us. he made my sister and i stand to attention for hours, like soldiers. we had to stand there, not moving or make eye contact with anything, just stare at the wall. when we did move he used to beat the shit outta of us. he hit me so hard one night thick gooey blood was oozing out of my ear and all i did was cry and go to bed. i was only 6!
then my mum would try and protect us and all his madness was unleashed on her.
there was nothing worse than hear my mother tell us to go upstairs, when my dad was throwing her round the living room, pulling her hair out
because my mum hated my dad, they didnt sleep together. he used to come into my room and have his wicked way with me.
this went on everyday for at least 5 years
dark days..
DivideBYZero
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meltdown75
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Thank you so much for sharing your story.
My mom divorced my abusive biological father and remarried a raging alcoholic. Rest his soul, he was killed on the job back in 2003. He was a pipeline welder and was welding a natural gas line when a piece of heavy equipment at ground level hit a pipe and triggered the flow of gas. A massive explosion left him severely burned all over his body and he died in the hospital about 24 hours later.
Even on his deathbed, I was screaming at him in anger. I had been planning on having a talk with him because my Mom had lunch with me the DAY BEFORE and had said that she had finally had enough of his drinking and abuse. No one here wants to know the ways I thought about getting him out of our lives. His work accident happened the next day. Truly one of the weird/scary coincidences to ever happen in my life.
When I was a kid, probably 12-13 years old... he would come home absolutely plastered. I was his favourite target to pick on, maybe because I was the oldest boy and reminded him of my father. This man was such an angel when he was sober - he would do anything for anyone. When he was drunk, he was a monster. I spent many nights curled up in a corner while he screamed at the top of his lungs. I'll never forget the awful smell of his breath and how his eyes would look right through me. He would have "buzz words" for every drunk, like "individuals" and other stupid words. A lot of them are ingrained in my memory. Unfortunately even the most timid little puppy will snap if pushed far enough, and when that happens you lose a lot of innocence. You're never quite the same. All through my teenage years it seemed to be... how far will he push me this time? What do I have to do to get him out of my face?
One time he came into my room, picked up my 27" TV that he bought me (hooked up to my C=64
) and smashed it to smithereens on the kitchen floor. Then he walked through the shattered glass in his bare feet, and stabbed himself in the chest with a steak knife. I'll never forget the sound of the knife as he twisted it around in his chest. F'd up.After my sister's wedding, my Dad was nice enough to invite my Mom and stepdad over after the reception. Big mistake. Drunk stepdad proceeded to be drunk and loud, and before I knew it he was accusing my Dad of letting our German Shepherd in the house to attack him. That dog was my best friend. I was about 21 or 22 at the time. I had a bunch to drink that night too, and I found myself face to face with him in the living room, asking him to sit down and STFU so we could enjoy the night. My dog was standing next to him and he grabbed it's upper and lower jaws and began to twist. My dog let out a yelp and I hit him with the nicest right hook ever, right in the cheek. *snap!* I hit him in the back of the head a few times on his way down and then began kicking him when he was down. My Dad said "that's enough" and I was so upset I just began to bawl. My mom was saying sorry to me, and blah blah blah - dysfunctional family chapter 2374789. What's incredible is that even after getting punched out, he was still an idiot and I can only imagine how the ride home went with him & my mom.
So I'll say it again and I apologize for the TMI story... but whatever helps alcoholics get off the sauce is fine by me. I don't care if they make them believe in Santa Claus. If they turn their life around it's worth it.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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wow melty, your Mom shouldn't have allowed him to be in the house with her children. he was abusing you.
why did she stay married to him, and yet divorced your bio father?
he was abusing you.why did she stay married to him, and yet divorced your bio father?
meltdown75
Lifer
- Nov 17, 2004
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well my Dad was abusive in his own way too. He is 6'5" and over 300 and he used to smack & throw my Mom around like a ragdoll. She went from one abusive guy to the next. Fortunately now she has a boyfriend that is peaceful and doesn't have any issues like that. My Dad isn't like that anymore, he remarried and is peaceful. I guess it just took him a long time to grow up.Originally posted by: moshquerade
wow melty, your Mom shouldn't have allowed him to be in the house with her children.
why did she stay married to him, and yet divorced your bio father?
