UDT89
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hey man
we're in the same boat, just that im not that head over heels ofr my girl yet. Start off slow, give her your number and ask her to call you sometime. Dont even mention hanging out yet.
I did that with the girl i met, b/c everytime we saw each other we talked for almost a hour. So i figured why not move this to the phone, instead of at work. Worked fine, played phone tag for a couple of days, but when i left a message asking her to call me on my day off, which was sunday, she did. Even though it was at 9pm, she did call. We talked for 3 hours.
For all you know, you get to know this girl and you both dont have a thing in common. You could be building her up to be this SUPER-PERFECT girl, when in reality shes got the brains and personality of a door knob. You are attracted to her physically, which is a perfectly normal start to meeting someone. But until you decide to get to know the person, you never know.
WHY LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WONDERING, WHAT IF?
we're in the same boat, just that im not that head over heels ofr my girl yet. Start off slow, give her your number and ask her to call you sometime. Dont even mention hanging out yet.
I did that with the girl i met, b/c everytime we saw each other we talked for almost a hour. So i figured why not move this to the phone, instead of at work. Worked fine, played phone tag for a couple of days, but when i left a message asking her to call me on my day off, which was sunday, she did. Even though it was at 9pm, she did call. We talked for 3 hours.
For all you know, you get to know this girl and you both dont have a thing in common. You could be building her up to be this SUPER-PERFECT girl, when in reality shes got the brains and personality of a door knob. You are attracted to her physically, which is a perfectly normal start to meeting someone. But until you decide to get to know the person, you never know.
WHY LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WONDERING, WHAT IF?
Yeah.......... get to know her agina and then maybe down the line something can happen.
Cheers,
quaman
Cheers,
quaman
Just do as the others said. Take it slow.
Just don't runaway. You will wonder "WHAT IF?" for the rest of your life.
PS. What nationaliay are you anyway? I would guess Vietnamese, but prove me wrong.
baggage
A) Divorced women are a little messed in the head...not forever, but for a year or so usually.
B) Divorced ASIAN woman with a very traditional familiy...bad mojo... you'd be compared to the ex quite often I bet.
C) Seeing as how your not so traditional, do you really want to take a step back into that archaic lifestyle?
Forget about it. Not worth your time...I could very easily see this going sour and you getting depressed all over again.
A) Divorced women are a little messed in the head...not forever, but for a year or so usually.
B) Divorced ASIAN woman with a very traditional familiy...bad mojo... you'd be compared to the ex quite often I bet.
C) Seeing as how your not so traditional, do you really want to take a step back into that archaic lifestyle?
Forget about it. Not worth your time...I could very easily see this going sour and you getting depressed all over again.
DrPizza
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What?! Are you stupid or something??!
You had a first chance, she called, just to listen to you breathing while you slept. You liked her a lot, she liked you. Had you dated her then, you'd probably have ended up married to her.
How many people get a second chance at the girl of their dreams!?!
Don't blow it this time. Don't wait. (You've talked to her sister.... you don't think she's talked to her sister and found out you were inquiring about her already?). She knows you inquired of her. Anything less than asking her out for something casual in the very near future would indicate to her that you're not interested any more (and break her heart). She has a history of dating some shmo and marrying him whenever YOU don't pay enough attention to her.
You had a first chance, she called, just to listen to you breathing while you slept. You liked her a lot, she liked you. Had you dated her then, you'd probably have ended up married to her.
How many people get a second chance at the girl of their dreams!?!
Don't blow it this time. Don't wait. (You've talked to her sister.... you don't think she's talked to her sister and found out you were inquiring about her already?). She knows you inquired of her. Anything less than asking her out for something casual in the very near future would indicate to her that you're not interested any more (and break her heart). She has a history of dating some shmo and marrying him whenever YOU don't pay enough attention to her.
never knowing is jsut a fact of life...there are a lot of "what if's"...it's all about judgement...if you use your best judgement, regardless of how it turns out, your far better off than taking a leap of faith.
