Yet another Asian parent rant -- i shall remain calm she will not get to me

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: PHiuR
wow, im 100% chinese and my parents are fcking awesome... i love them sooo much.... they give me so much freedom sometimes i feel i dont get enough discipline...but most of the time they let me do whatever i want...but i still respect whatever my parents tell me... such as not going out and such (but this usually never happens unless were going out as a family or something). I think i have this much freedom because both my sisters are older than me and also they are both out of college... and im in HS Junior.. i dont know.. but both my parents are pretty americanize.. and i love them!!!!!!!!!!!!

-dave...

keyword: americanized. we've been in the U.S. for almost 20 years and my parents still refuse to accept the american culture. "omfg, he's black! stay away from him!!"

my parents do that too, but i'm cool with them. that really has no impact on my relationship with them. and i'm fine if they don't accept all aspects of the american culture. so what? i don't think american culture is all that great anyways.

 

[anaxo]

I can really relate erikiksaz - weird thing is that my parents exemplify both extremes. My dad is really liberal and my mom's strict as all heck. Can never argue with her, and she's prejudiced besides.

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

 

[anaxo]

Originally posted by: rufruf44
Whose parents doesn't want their kids to suceeds? Asian parents want to ensure that their kids be sucessfull in life and they're doing the most common thing for them to do, push the kids to get good grades, get good education, degree and job. In some cases they become too extreme and their children suffers subsequently.

Exactly! Asian parents as a general rule push their kids to excel in academics. Sometimes it goes to the point where the kid could be a Westinghouse winner and still feel like a failure. It's worse if the kid's the first one, or if they're smart but not the type who can pull off a 4.0+ for all of highschool.

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: PHiuR
wow, im 100% chinese and my parents are fcking awesome... i love them sooo much.... they give me so much freedom sometimes i feel i dont get enough discipline...but most of the time they let me do whatever i want...but i still respect whatever my parents tell me... such as not going out and such (but this usually never happens unless were going out as a family or something). I think i have this much freedom because both my sisters are older than me and also they are both out of college... and im in HS Junior.. i dont know.. but both my parents are pretty americanize.. and i love them!!!!!!!!!!!!

-dave...

keyword: americanized. we've been in the U.S. for almost 20 years and my parents still refuse to accept the american culture. "omfg, he's black! stay away from him!!"

my parents do that too, but i'm cool with them. that really has no impact on my relationship with them. and i'm fine if they don't accept all aspects of the american culture. so what? i don't think american culture is all that great anyways.

whatever they do and believe has no impact on me but when they start pushing their beliefs on me is when we get into arguments. we live in a great neighborhood and our neighbor is the president of the school board. her grandson sometimes comes by but all that don't matter. why? cuz they are black. so i get yelled at everytime i try to be nice to my neighbors grandkid. "don't let him in the house, he might steal stuff!"

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: anaxo

Originally posted by: rufruf44
Whose parents doesn't want their kids to suceeds? Asian parents want to ensure that their kids be sucessfull in life and they're doing the most common thing for them to do, push the kids to get good grades, get good education, degree and job. In some cases they become too extreme and their children suffers subsequently.

Exactly! Asian parents as a general rule push their kids to excel in academics. Sometimes it goes to the point where the kid could be a Westinghouse winner and still feel like a failure. It's worse if the kid's the first one, or if they're smart but not the type who can pull off a 4.0+ for all of highschool.

it's good to push your kids but it's bad when all they can do is b*tch if you don't live up to their expectations. a lot of asian parents forget it's also necessary to give positive motivation and reinforcement if your kid is doing well. the only real positive thing i've learned from my parents in the 22 year of my life is how not to treat my kids when i have em.

 

[gopunk]

whatever they do and believe has no impact on me but when they start pushing their beliefs on me is when we get into arguments. we live in a great neighborhood and our neighbor is the president of the school board. her grandson sometimes comes by but all that don't matter. why? cuz they are black. so i get yelled at everytime i try to be nice to my neighbors grandkid. "don't let him in the house, he might steal stuff!"

this would be your parents' house?

aha, got you didn't i 😉

 

[nyeturo989]

Don't fret... asians will be asians.

Asians own the world...

 

[crystal]

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

Just because they treat you as their baby and cramp your living style, you yell "abuse". If you don't like, cut them off and move you.

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: crystal

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

Just because they treat you as their baby and cramp your living style, you yell "abuse". If you don't like, cut them off and move you.

Uh like i said before, if you don't even remotely understand, please STFU. Thanks.

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: gopunk

whatever they do and believe has no impact on me but when they start pushing their beliefs on me is when we get into arguments. we live in a great neighborhood and our neighbor is the president of the school board. her grandson sometimes comes by but all that don't matter. why? cuz they are black. so i get yelled at everytime i try to be nice to my neighbors grandkid. "don't let him in the house, he might steal stuff!"

this would be your parents' house?

aha, got you didn't i 😉

eh? 😛

 

[OulOat]

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

Lol, why don't you leave then? You think I had it easy? My dad used to whip me with his belt when I really pissed him off. Do I hate him? Nope, I realized that after doing shitty in school that he was right after all. Maybe a tad too violent in his expression, but he (and my mom) were just looking out for me.

 

[Hoeboy]

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

Lol, why don't you leave then? You think I had it easy? My dad used to whip me with his belt when I really pissed him off. Do I hate him? Nope, I realized that after doing shitty in school that he was right after all. Maybe a tad too violent in his expression, but he (and my mom) were just looking out for me.

right so he whipped you and it's ok? maybe his physical abuse did f*ck up your logic. besides there's a difference between you being punished because you chose to rebel and someone else being punished because they didn't perform high enough to the parents expectations.

