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[joohang]

The problem with many Asian parents is that they are stuck in that f***ed up mindset believing that all their children should graduate school first and then get a job.

Fsck that. I was somewhat "lucky" because my family faced a financial crisis for the past few years so I was rather forced to work (but it gave me lots of freedom).

Now I'm so ahead of everyone else I know in terms of studies, job experience, etc. Now my parents are proud me. LOL Little do they realize that I achieved this much because I rebelled against their system.

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I feel for you, OuterSquare. Follow your passion! Do what you want to do. I wish you the best.

If you want to stand out over other people, that's exactly what you gotta do. Don't follow the system everybody else follows.

To use a programming term, inherit and add a bunch of your own methods.

 

[MoMeanMugs]

Ranting is fine, but don't you think your title is stereotypical?

 

[LuDaCriS66]

Yeah all Asian parents are like that.... my parents didnt' want me dating until I graduated university.. oh well. What they don't know won't hurt them

 

[LongCoolMother]

<< Yeah all Asian parents are like that.... my parents didnt' want me dating until I graduated university.. oh well. What they don't know won't hurt them >>



same here.

 

[MaxDepth]

but they swallow...

 

[DAPUNISHER]

<< But I think from now on, I'm just going to screw their opinions. If I get this job, I'll pull in a decent income and I can move far, far away. I'm tired of living my life for other people. >>


Now your talking like a big boy and believe me you'll be happier the sooner you do it!!! BTW, I'm not asian so I appreciate it if you could change the title to "All families suck!" as then I could identify with your feelings completely!

 

[StageLeft]

That's ri-dick-ulous. THe reason you're going to school is so you can get a job. getting a job while in school AKA co-op is one of the best things you can do...especially in this job market if you can get this job doing it part-time with a full-time offer after? My God, telling you not to is simply bad advice and that's all there is to it.

 

[wyvrn]

Yep I understand this concept. I am not Asian but my wife is. School school school, then job, then find a spouse. Makes lots of money, wear lots of jewelry, and make yourself out to be more important than you are. Be as snobby as possible in the process and look down on people who have less. < ---- (Yes I am aware this is a broad generalization and does not apply to all Asian families.) My wife's parents treat her this way but I never stood for it. Now because I treat her with more respect then they do, she stands up to them

 

[sheselectric]

yeah i hear ya....i've heard taking time off before law school is a very good idea...but when i bounced the idea off my parents they were like, "no, you have to go straight from college, otherwise you'll never go back." they are also truly of the conviction that doing a job that makes you the most money is better than a job that you're happy doing. whatever...it's all based on fear of the unknown.

 

[gwlam12]

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<< Yeah all Asian parents are like that.... my parents didnt' want me dating until I graduated university.. oh well. What they don't know won't hurt them >>



same here. >>

 

[Jfur]

They are going to talk about you behind your back anyway, so do what you want to do. After you are successful, they will blab about your magnificence night and day and deman that you immediately have children, boy children!

I graduated at 21 and was immediately hired. At Christmas that year, my entire family wrapped gifts in "for the bride" wrapping paper and demanded to know when I was getting married and having kids. In order to avoid a gigantic, tortured, banquet/etravaganza, I eloped at 25. They eventually forgave me.

Be polite but live your life.

 

[StormRider]

<< Yeah all Asian parents are like that.... my parents didnt' want me dating until I graduated university.. oh well. What they don't know won't hurt them >>



Hehe, my mom said the same thing! When she said that I was pissed -- I thought, "Mom, have you ever seen any girls knocking on my door?!? Why don't you go advise men in a wheelchairs not to run so fast."

I've always thought that if I were in a non-Asian family it would be completely different --my mom would then be worried that I was in college and still haven't dated and worrying that I might be gay.

 

[gwlam12]

<< The problem with many Asian parents is that they are stuck in that f***ed up mindset believing that all their children should graduate school first and then get a job.

Fsck that. I was somewhat "lucky" because my family faced a financial crisis for the past few years so I was rather forced to work (but it gave me lots of freedom).

Now I'm so ahead of everyone else I know in terms of studies, job experience, etc. Now my parents are proud me. LOL Little do they realize that I achieved this much because I rebelled against their system.

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my parents faced a financial crisis when i was just a toddler. now they emphasize even more how important school is. blah.

 

[Ameesh]

<< Asian families suck >>



better then white families they dont care if you goto school or not and when you become 18 you get kicked out of the house and when the parents are old and seniel the kids dont feel any resposibility for them.








(tounge in cheek if you didnt know)

 

[pillage2001]

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<< Asian families suck >>



better then white families they dont care if you goto school or not and when you become 18 you get kicked out of the house and when the parents are old and seniel the kids dont feel any resposibility for them.








(tounge in cheek if you didnt know) >>



I believe this is true.

 

[WA261]

<< better then white families they dont care if you goto school or not and when you become 18 you get kicked out of the house and when the parents are old and seniel the kids dont feel any resposibility for them. >>




dont know a single family like that....bummer for you, if that is what you had to deal with....i lived at my parents till i felt like moving out...they still paid for school and my car once i did =)

 

[ScottyB]

<< always thought that if I were in a non-Asian family it would be completely different --my mom would then be worried that I was in college and still haven't dated and worrying that I might be gay. >>



Hey that's me and my non-Asian family

 

[454Casull]

Yes, yes they do. 50% of the sounds coming out of my mom's mouth is a) very loud, or b) bitching about some crap or other.

 

[Bluga]

<< Ranting is fine, but don't you think your title is stereotypical? >>

 

[her209]

You guys are so funny.

You have to realize that your parents are either 1 of 2 cases:

1. High Income - Parents probably went through what they are putting you through.

2. Low Income - Never had the opportunity to attend [higher?] education therefore had to make sacrifices to get you where you are and would certainly be a shame to not take those sacrifices.

If you really want the job, you should sit down and tell your parents how the job will benefit your future. And assure them that you will complete your education as soon as you are done with this job. Hope that helps.

 

[joohang]

<< Yep I understand this concept. I am not Asian but my wife is. School school school, then job, then find a spouse. Makes lots of money, wear lots of jewelry, and make yourself out to be more important than you are. Be as snobby as possible in the process and look down on people who have less. < ---- (Yes I am aware this is a broad generalization and does not apply to all Asian families.) My wife's parents treat her this way but I never stood for it. Now because I treat her with more respect then they do, she stands up to them >>


That's exactly what I find so contradictory.

In order to increase the chance of making more money, wear lots of jewelry and make yourself stand out more, you should AVOID what everyone else does. Graduate university with no job experience and you'll end being one among thousands of similar resumes. Then they'll feel disappointed of their children "not getting A's" or some BS like that to b!tch to them.

Another thing that bothers me a lot is that many Asian adults are sooo damn afraid of saying "I don't know." What is wrong about not knowing something? If they have no idea what's going on with the job market today, they should stfu. Apparently to many Asian parents, their neighbours know more about the IT industry or engineer jobs than professionals working on the field.

 

[joohang]

<< If you really want the job, you should sit down and tell your parents how the job will benefit your future. And assure them that you will complete your education as soon as you are done with this job. Hope that helps. >>


If it were that easy, there wouldn't be rants in this thread.

 

[PsychoAndy]

and it took you how long to figure this out?

 

[joohang]

<< Be polite but live your life. >>


Excellent advise, Jfur. (as usual )