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weirdichi

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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
There is a wonderful Arabic story of Majnun and Lila. Majnun loves Lila but her father won't let him marry her. He spends his life wandering about calling Lila's name and singing her praises. Somebody said that Lila wasn't that hot. Majnun answered that to see Lila's beauty you needed Majnun's eyes.

Oooh.. I like. /me copies it down.
 

gunblade

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Good luck, buddy.

I have been wanting to hint on a girl to let her know how I feel but get no chance. Hopefully, thing works out well for both of us.
 

Siddhartha

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Originally posted by: sadb0i
Thanks for jumping in.

Here goes. It was the summer of 1998 when I first saw this girl. She was beautiful in every way I could imagine and as an added bonus she was a lead singer in a local band. We've been talking and going out on dates off and on for a few months. We did the all nighters jsut chatting away about life. Even if she had nothing to say to me she'd call me late at night and stay on the line to listen to me sleeping. Unfortunately at the time I was already with someone, so our relationship never really went anywhere.

We lost contact for about 6 months and during that time she had gotten with some guy and they got married. I had broken up with my GF by that time. All hope was lost! I was depressed for months. I lost about 20lbs. My parents thought I was doing drugs. In my heart I always thought that as we both matured; we would finally come together when we were adults, but that dream quickly faded away with all my dreams. As always life goes on. I moved out of town shortly thereafter.

Just a few weeks ago I heard from my brother that she had gotten a divorce from her husband. I couldn't believe my ears.

Today I saw her again at my younger brothers graduation. She is still as beautiful as ever. We just looked at each other for about 10 seconds and all I could feel was happiness. All those feelings I had came rushing back and I just wanted to hold her in my arms and tell her everything that was going through my mind. I just wanted to tell her that I'd never want for us to be apart ever again.

The dilemma here is that I don't know how/when I should approach her with my feelings for her. I'm afraid that she would not be ready, but I also am afraid that because of our culture, her parents may force her to get married to somebody as soon as they can. This is because they want to save "face" for the family. This happens a lot in my culture. Its dumb yes, but its something that won't go away until that generation is gone.

I just don't want to lose her a second time.

OR am I just too obsessed over this girl?

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sadb0i

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Originally posted by: gunblade
Good luck, buddy.

I have been wanting to hint on a girl to let her know how I feel but get no chance. Hopefully, thing works out well for both of us.

good luck to you man. I hope it works out for you.
 

Skyclad1uhm1

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Originally posted by: weirdichi
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
There is a wonderful Arabic story of Majnun and Lila. Majnun loves Lila but her father won't let him marry her. He spends his life wandering about calling Lila's name and singing her praises. Somebody said that Lila wasn't that hot. Majnun answered that to see Lila's beauty you needed Majnun's eyes.

Oooh.. I like. /me copies it down.

Nice one indeed :)

Edit: From what I can find it's Indian rather than Arabic btw ;)
 

Stark

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boy, you really screwed this one up.

to any potential yagters, if A) you're with someone who is not your "soulmate" and B) you meet your "soulmate" (or at least someone with more potential for being that person than the one your with) and C) you're NOT married, you should stop seeing A (there's no home for you here, girl, go away) in favor of B immediately. Note, please do not do this if you're married.

I'd ask her out on a date. Don't let on to your psycho obsession for at least a few months. Maybe she got married because you rejected her and divorced because he wasn't you.
 

Moonbeam

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Well I see that Lila is spelled as Laila and Laela in different references, but you can go here to page 3 for a brief synopsis and historical setting of the story. The story as well as other forms of arabic influence was widespread as it's culture flourished during our dark ages.
 

TheCorm

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I think it's a case of careful timing....it may be too soon right now, you may just need to be a good friend to her for now....doing so will be beneficial for the both of you....and will hopefully help you two to get even closer.

Then you have to guage the right time to tell her how you feel....not too soon but not so late that she is snatched up again and taken away from you!

An ideal thing would be if you knew one of her friends well who could do some insider investigating as see if they can find out if she feels similar to the same to you do.....

Jamie
 

sadb0i

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Originally posted by: TheCorm
I think it's a case of careful timing....it may be too soon right now, you may just need to be a good friend to her for now....doing so will be beneficial for the both of you....and will hopefully help you two to get even closer.

Then you have to guage the right time to tell her how you feel....not too soon but not so late that she is snatched up again and taken away from you!

An ideal thing would be if you knew one of her friends well who could do some insider investigating as see if they can find out if she feels similar to the same to you do.....

Jamie

If I was in the same town this woul dbe so much easier. But its friday. I'll be heading back and hopefully talking with her some more. *nervous*
 

Sust

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Nice, she's cute. :D
A bunch of people have said that stuff about waiting and I would agree.
Plus I would try to look at it more for your benefit.
Women, like all creatures tend to change/grow/mature(in no particular order and often repetitively)
The real question is what has she become over the years?

You never really know a woman until you've lived with her for a little bit and even then she has surprises for you.
Not that Im suggesting anything drastic like that, but reacquainting yourself with her is a great start.
And I'm not crappin on the girl of your dreams, but I just advise a lot of caution on your part especially since it seems like you associate alotta emotion with her. Could hurt yourself if youre not careful.
Like my fiancee said to me when we were going out: "Women are so full of $h1t"
Good luck with trying to figure out her "true" self :beer:

Although if she TRULY turns out to be the girl of your dreams then dont sit around waiting to let her know.
If she's that cool, then a lot of other guys will be thinking just like you and some might not wait as long as you would.