I don't remember my Mom ever trying to stop the drunk from coming after me.... it was quite the other way around. I came to her rescue time and time again, and eventually I would lure him away from her to protect her.
CRXican
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- Jun 9, 2004
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Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Originally posted by: GodlessAstronomer
Slitherdee, if you don't mind me asking, what prompted you to want to get drunk 7 nights a week? I'm a 23-year-old student and I love to get on the chop with my mates once or twice a week, but I can't see myself drinking every day. Were you doing it because it was fun? Or did it have more to do with depression or some other nasty mental state? Or if I'm prying too much just tell me to eff off
Everyone asks that. I don't have a good answer. The best one I've come up with is that it was just something to do. I don't really have many worries in my life, but what worries I have didn't bother me when I was drunk. That could be part of it. At first it was fun I guess, but it turned into being just how I expected to feel when I was home. Home = drunk and that was all there was to it. It sorta loses that special something when being drunk becomes an every day thing. Eventually I was passing all my waking hours in a hungover daze or drunk and didn't want to exert myself mentally or physically. It seemed just fine to go on as I was forever. Anything else, including quitting, felt like work and possibly beyond my ability. After a while you just stop thinking more than a few hours into the future because you lose the mental capacity to do so. In that state you need no reasons, because you quickly forget what it is you're trying to prove.
A lot of that describes my routine. Tired after work, want to chill and unwind, grab a couple beers, get buzzed, pass the time, curb boredom.
During the time (about 6 months) I was drinking mostly everyday after work, I think there was only one day where I missed work because of it. I had to stay home and sleep the first half of the day because I was at a bar the night before and didn't realize how hardcore gin martinis can be. I had at least 3.
Even before that I would regret the dehydrated hazy feeling I woke up with the next day. That was one of my main reason for stopping. Despite only having to sit a desk for 8 hours and not really exert myself, it sucked not being awake and alert. I could still get my work done fine but it just made work that much more tedious.
Now I much prefer exercising at night and being able to wake up very refreshed each morning.
alkemyst
No Lifer
- Feb 13, 2001
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I was self-employed for a few years. Didn't deal with customers too much. I'd have a beer about every hour or so. Maybe 24-30 in a day sometimes. I did this day in and day out for years.
Once I got a regular job I stopped that day...
consumption <> alcoholism.
Once I got a regular job I stopped that day...
consumption <> alcoholism.
ConstipatedVigilante
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meltdown75
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/me yells in someone's face in the corner
hey, i can joke about it now, it happened a lifetime ago
sorry to wreck your buzzes guys. personally i handle my booze just fine and enjoy it
simply one person's story about the horrors of living with an alcoholic :beer:
hey, i can joke about it now, it happened a lifetime ago
sorry to wreck your buzzes guys. personally i handle my booze just fine and enjoy it
simply one person's story about the horrors of living with an alcoholic :beer:
SlickSnake
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- May 29, 2007
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Originally posted by: Old Hippie
Meltdown and Hopeless...Wow, just Wow!
Ok, I could probably top their horrible alcoholic family stories or at least equal them, but that's not the point I want to make about their stories.
The fact is some people are seriously and dangerously mentally ill. When you mix severe mental illness with lots of alcohol and/or drugs you will get an explosive emotional situation from that combination. When they say that alcohol lowers your inhibitions it's unfortunately all too true. But it also reduces your common sense level the drunker you get. Being drunk is certainly a trigger for these crazy people, but it's not a good excuse for their behavior, in my opinion, because they are obviously crazy regardless. And obviously lots of mentally ill people still do lots of terrible stuff even without being drunk. So the violent aspect of many drunks is simply their flawed personalities, and the booze is merely amplifying it.
I also know a lot of people who often over indulge in spirits, and they will get giggly or happy or just get real quiet and contemplative. So this is obviously not just the booze causing the violence, the violence is already there in these maniac individuals in the first place.
All things should be done in moderation, alcohol included. Some kid in Sweden went into some comatose epileptic seizure from playing Wrath of the Lich King for over 24 hours after it was released. Someone get that kid a drink to calm down! He needs it!
ConstipatedVigilante
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