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[Ozoned]

Originally posted by: weirdichi
And I'm ready for the flame-age that's going to go on.

PIC

Maybe if you had a nickname like half-horse or something like that things might have worked out.

 

[weirdichi]

Originally posted by: ntdz
You put her in a very awkward situation by telling her all this. You should never tell a girl you like her before you get to know her.

As I said, new approach to women since I was sick of trying the old approach. Live and learn.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: weirdichi

Originally posted by: Descartes
1) You're not over it if you're creating this post.
2) Just because you tell someone to be honest with you doesn't mean they will. Almost everyone says they appreciate honesty, but few really do. Who wants to hear, "I don't think you are attractive and I have no interest in you whatsoever"? No one. Would you rather she say, "I just like you as a friend" or some other such nonsense? She opted to take the non-confrontational route like many would.
3) Get used to it and adapt my friend.
4) Good luck

As I said to my other friend, I'd rather she hit me in the face directly with the blunt and honest truth rather than carve me slowly with pitiful "hints" and let me bleed.

but how do you know she didn't like you at the time you "put everything on the table".
Maybe she had no opinion, until you called her every other day.

 

[weirdichi]

Originally posted by: cheapgoose

Originally posted by: weirdichi

Originally posted by: Descartes
1) You're not over it if you're creating this post.
2) Just because you tell someone to be honest with you doesn't mean they will. Almost everyone says they appreciate honesty, but few really do. Who wants to hear, "I don't think you are attractive and I have no interest in you whatsoever"? No one. Would you rather she say, "I just like you as a friend" or some other such nonsense? She opted to take the non-confrontational route like many would.
3) Get used to it and adapt my friend.
4) Good luck

As I said to my other friend, I'd rather she hit me in the face directly with the blunt and honest truth rather than carve me slowly with pitiful "hints" and let me bleed.

but how do you know she didn't like you at the time you "put everything on the table".
Maybe she had no opinion, until you called her every other day.

I didn't know. That's why I laid it out on the table. If she didn't like me and would've just told me that when I said it, then I would've been embrassed, dealt with it, moved on, and we wouldn't be having this conversation.

 

[shilala]

It's better you found out that she can't be honest now, rather than find out after you've invested a lot of time in the relationship.
Women don't call what she did "lying", by the way. They call it a way of life. That's a sweeping generalization, but it's my experience.
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs, ya know?
So far as "getting over it" goes, I find that when I can' get past something, it's because my ego is bruised. That's true 100% of the time.
Keep looking for a woman that's worthy of honesty, and cherishes honesty enough to give it back. They're out there. Just a bit tough to find.

 

[weirdichi]

Originally posted by: shilala
It's better you found out that she can't be honest now, rather than find out after you've invested a lot of time in the relationship.
Women don't call what she did "lying", by the way. They call it a way of life. That's a sweeping generalization, but it's my experience.
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs, ya know?
So far as "getting over it" goes, I find that when I can' get past something, it's because my ego is bruised. That's true 100% of the time.
Keep looking for a woman that's worthy of honesty, and cherishes honesty enough to give it back. They're out there. Just a bit tough to find.

Yeah, I know. The search continues! After tonight, I shall never speak of this situation again.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: weirdichi

Originally posted by: cheapgoose

Originally posted by: weirdichi

Originally posted by: Descartes
1) You're not over it if you're creating this post.
2) Just because you tell someone to be honest with you doesn't mean they will. Almost everyone says they appreciate honesty, but few really do. Who wants to hear, "I don't think you are attractive and I have no interest in you whatsoever"? No one. Would you rather she say, "I just like you as a friend" or some other such nonsense? She opted to take the non-confrontational route like many would.
3) Get used to it and adapt my friend.
4) Good luck

As I said to my other friend, I'd rather she hit me in the face directly with the blunt and honest truth rather than carve me slowly with pitiful "hints" and let me bleed.

but how do you know she didn't like you at the time you "put everything on the table".
Maybe she had no opinion, until you called her every other day.

I didn't know. That's why I laid it out on the table. If she didn't like me and would've just told me that when I said it, then I would've been embrassed, dealt with it, moved on, and we wouldn't be having this conversation.

but that's the thing. what if she had no opinion, she's not going to say she dislike you if she doesn't. maybe she was boarderline and wanted to see what happens after the holidays. your phone calls made her dislike you.

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: weirdichi

Originally posted by: shilala
It's better you found out that she can't be honest now, rather than find out after you've invested a lot of time in the relationship.
Women don't call what she did "lying", by the way. They call it a way of life. That's a sweeping generalization, but it's my experience.
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs, ya know?
So far as "getting over it" goes, I find that when I can' get past something, it's because my ego is bruised. That's true 100% of the time.
Keep looking for a woman that's worthy of honesty, and cherishes honesty enough to give it back. They're out there. Just a bit tough to find.

Yeah, I know. The search continues! After tonight, I shall never speak of this situation again.

