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Hyperblaze

Lifer
May 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
She's always said that if I can't move in with her, if my feelings are too strong, to tell her, and she'll find another place to live. Then she denies my feelings when I tell her I care... typical girl: "Oh you don't like me!" or "Why do you like me? I'm ugly." --- ****** like that... typical girl games of course.

Should I call it off? Will it just be inhibiting me? Will it finally show her how serious I care?

translation of what she means:

that's basically her saying she's not attracted to you.

typical girl games huh? you still have a lot to learn.

I'm not going to suggest anything in what you should do. I've already given you my opinion. If you can't make a freaking decision already, then I've lost all hope for you.
 

hellokeith

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Nov 12, 2004
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Get a backbone dude.

Or would you rather wait and see how you're going to feel the first time she brings a guy over and they're making out in front of you? Yep, that will be a fine living arrangement.
 

KingGheedora

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Jun 24, 2006
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Even if you decide you will be strictly friends, having her move in with you is a bad idea. When she has a guy over you wont be happy about it. Even if she doesn't date, it will be unhealthy to live with someone you like who you aren't having relations with. It can basically only lead to bad things, and deteriorate your friendship further.

Now, cuddling with your friend while it wasn't such a great move, at least you've put a stop to it. The best thing you can do is remain friends, put any idea of getting a relationship with her out of your head, don't move in with her, do continue to hang out and be friends, do not cuddle.

Unless in the unlikely event she decides to give the relationship a shot, then its acceptable to go for that if you are willing to risk it (which apparently you are, nothing wrong with that).
 

SolMiester

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Dec 19, 2004
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OP, did you say you two have slept together as in had sex, but that you now want an emotional relationship instead of just friends and occasional F**k buddiy?

You got to realised that you dont talk a great friend into being a lover, you have to win them. If she hasnt been won after 8 yrs and you heart felt declaration, I would suggest you cool the relationship until YOU have found someone else. I wouldnt let her move in with you either. Be assertive, not a push over, girls dont like that.