Your outlook on life sure changes when your parents get old.

[dennilfloss]

My mum is 78yo and she just caught the flu. Before I did not worry but starting about two years ago, I started to every time she has an illness like the flu. At her age, the flu can kill. My 75yo dad is taking care of her and I'm sure she'll be OK in a few days but I do start to feel that their time on this Earth might be coming to an end within the next few years. They are way more ready for this than I am. Still, they might both live to be 100+. I sure hope so.

 

[her209]

I don't think that's necessarily true. People can die in car accidents and be gone in an instant. They can get cancer and be gone in a couple of months.

 

[GG02]

I agree with you. My dad is soon to be 70, and, for the most part, his is in great shape. He goes running for about 5-7 miles ever morning. Baffles me how he does it. However, even something simple like the cold has me worry for him. I dont know, its almost laughable that things that happen to our parents that are so small can make us worry so much, while they tend to not be worried in the slightest.

 

[pyonir]

Yep...my dad just turned 62 and he's in the worst shape of his life (physically), has diabetes, has already had a triple bypass...and is making no changes in his life to make anything better. He doesn't even check his blood sugar...ever. It angers me and saddens me actually...i really hate to see what will happen when he retires in a year and a half, and does nothing at all, all day every day.

 

[meltdown75]

and yet my outlook on posting the same damn thing here and tfnn (verbatim) is still the same.

quit doing it.

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: her209
I don't think that's necessarily true. People can die in car accidents and be gone in an instant. They can get cancer and be gone in a couple of months.

That's what happened to my dad this year. He lost his appetite, and didn't know why, so he went to the doctor. The doc admitted him to the hospital where they ran test, but found nothing wrong. They sent him home, but he wasn't any better. The following week, he passed out & was rushed back to the hospital. More test were ran, and this time they gave him a blood transfusion, and gave him some medicine. He felt better, but he still wasn't eating. They sent him home again though.

About two weeks go by, and he still isn't eating. I tell him he needs to go back to the doctor. The doc tells him that the test show nothing wrong, and tells him he needs to see a shrink. The doc said it's common for seniors to go through this, and that he needs to talk to someone.
I think the doc is full of it, and tell my dad that he needs to find another doctor. He never gets a chance though. I get a call from his girlfriend that he was back in the hospital.

This time, the tests show he has stomach cancer. They give him 6 months to live. They were wrong. He died about 2 weeks later.

 

[NanoStuff]

Ah yes, old age. Rotting on two feet as I like to call it.

 

[Linux23]

Yeah, my mom got sick for some reason last year and died a couple of days after Mothers day (and my birthday). It hit me really hard (and still feel it), and I must admit for the first time in my life, I don't know what direction i'm heading. I always used to look towards the future, but not so much anymore.

Now my dad is about 73 and I feel ill with worrying about him, not knowing when he is going to leave us. I mean, I never used to worry, but I have death and bad thoughts constantly on my mind.

 

[Ricochet]

Posts like this makes me very

I'm reminded that my dad is 68 y/o. He lived a tough life. Survived Pol Pot's regime, endured years in a refugee camp, brought family to the US and worked minimum wage to support a family of 5 kids.

 

[T9D]

My dad is 70. And recently about every week now you think that at any day one of my parents could die at any time. Old age sucks. My dads friends have been dieing off a lot lately. Even ones much younger than him. You never know when it's just going to be over. But his mom is like 100 so it could be a good long time still too.

 

[Baked]

Do not wanna hear/read this!

 

[Linux23]

Originally posted by: Baked
Do not wanna hear/read this!

Yes, because you've discovered how to escape life?

 

[Orsorum]

My mom is turning 65 this year and my dad 63. Very interesting to see them as they grow older, two people that I always thought were the strongest people I knew starting to grow frail.

 

[RichardE]

My mom has epilepsy and MS at 44. Im over there pretty much everyday helping her and have watched her go from someone who runs around enjoying life to barely being able to walk. It hit and still hits pretty hard and I know theres only one way to go with these diseases.


need :beer: now

 

[xavier es]

my folks are in the 90's. My dad has bad alzheimers. mom has dementia, they are both basically walking, no make that schuffling vegetables. every small medical problem is a major problem. they cannot feed themselves, get out of bed, or go to the bathroom without help. my dad is so anti-drug he doesn't take the meds doctors prescribe, my mom says she takes her meds but usually puts them in her mouth then spits them out half hour later.

my dad has accepted for 10 years that he is near the end of his life. my mom cannot accept it and is afraid to go to sleep because she says "she is afraid she won't wake up". she is so worried that something will happen to my dad that every 10 minutes she checks to see if he is still breathing. she wakes him at night to see if he is still alive.

its so so sad.

It makes me realize my own mortality every time i think about them.

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: dennilfloss
My mum is 78yo and she just caught the flu. Before I did not worry but starting about two years ago, I started to every time she has an illness like the flu. At her age, the flu can kill. My 75yo dad is taking care of her and I'm sure she'll be OK in a few days but I do start to feel that their time on this Earth might be coming to an end within the next few years. They are way more ready for this than I am. Still, they might both live to be 100+. I sure hope so.

I feel you there. Makes you want to cherish every moment. I'm pretty young but my parents had me when they were about 40 so I've come to grips with it at an early age. Heres hoping both of our parents live to 100! :beer:

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: her209
I don't think that's necessarily true. People can die in car accidents and be gone in an instant. They can get cancer and be gone in a couple of months.