 

[rh71]

Us asians in this generation are doing our best not to be the same way when we become parents... but most (more than half) of what they say is true and they only have the best intentions. They don't mean to be a PITA purposely... maybe. 😉

 

[Ime]

My asian wife has told me our kids can't date until they are 25... and I am like "WTF?".

It'll be an interesting few decades, to be sure!

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: rh71
Us asians in this generation are doing our best not to be the same way when we become parents... but most (more than half) of what they say is true and they only have the best intentions. They don't mean to be a PITA purposely... maybe. 😉

i just hope my children will be as good as i was 😀

 

[OulOat]

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: Hoeboy

Originally posted by: OulOat

Originally posted by: wyvrn
This is NOT a substitute for being treated like children. If you have not experienced it, stfu!

Originally posted by: Greyd
The majority of the asian parents I've seen work their butts off to provide for their families. They also tend to give more materially to their children (cars, tuition,spending money) compared to other parents I've seen. Stop complaining - unless you provide totally for yourself and don't live at home. Alot of kids don't realize how much their parents gave up and how much they continue to give up.

Psh, until you have paid them back fully for what it costed them to raise you, they still own you and can do whatever they want.

with your logic, i guess it's okay for the parents who abuse their kids AS LONG as they provide a shelter over their head right? f*cken dumbass.

Lol, why don't you leave then? You think I had it easy? My dad used to whip me with his belt when I really pissed him off. Do I hate him? Nope, I realized that after doing shitty in school that he was right after all. Maybe a tad too violent in his expression, but he (and my mom) were just looking out for me.

right so he whipped you and it's ok? maybe his physical abuse did f*ck up your logic. besides there's a difference between you being punished because you chose to rebel and someone else being punished because they didn't perform high enough to the parents expectations.

Lol, I never said I was rebelling. I began doing bad, B's, in classes during highschool, mostly because I was trying to cool crowd. It just got worse over the years, grades dropped and I hated my parents. But, after shaping up last semester and getting a 3.5 out of 4, I realized how much I screwed my future over just because I didn't take college seriously. It's obvious to me now that my dad resorted to violence out of frustration, since I wasn't listening to him. Well, since you obviously don't like your parents, why don't you pack up your stuff and leave, instead of complaining to the strangers far far away? I'm sure you could find a way to survive in the world, but it won't be as easy as someone else bringing home the paycheck.

 

[OulOat]

Originally posted by: erikiksaz

Mom : ARE YOU GOING TO SLEEP YET?! IF YOU'RE LIVING IN THIS HOUSE, YOU WILL LISTEN TO ME. IF YOU DON'T, PACK UP YOUR CLOTHES AND GET OUT NOW!
Me : Whatever ma.

You should have left. Then she will have to make a decision: listen to her son, or disown her own flesh and blood. Either way it's better for you.

 

[ProviaFan]

You might dismiss my points because I'm not Asian (rather, I have Swiss ancestors), but my parents are ultra-conservative, and I have gone through a lot of the same stuff. My mom has "periods" (no pun intended, and don't take it literally) that she goes through where she gets very insistent (as did the original poster's mom) about me getting to bed on time. Usually she picks an arbitrary time, like 22:15 or something; at other times, she can be really cool about it, as long as I don't stay up all night and make an insane amount of noise or something.

I don't know if Asian kids go through this or not, but my parents also get really picky about my musical preferences. With regularity, I get "lectures" from my dad, because he sees that I don't like the same styles that he does (apparently making him think that he's a "failure" as a parent, because my opinions are not a 100% exact copy of his). My mom isn't much better about that issue. 🙁

 

[Jynx980]

11pm? thats not late at all. I have stayed up all night many times. Of course, I don't have a life either...

 

[DanTMWTMP]

i feel ur pain @ times...but i understand why they do that....most of the time they mean well....but i now listen..being 21 yrs of age now....i do whatever they ask me too..heck they raised me .... and it was their raising technique that i go to a decent school, have a good future, lived a nice life so far, etc etc....they worked their asses off for me...jsut for me and my bro.....put food on table, lived in a really nice house...i couldn't appreciate them more....i regret all the rebellious things i've done when i was a younger teen...

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
i feel ur pain @ times...but i understand why they do that....most of the time they mean well....but i now listen..being 21 yrs of age now....i do whatever they ask me too..heck they raised me .... and it was their raising technique that i go to a decent school, have a good future, lived a nice life so far, etc etc....they worked their asses off for me...jsut for me and my bro.....put food on table, lived in a really nice house...i couldn't appreciate them more....i regret all the rebellious things i've done when i was a younger teen...

WOah, now we're talking. 🙂 I'm 21 and think what you said is true. 🙂 I don't think I would have come this far without them nagging and restraining me from things I would have done to kill my future. 🙂

 

[Geekbabe]

It is a parent's job to be as annoying as possible to their teenage offspring.. if we weren't you would never get independent and leave the nest🙂

 

[PsychoAndy]

My parents seem to waver back and forth. For example, until 1:15 AM today, I haven't seen them since Thursday night and they dont seem to care. And now my mom is nagging at me to go to sleep 🙁

edit to ^^^^ post: there's a difference between regular nagging and asian parents.

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: PsychoAndy
My parents seem to waver back and forth. For example, until 1:15 AM today, I haven't seen them since Thursday night and they dont seem to care. And now my mom is nagging at me to go to sleep 🙁

GO SLEEP OR I'LL THROW YOUR PC OUT OF THE HOUSE.