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Saysys

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I?m a Christian, she?s a Christian.
I go to church, she doesn?t.
I?m going on a 2 month missionary trip She went on a 2 month European vacation

I?m a romantic and attentive person; she?s used to being treated like crap

I want to wait t?ll marriage for sex, she?d ?rather not?

3 months we?ve been together, we?re eminently compatible; what should i/we/she do?
 
try to come to a compromise, if that doesnt work find someone else

my hat is off to you sticking to your beliefs
 
1) at least you're both christian
2) who cares if she doesn't want to go to church
3) nil

4) shes used to being treated like crap, but now she won't be 🙂

5) Wait for marriage, since thats what YOU have always wanted
6) Work for it, opposites attract

good luck 🙂
 
all i can say is sometimes the exact opposites attact.
You should know deep down if you can accept her for who she is and vice versa.
It will take time and a lot of growing, but if you really feel something in your heart, you will know and gladly experience that process together.
 
Originally posted by: notfred
She sounds like a lot more fun than you.

Sex in Europe > Celibate mission trip.
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The OP sounds more mature and selfless than her, for the same reasons.
 
non church-goes are a quick convincing away from not even being religious.

doesnt look like youre *that* compatible.

btw, how many YAGTs do we get where the chick doesnt want to wait, and the guy does?
 
Originally posted by: Saysys
I?m a Christian, she?s a Christian.
I go to church, she doesn?t.
I?m going on a 2 month missionary trip She went on a 2 month European vacation

I?m a romantic and attentive person; she?s used to being treated like crap

I want to wait t?ll marriage for sex, she?d ?rather not?

3 months we?ve been together, we?re eminently compatible; what should i/we/she do?
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What makes her a Christian?

Doesn't go to church, something that Christians should have a deep desire to do.
Doesn't believe in waiting till marriage, something Christians should also have a deep desire for.

I could care less about her going on a trip to Europe.
 
Be patient. Everyone has their trying times in life, and it looks like your girlfriend has had that. That's not always an easy thing to get over, but it's much easier with someone there to help them.

As for the sex part, good for you. Let her know how important it is to you, and how important she is to you. Hopefully, after that, she'll understand and she'll be willing to honor your request. If not, you've got to stick with your values. She may or may not be "the one." If you have to betray who and what you are to become something else for someone else, then chances are, she's not "the one."

Keep the faith. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: jagec
Originally posted by: notfred
She sounds like a lot more fun than you.

Sex in Europe > Celibate mission trip.
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The OP sounds more mature and selfless than her, for the same reasons.
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And yet, she sounds more like a complete human being.
 
Originally posted by: Rayden
What makes her a Christian?

Doesn't go to church, something that Christians should have a deep desire to do.
Doesn't believe in waiting till marriage, something Christians should also have a deep desire for.
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I spent 6 or so years not going to church, I needed to repent and restore my fellowship with God. She?s spiritually growing, this is true, but we both have faith in Christ.

But your right, you never know if someone's faith is intellectual assent, like i believe in Abraham Lincoln having existed or if it's saving faith, putting your trust in Jesus alone for salvation.

Romans 10: 8-10
"But what does it say? "The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,"that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."

Be patient. Everyone has their trying times in life, and it looks like your girlfriend has had that. That's not always an easy thing to get over, but it's much easier with someone there to help them.

As for the sex part, good for you. Let her know how important it is to you, and how important she is to you. Hopefully, after that, she'll understand and she'll be willing to honor your request. If not, you've got to stick with your values. She may or may not be "the one." If you have to betray who and what you are to become something else for someone else, then chances are, she's not "the one."
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thank you, I started this thread thinking that, but i needed someone to confirm it for me.
 
Originally posted by: Saysys

Originally posted by: Rayden
What makes her a Christian?

Doesn't go to church, something that Christians should have a deep desire to do.
Doesn't believe in waiting till marriage, something Christians should also have a deep desire for.
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I spent 6 or so years not going to church, I needed to repent and restore my fellowship with God. She?s spiritually growing, this is true, but we both have faith in Christ.

But your right, you never know if someone's faith is intellectual assent, like i believe in Abraham Lincoln having existed or if it's saving faith, putting your trust in Jesus alone for salvation.