She needs a friend after a divorce... not another lover. Perhaps several years from now you can confess.
-psianime
-psianime
weirdichi
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Wow, another Hmong (I'm 99.9% sure you're Hmong from your sig) guy on here! I understand where you're coming from exactly. It's a touchy subject, but I think things will work out. Just talk with her and be careful. It also depends on how traditional your and her family are. If your family is very traditional, then talkig with them would be outta the question because they are hard headed and like you said, they want to "save face" and not ruin the reputation. If they are non-traditional people, then I say for for it. But the first thing is to tell her how you feel. The things in life you regret are the things you don't do. At least she knows how you feel and you tried. Best of luck to you!
I think he's Hmong, from his name. I'm 99.9% sure he's Hmong.
I think he's Hmong, from his name. I'm 99.9% sure he's Hmong.
Originally posted by: weirdichi
Wow, another Hmong (I'm 99.9% sure you're Hmong from your sig) guy on here! I understand where you're coming from exactly. It's a touchy subject, but I think things will work out. Just talk with her and be careful. It also depends on how traditional your and her family are. If your family is very traditional, then talkig with them would be outta the question because they are hard headed and like you said, they want to "save face" and not ruin the reputation. If they are non-traditional people, then I say for for it. But the first thing is to tell her how you feel. The things in life you regret are the things you don't do. At least she knows how you feel and you tried. Best of luck to you!
I think he's Hmong, from his name. I'm 99.9% sure he's Hmong.
Where are the Homong from?
Cheers,
Aquaamn
weirdichi
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Originally posted by: Aquaman
Originally posted by: weirdichi
Wow, another Hmong (I'm 99.9% sure you're Hmong from your sig) guy on here! I understand where you're coming from exactly. It's a touchy subject, but I think things will work out. Just talk with her and be careful. It also depends on how traditional your and her family are. If your family is very traditional, then talkig with them would be outta the question because they are hard headed and like you said, they want to "save face" and not ruin the reputation. If they are non-traditional people, then I say for for it. But the first thing is to tell her how you feel. The things in life you regret are the things you don't do. At least she knows how you feel and you tried. Best of luck to you!
I think he's Hmong, from his name. I'm 99.9% sure he's Hmong.
Where are the Homong from?
Cheers,
Aquaamn
Tribal people from the mountains of Laos.
Originally posted by: weirdichi
Wow, another Hmong (I'm 99.9% sure you're Hmong from your sig) guy on here! I understand where you're coming from exactly. It's a touchy subject, but I think things will work out. Just talk with her and be careful. It also depends on how traditional your and her family are. If your family is very traditional, then talkig with them would be outta the question because they are hard headed and like you said, they want to "save face" and not ruin the reputation. If they are non-traditional people, then I say for for it. But the first thing is to tell her how you feel. The things in life you regret are the things you don't do. At least she knows how you feel and you tried. Best of luck to you!
I think he's Hmong, from his name. I'm 99.9% sure he's Hmong.
youre right. where are you from? im in sac town.Hmmmm, i say move slow, because she is obviously just out of a bad marriage....maybe just do what the other guys already said, talk to her on the phone, maybe hang out eventually, and then see where things go, THEN tell her how you feel, don't just throw it all on her the first time you talk to her....doubt you'll have much of a chance, if any, if you did that. good luck :beer:
she looks awfully young to already have a divorce.
if you liked her that much you'd respect her and give her time and space. just make sure she knows youll be there for her because she's probably still got a lot on her mind.
if you liked her that much you'd respect her and give her time and space. just make sure she knows youll be there for her because she's probably still got a lot on her mind.
I didn't read the whole post ... I just looked at the picture. From the picture, I say she isn't worth it.
There is a wonderful Arabic story of Majnun and Lila. Majnun loves Lila but her father won't let him marry her. He spends his life wandering about calling Lila's name and singing her praises. Somebody said that Lila wasn't that hot. Majnun answered that to see Lila's beauty you needed Majnun's eyes.
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