That's what happened to my dad this year. He lost his appetite, and didn't know why, so he went to the doctor. The doc admitted him to the hospital where they ran test, but found nothing wrong. They sent him home, but he wasn't any better. The following week, he passed out & was rushed back to the hospital. More test were ran, and this time they gave him a blood transfusion, and gave him some medicine. He felt better, but he still wasn't eating. They sent him home again though.

About two weeks go by, and he still isn't eating. I tell him he needs to go back to the doctor. The doc tells him that the test show nothing wrong, and tells him he needs to see a shrink. The doc said it's common for seniors to go through this, and that he needs to talk to someone.
I think the doc is full of it, and tell my dad that he needs to find another doctor. He never gets a chance though. I get a call from his girlfriend that he was back in the hospital.

This time, the tests show he has stomach cancer. They give him 6 months to live. They were wrong. He died about 2 weeks later.

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: Barack Obama

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: her209
I don't think that's necessarily true. People can die in car accidents and be gone in an instant. They can get cancer and be gone in a couple of months.

That's what happened to my dad this year. He lost his appetite, and didn't know why, so he went to the doctor. The doc admitted him to the hospital where they ran test, but found nothing wrong. They sent him home, but he wasn't any better. The following week, he passed out & was rushed back to the hospital. More test were ran, and this time they gave him a blood transfusion, and gave him some medicine. He felt better, but he still wasn't eating. They sent him home again though.

About two weeks go by, and he still isn't eating. I tell him he needs to go back to the doctor. The doc tells him that the test show nothing wrong, and tells him he needs to see a shrink. The doc said it's common for seniors to go through this, and that he needs to talk to someone.
I think the doc is full of it, and tell my dad that he needs to find another doctor. He never gets a chance though. I get a call from his girlfriend that he was back in the hospital.

This time, the tests show he has stomach cancer. They give him 6 months to live. They were wrong. He died about 2 weeks later.

Yeah, it's sad. My sister wants to sue, but I tell her to let it go. I'm not 100% sure that my dad didn't know, and just didn't tell anyone. He was good for doing stupid shit like that.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: dennilfloss
My mum is 78yo and she just caught the flu. Before I did not worry but starting about two years ago, I started to every time she has an illness like the flu. At her age, the flu can kill. My 75yo dad is taking care of her and I'm sure she'll be OK in a few days but I do start to feel that their time on this Earth might be coming to an end within the next few years. They are way more ready for this than I am. Still, they might both live to be 100+. I sure hope so.

i know what u mean.

my THREAD about my dad

i always viewed my dad as invincible and that he'll always be there.

Bright side:
He's 66 and still working not because he has to, but he wants to. He likes what he's doing. (40+ years in a Union as an electrical tech.)

down side:
- he was hospitalized last year for high blood pressure. (Ambulance came to his house and all because he was too dizzy to stand up.) Dad says as long as he's on meds and stays away from salt, he'll be fine.

- Last month he said he sometimes has numbness in his left arm, which scared the hell out of me. i thought it was heart problems and that he might have a heart attack soon. found out it was a couple of herniated discs in his neck which was causing pressure on nerves. He's going to make an appt w/a specialist.


but it was that thinking about a heart attack that made me realize that he's mortal and one of these days he wont be around.

wow.. i'm actually crying as i'm writing this...

 

[OVERKILL]

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: her209
I don't think that's necessarily true. People can die in car accidents and be gone in an instant. They can get cancer and be gone in a couple of months.

That's what happened to my dad this year. He lost his appetite, and didn't know why, so he went to the doctor. The doc admitted him to the hospital where they ran test, but found nothing wrong. They sent him home, but he wasn't any better. The following week, he passed out & was rushed back to the hospital. More test were ran, and this time they gave him a blood transfusion, and gave him some medicine. He felt better, but he still wasn't eating. They sent him home again though.

About two weeks go by, and he still isn't eating. I tell him he needs to go back to the doctor. The doc tells him that the test show nothing wrong, and tells him he needs to see a shrink. The doc said it's common for seniors to go through this, and that he needs to talk to someone.
I think the doc is full of it, and tell my dad that he needs to find another doctor. He never gets a chance though. I get a call from his girlfriend that he was back in the hospital.

This time, the tests show he has stomach cancer. They give him 6 months to live. They were wrong. He died about 2 weeks later.

This post really hit me hard.

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. :brokenheart:

 

[Pepsi90919]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
and yet my outlook on posting the same damn thing here and tfnn (verbatim) is still the same.

quit doing it.

He also posted it on DSLReports. wtf.

 

[BoomerD]

The changes in outlook REALLY hit when the parents die. That's when everything shifts to you, especially if you're an only child or the oldest child.

Here's hoping your parents live to 120 in good health and sound mind!

 

[NanoStuff]

Originally posted by: BoomerD
Here's hoping your parents live to 120 in good health and sound mind!

Why stop there? If they live to 120 they'll live to a million.

 

[Old Hippie]

My Mom died @ 2.5 yrs. ago.

I still cry.

I never thought I'd be without her.

My Dad's 76 and doing great. I'm cherishing every minute. :thumbsup:

 

[Kadarin]

My dad is 80 and my mom 67, and while there's nothing wrong with them that I know of, I still get at the thought that their time on Earth is going to come to a close someday, and that day gets closer with each passing year.