I don't know if you guys remember my past roomate thread but here's an update from then. In the past, I have been having trouble with my two good friends (also roomates) my gf and I live with. Things have changed for the good and even the worse. Here's what I have to say and maybe you guys can assist me with this.
Friend 1 - He was the one being very sloppy and not cleaning up after each other. His room was a mess, very disgusting. I sat them both down and he understood what I was saying and he took it into consideration. Since then, he's been changing slowly for the best. He has been taking care of the garbage, emptying and starting the dishwasher, cleaning up after himself. He has gotten a lot better, and also as a friend which I really do appreciate.
This was a test I guess, to see how much he cares as a friend, and he proved himself. Case resolved.
Friend 2 - Well, I sat him down also; but obviously it did not get any better, just got worse. He does clean up after himself, that really wasn't the original problem. I've known Friend 2 for the past five years and I would do backflips for this kid, anything I would do to help out a best friend. Since he moved out of his parent's house, he's been a wreck. Friend 1 and I have been trying to help him out a lot and all it does it backfire. He has this b!tch of a girlfriend which all she does is cause trouble. Even though Friend 1 and I have tried to help him he's on a emotional rollercoaster. Also, he doesn't like to ask for things from other people. He doesn't have a car so he can't drive himself anywhere, but he has free public bus system and a bike. He has been really short of food the past couple days so he's been moping in his room and starving himself because he won't ask us to take him to the store. I would do it if he would ask me, but he won't. HE IS FREAKING WIERD. I don't know what he is scared of, he wants everything to be handed to him. I left my old job and I told him my boss is going to be looking for someone. He went and interviewed but he did not call back and re-contact him so he basically screwed himself over because my old boss gave the job to someone who appreciated the position and contacted him back. I even set it up for him, and he fvcked it up. Plus he needs a job. After I told him that, he bitched about how he didn't get the job because everyone hates him. All he cares about is his girlfriend even though his friends have done EVERYTHING for this kid in the past.
I just saw the episode of South Park about how Stan joined up with the goth kids and all they did is mope around and b!tch about society. THIS IS FRIEND 2, BUT EVEN WORSE. He thinks everything is horrible and life sucks and everyone is dead. But it's worse, he's selfish and just pushes the people that really care about him away, like me. This really hurts me saying this also, but I don't know what else to do. He does not stand up for himself either, I don't know how he can consider himself and man, he's not even a boy. He has the mentality of a freakin woman. (No offense to the women out there.)
Ugh, I think I just need to rant. Thanks for listening.
Oh, cliffnotes:
- Roomate 1 has gotten a lot better after I talked to him because he cares enough about our friendship to put an effort into it.
- Roomate 2 is a woman in a man's body who has nothing to show for himself and Caring Cashman wants to help out yet all he does is piss Cashy because the kid doesn't care about himself nor his good friends.
Friend 1 - He was the one being very sloppy and not cleaning up after each other. His room was a mess, very disgusting. I sat them both down and he understood what I was saying and he took it into consideration. Since then, he's been changing slowly for the best. He has been taking care of the garbage, emptying and starting the dishwasher, cleaning up after himself. He has gotten a lot better, and also as a friend which I really do appreciate.
This was a test I guess, to see how much he cares as a friend, and he proved himself. Case resolved.Friend 2 - Well, I sat him down also; but obviously it did not get any better, just got worse. He does clean up after himself, that really wasn't the original problem. I've known Friend 2 for the past five years and I would do backflips for this kid, anything I would do to help out a best friend. Since he moved out of his parent's house, he's been a wreck. Friend 1 and I have been trying to help him out a lot and all it does it backfire. He has this b!tch of a girlfriend which all she does is cause trouble. Even though Friend 1 and I have tried to help him he's on a emotional rollercoaster. Also, he doesn't like to ask for things from other people. He doesn't have a car so he can't drive himself anywhere, but he has free public bus system and a bike. He has been really short of food the past couple days so he's been moping in his room and starving himself because he won't ask us to take him to the store. I would do it if he would ask me, but he won't. HE IS FREAKING WIERD. I don't know what he is scared of, he wants everything to be handed to him. I left my old job and I told him my boss is going to be looking for someone. He went and interviewed but he did not call back and re-contact him so he basically screwed himself over because my old boss gave the job to someone who appreciated the position and contacted him back. I even set it up for him, and he fvcked it up. Plus he needs a job. After I told him that, he bitched about how he didn't get the job because everyone hates him. All he cares about is his girlfriend even though his friends have done EVERYTHING for this kid in the past.
I just saw the episode of South Park about how Stan joined up with the goth kids and all they did is mope around and b!tch about society. THIS IS FRIEND 2, BUT EVEN WORSE. He thinks everything is horrible and life sucks and everyone is dead. But it's worse, he's selfish and just pushes the people that really care about him away, like me. This really hurts me saying this also, but I don't know what else to do. He does not stand up for himself either, I don't know how he can consider himself and man, he's not even a boy. He has the mentality of a freakin woman. (No offense to the women out there.
) Ugh, I think I just need to rant. Thanks for listening.
Oh, cliffnotes:
- Roomate 1 has gotten a lot better after I talked to him because he cares enough about our friendship to put an effort into it.
- Roomate 2 is a woman in a man's body who has nothing to show for himself and Caring Cashman wants to help out yet all he does is piss Cashy because the kid doesn't care about himself nor his good friends.
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