A relationship article that applies to politics.

[ProfJohn]

Read this article and didn't think much of it. And then tonight it occurred to me that it is the perfect fit for politics.

Read the 'bad signs' and think about how many times we do that with the people who we voted for.

Maybe this explains why so many people want to throw every one out of congress and start over.

Just the good stuff.

You make excuses for him
Of course, the real issue is not that you don’t see the signs — it’s that you don’t want to see the signs and consequently make all kinds of excuses for the guy’s behavior. For example, if he hasn’t called in days, you try to convince yourself there’s a good reason: “Well, maybe he lost my number. Or his phone is broken. Or he lost his cell phone and that’s where my number is. Or maybe he’s really busy at work, or he’s been in an accident, or he has laryngitis, or…”

You dismiss bad behavior
Barbara Davilman knows all about this kind of self-foolery. Davilman, who is coeditor of What Was I Thinking? 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories, became an expert at rationalizing her ex’s bad behavior. “When I was 27, I stayed with a guy for five years even though he would see me only twice a week — specifically, on Wednesday and Sunday nights,” she says. “Plus, he didn’t have his own phone, so I had to wait for him to call me when he could.”

According to Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they’re unhealthy. “They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won’t find anyone better,” says Tessina. “So instead, a woman will remind herself of a guy’s good qualities and block out the bad.”

You believe a passionate encounter always equals love
You might think that it’s just a matter of winning the guy over — and that once that’s done, he’ll be more attentive. This is what Lisa Mann, 45, was banking on with a man she dated when she was 38. “There were warning signs from the beginning, but I figured the transformative power of love — my love — was great,” she says. “We had a lot of passionate encounters, which I assumed would tone down into a mellow sort of relationship as our bond grew — but in fact, he started wanting to see me less and less, and when we did see each other, it was mostly a physical thing.”

And that partially answers the question of why a guy who’s not that into you would stick around at all. “It’s a no-commitment way for a guy to get your attention,” Tessina says.

 

[Tristicus]

Loves how you guys say article yet never link to it..

 

[Rainsford]

Interestingly, I think the following phrase has a very relationship-like parallel as well...

Maybe this explains why so many people want to throw every one out of congress and start over.

Sounds like the attitude of people getting out of bad relationships, which tends to lead to MUCH worse "rebound guys/girls". Sure, sometimes a breakup is the way you have to go, but somehow people get this idea that ANYONE would be better than what they've got, which usually isn't true.

If some malevolent genie grants the wish of the folks who want to just replace everyone in the government with "someone else", I think we'll all come to regret it. Especially because so far, it seems like the request for "anybody else" should probably have been more specific.

 

[DesiPower]

Loves how you guys say article yet never link to it..

Google my friend, Google probably didn't link coz he/she was ashamed about being a reader of the source :biggrin:

Nice point of view from OP, I kinda like it

 

[Moonbeam]

People who hate themselves, or all of us, are vacuum cleaners sucking off vacuum cleaners. We all want payback for something given, like our love. Sadly real love is only given and asks for nothing in return. What we call love is 'feed my ego'.

People are deeply asleep and they live a lie. Give and do not take. Go up on the cross and die.