your SO thinks your relationship is going fine (UPDATE)

[zixxer]

it's all in the title.

serious relationship... 2years+ish.....


(UPDATE)

ok here's some more info. Yes, I am 'in love' 'love her' whatever you want to call it. BUT, what is happening is we see each other so rarely that we CRAM in everything that has to do with being 'boyfriend girlfriend'. It's also like we both go WAY out of our way to see each other.. which I know "If you really love each other etc. etc. etc." but life simply doesn't work that way. I work 50+hrs a week now, and go to school 15hrs a week. She works 30 hours a week (not 9-5 though.. she works some weekend days) and has about 18 or 19 hours of school. It resulted in simply not enough time together.


I sat down and basically told her how I felt. I honestly feel like we are 'destined' to be together. I love her, I know she loves me, etc. but we simply argue too much do to that lack of seeing each other. Rather than waiting for a huge monumental breakup, I'd rather just end it now and be friends.. then in the future when we DO have time for each other, we won't be so used to 'rushing' everything and end up fighting

 

[nick1985]

do her mom

 

[Queasy]

bang another girl and record it.

 

[her209]

Tell her what you are thinking. That's what people in relationships do, don't they?

 

[minendo]

Sup bitch, you're dumped.

 

[Scouzer]

Send her an email then dont reply or return her calls.

 

[Detayned1447]

Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

Yeah, she at least deserves that. Don't leave the poor girl wondering what went wrong.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

If you really love her, you could see past the long distance aspect of the relationship.

 

[Detayned1447]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

Whats the circumstance? Different colleges, or what? Is it possible one of you two could move and fix the whole thing?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

Whats the circumstance? Different colleges, or what? Is it possible one of you two could move and fix the whole thing?

not really. she goes to a huge college, and I live 2 hours away because of work

 

[Aharami]

how old are you? asking because if you are in your mid twenties...and if you love her..marriage might be in the near future. so hold out for that. if you are a teenager...so what makes you happy

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You.

 

[Xionide]

Why oh why do people keep asking for relationship advice in a computer forum? Thats like asking hitler for a dradle.

 

[CraigRT]

in soviet russia, the girl dumps YOU!

 

[nageov3t]

pass her a note in study hall, obviously

 

[lavagirl669]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

Then this is exactly what you need to tell her.

 

[Detayned1447]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

Whats the circumstance? Different colleges, or what? Is it possible one of you two could move and fix the whole thing?

not really. she goes to a huge college, and I live 2 hours away because of work

No possibility of you working where she goes to college?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Aharami
how old are you? asking because if you are in your mid twenties...and if you love her..marriage might be in the near future. so hold out for that. if you are a teenager...so what makes you happy

early early 20's

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
No possibility of you working where she goes to college?

Bad idea imho.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
Just be honest about it all, and when your talking about it one of two things will happen either she will find out whats wrong and you will go your seperate ways, or you may be convinced to stay and everything will go fine.

it's just the long distance thing. i love her... i care about her more than anything... but seeing her every couple weeks just isn't working out

Whats the circumstance? Different colleges, or what? Is it possible one of you two could move and fix the whole thing?

not really. she goes to a huge college, and I live 2 hours away because of work

No possibility of you working where she goes to college?

no. I have a good job but no degree. unless I want to work at best buy or some junk (like many others, I have no parents for support... so I have no 'fallback')

 

[Detayned1447]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
No possibility of you working where she goes to college?

Bad idea imho.

Why do you think that is a bad idea?

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Detayned1447

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Detayned1447
No possibility of you working where she goes to college?

Bad idea imho.

Why do you think that is a bad idea?

Because only bad things can come of this.

 

[Detayned1447]

Well the relationship working wouldn't be bad and that seems to be the only possibility of it right now. But yea I could see bad things arising if it doesn't work out.