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Originally posted by: petejk
so, I was talking to my friend...

apparently, his co-worker (married guy in his 30s).....
just had his wife told him that she was in a couple
gangbangs....prior to getting married....this seriously
got his blood boiling.

but...prior to getting married...they "supposedly"
told each other...everything....but this "everything" didn't
cover....ahem...this topic................so...after settling down,
having kids, he finally gets this news...

DANG!!!!!!!!!

what would you guys do if you found this out???
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I'd invite some buddies over for some fun LOL!!!!
 
Originally posted by: petejk
so, I was talking to my friend...

apparently, his co-worker (married guy in his 30s).....
just had his wife told him that she was in a couple
gangbangs....prior to getting married....this seriously
got his blood boiling.

but...prior to getting married...they "supposedly"
told each other...everything....but this "everything" didn't
cover....ahem...this topic................so...after settling down,
having kids, he finally gets this news...

DANG!!!!!!!!!

what would you guys do if you found this out???
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I'd be thankful I had a freaky woman.
 
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I won't comment on why she would tell him this now. I would suspect that she's trying to hurt him. However, I will say that just because someone is married, that does not mean that your spouse owns you. You still have a right to privacy where your past is concerned. It's not only none of his/her business, but usually the only outcome of spilling the beans is hurt, jealousy, and distrust. Who and what I did, sexually or otherwise is none of my husband's business.
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Normally I would agree with you 100%, except for -
prior to getting married...they "supposedly"
told each other...everything....but this "everything" didn't
cover....ahem...this topic.......
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This is the main thing that would bother me.
 
lol, if you guys could have 10 women throw you on the floor and ride you hard you'd call yourselves studs and brag about it for the rest of your lives (except there would be twenty models and you lasted all night) 😉

As long as its in her past and she is now commited to her husband what's the problem? If she had 5 guys in a weekend is it really different from you having 30 in a year? Does spreading them out make it any less "slutty" or is this just the infamous virgin/slut double standard...
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
he needs to get over his damaged ego
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yeah..what's wrong ? If a guy in his 20s/30s has something against 'gangbangs'...hmmm...maybe he is *** ? 🙂

I mean, my wife told me after we married that she also likes girls and had sex with girls...i find that rather cool 🙂 Ok..i was a bit surprised the day she told me...but still i think it's cool...opens a lot of interesting perspectives 🙂
 
Originally posted by: flexy
Originally posted by: moshquerade
he needs to get over his damaged ego
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yeah..what's wrong ? If a guy in his 20s/30s has something against 'gangbangs'...hmmm...maybe he is *** ? 🙂

I mean, my wife told me after we married that she also likes girls and had sex with girls...i find that rather cool 🙂 Ok..i was a bit surprised the day she told me...but still i think it's cool...opens a lot of interesting perspectives 🙂
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Would you honestly say the same thing if your wife had told you she had let herself be filled out like an application by 3+ guys at one time.
 
Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Originally posted by: flexy
Originally posted by: moshquerade he needs to get over his damaged ego
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yeah..what's wrong ? If a guy in his 20s/30s has something against 'gangbangs'...hmmm...maybe he is *** ? 🙂 I mean, my wife told me after we married that she also likes girls and had sex with girls...i find that rather cool 🙂 Ok..i was a bit surprised the day she told me...but still i think it's cool...opens a lot of interesting perspectives 🙂
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Would you honestly say the same thing if your wife had told you she had let herself be filled out like an application by 3+ guys at one time.
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Of course he wouldn't.

Gangbangs are cool, and the girls who do them are cool too....but for gangbanging purposes only!

You don't marry a chick that has ever been gangbanged.

Gives me a question to ask my girl tonight, when I put her on the spot.

Peace & love,
GermyBoy
 
I would like to say that most that put double standards for 'gangbangs' on women they'd marry, have not done either.
 
As long as there's not another shoe...like..."and I want to arrange another one and don't want you there." Then the dude should let it be in the past.

When I get historical disclosures very late, I always wonder why they are telling me. What's the real message?

Gravity
 
Originally posted by: whaleskinrug
If she had 5 guys in a weekend is it really different from you having 30 in a year? Does spreading them out make it any less "slutty" or is this just the infamous virgin/slut double standard...
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It does seem to be different if a woman sleeps with 5 guys in a weekend instead of over a longer time. I think it's because, until very recently, there wasn't any way the woman would know which guy was the father if she became pregnant. I would guess that most people would be very disappointed in their mothers if they learned that they were the result of a weekend gangbang, because it shows that your mother couldn't have cared less about who fathered her child.

From just a biological standpoint, women are tethered to the child for many years afterward, unless they just abandon it, and are expected to put some thought into who that baby will be. Men, on the otherhand, are not going to carry the child for nine months and have no way of feeding it immediately after it is born, there is no reason for them to hang around unless they choose to. Historically, men did not have to be as careful/selective when it came to choosing the quantity or quality of their sex partners. I know that Maury Povich is hell bent on changing all of that, but you can't change a mindset with thousands of years behind it in just a few centuries.
 
on the other hand, men don't want their wives sleeping around, the wives know for sure if the babies they raise are theirs. men have anxiety that they are raising someone elses baby without knowing it🙂
 
Originally posted by: Cyberian
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I won't comment on why she would tell him this now. I would suspect that she's trying to hurt him. However, I will say that just because someone is married, that does not mean that your spouse owns you. You still have a right to privacy where your past is concerned. It's not only none of his/her business, but usually the only outcome of spilling the beans is hurt, jealousy, and distrust. Who and what I did, sexually or otherwise is none of my husband's business.
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Normally I would agree with you 100%, except for -
prior to getting married...they "supposedly"
told each other...everything....but this "everything" didn't
cover....ahem...this topic.......
Click to expand...
This is the main thing that would bother me.
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You know what, though? That was a mistake to begin with. Nobody has a right to demand "everything" from another person. It is simply none of his or her business. They both have a right to keep their pasts to themselves. Marriage is not ownership. You can learn about someone's values without making them give you ammunition to hurt or degrade them. Nobody should keep secrets during a marriage concerning present events, but only YOU own your past.

Why she chose to divulge this information about herself now, I would guess she's trying to hurt him. That is not being "truthful" but vindictive and mean. She had every right to keep it to herself in the first place, but was a real bitch to let it out now.
 
Originally posted by: illustri
its good that SHE told him, instead of him learning this drinking with his buddies
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lol....wife bends over to pick up a dropped spoon....three guys, simultaneously, "I thought i recognized you!"
 
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