Maybe you can take solace from the "live and learn" thing?
I think you did right by coming at her with honesty. If you catch a woman by "playing the game", you're gonna catch what you fished for, ya know?
You have a far better chance of catching an honest chick with honesty than with lies, cause she's gonna dig what you're layin down.
You may still snag a lying slut, but they taste good, and offer a pleasant diversion.
Sooner or later it all works out. Keep fightin the good fight.
Good luck, brother!!!

 

[Yossarian]

For extra credit, describe how you felt after leaving the 12th unreturned message for her. Please use complete sentences.

 

[James3shin]

wow, YAGT make great stories.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: shilala
It's better you found out that she can't be honest now, rather than find out after you've invested a lot of time in the relationship.
Women don't call what she did "lying", by the way. They call it a way of life. That's a sweeping generalization, but it's my experience.
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs, ya know?
So far as "getting over it" goes, I find that when I can' get past something, it's because my ego is bruised. That's true 100% of the time.
Keep looking for a woman that's worthy of honesty, and cherishes honesty enough to give it back. They're out there. Just a bit tough to find.

So we know for a fact that, before the 3-4 weeks of calling, the girl had no interest what so ever?

 

[AreaCode707]

Right now, she's having this conversation with a friend:

"This weird guy cornered me at a party and told me he really liked me. I've never even really talked to the guy! And then he goes on and on about how he's an up front type of guy and he likes honesty and he can take rejection etc. I'm just nodding and trying desperately to get away. I mean seriously, if you can't be smooth about it, don't even try. And now he keeps calling me! You'd think after the first couple of calls he'd have taken the hint, not to mention the fact that I practically ran away from him at the party."

 

[OS]

you have only one option in life now, suicide bomb her house.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Right now, she's having this conversation with a friend:

"This weird guy cornered me at a party and told me he really liked me. I've never even really talked to the guy! And then he goes on and on about how he's an up front type of guy and he likes honesty and he can take rejection etc. I'm just nodding and trying desperately to get away. I mean seriously, if you can't be smooth about it, don't even try. And now he keeps calling me! You'd think after the first couple of calls he'd have taken the hint, not to mention the fact that I practically ran away from him at the party."

SHENS!

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Right now, she's having this conversation with a friend:

"This weird guy cornered me at a party and told me he really liked me. I've never even really talked to the guy! And then he goes on and on about how he's an up front type of guy and he likes honesty and he can take rejection etc. I'm just nodding and trying desperately to get away. I mean seriously, if you can't be smooth about it, don't even try. And now he keeps calling me! You'd think after the first couple of calls he'd have taken the hint, not to mention the fact that I practically ran away from him at the party."

God, how I do not miss shopping in that age bracket.

 

[JulesMaximus]

So, she ignored you for 3-4 weeks and you took that as a sign of interest? Give it up after a couple calls at most.

You're just whining. You have nothing invested in this...um...complete lack of a relationship so you have nothing to be pissed about. In all honestly, she probably just got creeped out by you staring at her boobs everytime she was around you.

 

[weirdichi]

Hahahaha! Thanks for all the replies. Made me laugh.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: weirdichi
Hahahaha! Thanks for all the replies. Made me laugh.

:beer:

hey, next time just wipe it out. If she gets on her kn....... j/k.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

I think you really need to change your mindset about girls. I used to get pissed off at girls just like you did, and then I realized I cared way too much. I dropped the scarcity mentality I had with women. Women are merely toys for our sexual pleasure, as soon as you start viewing them as more than that you are in trouble.

 

[James3shin]

bahahahahha some of the advice on here is hillarious.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: spidey07
In all honesty this is going to happen many more times. Get used to it. She just wasn't into you.

BINGO.

OP, I have done the same before. Nothing you can do about it. You shouldn't be pissed though. If you really liked the girl, you can just let her go. Girls play mind games sometimes without knowing it (that is part of life). It is her loss anyways because if you are an upstanding guy, any girl that you get with will be very lucky. Good luck to you sir

 

[91TTZ]

This is just pathetic.

Why is there even a post about this? It sounds so straightforward, I don't know where the confusion is.

1. You tell a girl you like her.
2. She ignores you. Totally.
3. You continue to call her 3x a week for 3-4 weeks. WTF?
4. You're wondering if she likes you or not?

 

[j511180]

Originally posted by: cheapgoose
she ain't cute anyway. so all good.

she's quite shiny

 

[PhlashFoto]

Next time, don't be so upfront and honest. All you need to do next time is " One, cut a hole in a box...."

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: ELopes580
Next time, don't be so upfront and honest. All you need to do next time is " One, cut a hole in a box...."

Sure not being up-front could get you the girl, but it will only lead to a relationship base on manipulation. Not necessarily what I or probably the OP wants. It is definitely good to have some finesse about the situation, but if the girl is not interested, she just isn't -- don't be mad. Take the hurt, accept it, and move on with your life. Don't be an ass to the girl, she just wasn't interested, and she was afraid to lead you on or hurt your feelings (even though by not being upfront she kind of did). It is how some girls operate. It is sad that things couldn't be more ideal, but the best thing is to move on and let the girl move on. Good luck to you OP.