Romans 10: 8-10
"But what does it say? "The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,"that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."
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Sometimes I find it hard to believe that people actually believe this stuff.
 
Intellectual assent for things in the Bible is a silly concept. Believing in the burning bush, Jesus rising from the grave, the miracle of loaves and fishes, turning water into wine, etc. cannot be believed EXCEPT on a faith basis. On an intellectual basis it makes no sense.

Someone may lie and say they believe... but either they have faith and believe, or they don't have faith and don't believe. There's no middle ground.
 
Originally posted by: kmrivers
Originally posted by: Saysys

Originally posted by: Rayden
What makes her a Christian?

Doesn't go to church, something that Christians should have a deep desire to do.
Doesn't believe in waiting till marriage, something Christians should also have a deep desire for.
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I spent 6 or so years not going to church, I needed to repent and restore my fellowship with God. She?s spiritually growing, this is true, but we both have faith in Christ.

But your right, you never know if someone's faith is intellectual assent, like i believe in Abraham Lincoln having existed or if it's saving faith, putting your trust in Jesus alone for salvation.

Romans 10: 8-10
"But what does it say? "The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,"that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."
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Because your right, there should be a desire to go to church and do good for the poor and help those who can't help themselves.
But that comes because you can appreciate that you did nothing for your salvation. Sometimes people have a lot of.. life.. to live through before they get to 'church goer' status ;-)

Sometimes I find it hard to believe that people actually believe this stuff.
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Seems to easy?

Because your right, there should be a desire to go to church and do good for the poor and help those who can't help themselves.

But that comes because you can appreciate that you did nothing for your salvation. Sometimes people have a lot of.. life.. to live through before they get to 'church goer' status ;-)

or because rezin' from the dead usually brings brain-eating desires along with it? 😛
 
If you're going to be a hardcore religionist for the rest of your life and she's just a Church-on-Sundays type, there will be problems. She won't be nearly as dedicated as you and might even be a **gasp**agnostic, but not ready to admit it to herself or others.

Personally, I say ditch the Christianity and follow the Flying Spaghetti Monster. Our Heaven has a stripper factory and beer volcano... but that's just me. 🙂
 
Break up with her dude. No joke, you don't want to be unequally yoked. Seriously, that sucks. If being in that relationship is going to cause you to stray to the right or to the left, get out of it. Nothing should come between you and your relationship with Jesus.

I'm dead serious when I say that, you'll only end up realizing that it never pays to stray in the long run. There are a lot of people from the world who are going to tell you otherwise, but really man, store up your treasures in heaven. You do that by being obedient to the Lord, and doing the will of the Father. You can be friends with this chick, but I would stop there. No sense in putting yourself in situations that are going to cause you to stumble. Lust is a powerful trap. It will lie dormant for a long time, then it just takes a little tiny bit of water for that seed to grow again, and if you want to wait until you're married to have sex, and she would rather not, I can tell you right now, one of two things are going to happen. 1 - you'll end up having sex, and you'll fall away from the Lord because you'll be living in rebellion, or 2 - You guys will date for a while, and she'll break up with you or cheat on you because she isn't ready for this type of relationship yet.

Pray about this though. And read Proverbs 5 and 7.

/flame on
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
all i can say is sometimes the exact opposites attact.
You should know deep down if you can accept her for who she is and vice versa.
It will take time and a lot of growing, but if you really feel something in your heart, you will know and gladly experience that process together.
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That is horrible advice in this situation. Serioulsy, the bible says that a friend of the world is an enemy of God. This guy certainly sounds like a God fearing Christian, so like, really man, look to James. And like, think about this too, how dearly do you hold to your heart? Like, not about falling in love with someone, but like, about your very heart, your inner man, the part of you that overflows and causes your mouth to speak. Because you should hold that very dear to you can keep that as free from contamination as possible. I can't stress enough how easy it is to let your flesh think for a bit, and to rationalize something small, to allow something big to happen later.

You're never going to intentionally go out and commit a sin that is obvious at first, like, you're going to go out and comprimise your morals first, and you'll start to comprimise more and more as time passes, until the point to where you realize how far you've strayed. And you'll feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit on you. Seriously, you're always either moving forward or moving backwards on your journey with God, you're never at a stand still, and if you think you are, you need to look at what's holding you back from reaching that next level.
 
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