I'm sorry, but if we're going to reestablish a respectful democracy, we need to avoid becoming the very thing we hate. Pull things too far your way and you either violate the principles of democracy yourself and risk an even greater retaliation if/when the other side takes power. You yourself noted that Republicans don't listen to reason -- we don't want to encourage them to do what they really want and impose permanent one-party rule.
Besides, you don't have to swing it that far to achieve the right aims. Republicans know that they generally lose outside of their hardcore base when there are fair elections. Hold firm on demanding neutral districting and Republicans will whine and moan, because they know that will mean they'll either have to drag their policies into the 21st century or accept that Democrats will lead the country to a better place.