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eakers

Lifer
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why not say "Hey, do you want to hang out on (insert date here)?" then when she says "yes" say "Okay, what would you like to do?" if she says nothing then suggest a few things (movies, mini-golf, rollerblading/biking, going to the petting zoo :p) and see what she is comfortable with.

 

TGS

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May 3, 2005
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Ok, I started with a nice safe bowling date with the women who later became my wife...so... ;)

FYI, Adults call "Doing it", sex. And regardless of what you think the marquee says, it's called the movies. Just start with a friendly open date, bowling, skating, amusement parks are all good stuff. Even if you can't think of something immediate you can always focus the attention on what activities you are doing. Also if you go bowling, watch out for the line or you will slip like I did. Though I did throw a strike on that slip, so I cold play it off better. :laugh:
 

timosyy

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Originally posted by: eakers
why not say "Hey, do you want to hang out on (insert date here)?" then when she says "yes" say "Okay, what would you like to do?" if she says nothing then suggest a few things (movies, mini-golf, rollerblading/biking, going to the petting zoo :p) and see what she is comfortable with.

I think it'd be better to take charge imo. Instead of going for the cop-out ("okay, what would you like to do?"). Better to just be like "Hey you wanna hang out (insert random date)?". And after she says yes, followup with "I was thinking about ______".
 

Vegitto

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May 3, 2005
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Wow, thanks :). I'll just ask if she wants to do stuff (we always play games, online), and I'll what I can think up then :p. First, I need to save up some dough, though :(.
 

Vegitto

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May 3, 2005
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Okay, first off, what we reached in the past two threads.
-I'm 15, in highschool. She's 16, in same highschool. I'm having some family troubles (read previously). I like her a lot, we kinda connect, have EXACTLY the same interests. I think she's hot.
She's the one on the right.
This is me (I suck at pictures).

Okay, so you guys told me to ask her out. Watch a movie, go to the cinema, go to a bar, drink some coffee, whatever. Clue to last night:
Me (after we played an online game): We should do something together sometime.
Her: Really? We should?
Her: Why?
Me: Just because.
Her: Why do you want to do stuff with me instead of *InsertNameOfOtherFriendHere*?
Me: I dunno. Not everything has a reason.
Her: Yes it does.
Me: So, you wanna do something sometime?
Her: We'll see. :p

Okay, so what does she mean, and what should I do next? I really suck at this, but I want it to work. At the very least I don't want her to hate me.

Help?
 

JDrake

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Dec 27, 2005
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sounds like she might wanted you to have come clean with your intentions without coming clean herself !
 

sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.
 

Vegitto

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May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.
 

sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.
 

Vegitto

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May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.

Okay, name something meaningful, then. I'll ask her to go out with me next weekend.
 

sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.

Okay, name something meaningful, then. I'll ask her to go out with me next weekend.

some good movie, some kickass concert, or just about anything... bowling, baseball game, charity event... whatever. just don't ask her to go to the mall because you want to check out the xbox360 or something.
 

Vegitto

Diamond Member
May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.

Okay, name something meaningful, then. I'll ask her to go out with me next weekend.

some good movie, some kickass concert, or just about anything... bowling, baseball game, charity event... whatever. just don't ask her to go to the mall because you want to check out the xbox360 or something.

Movie: Too far away.
Concert: Too far away, too expensive.
Bowling: Too expensive.
Baseball game: Haven't got that here.
Charity event: LOL! :p Nevar!

Something to do at home, perhaps? :(
 

sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.

Okay, name something meaningful, then. I'll ask her to go out with me next weekend.

some good movie, some kickass concert, or just about anything... bowling, baseball game, charity event... whatever. just don't ask her to go to the mall because you want to check out the xbox360 or something.

Movie: Too far away.
Concert: Too far away, too expensive.
Bowling: Too expensive.
Baseball game: Haven't got that here.
Charity event: LOL! :p Nevar!

Something to do at home, perhaps? :(

that would be the last thing i would do... face it, you need to spend some money to get the girls. i'd go for some sports that she might enjoy. i still like bowling, but swimming, tennis, bedminton are not bad choices either. maybe mini golf?
 

Vegitto

Diamond Member
May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
ummm it should have been like

you: hey (name), i got free tickets to (insert movie or sports event, concert and show), wanna go watch it this saturday?
her: sure! ---or--- im not really that big of a tom cruise fan...
you: great! ---or--- yeah me neither. he's kinda nuts lately. but its so nice out this saturday... wanna go bowling?
her: sure! ---or--- nah i think i'll stay at home

so by now, either you got a date, or you can ask her again on a special occasion.

But that wasn't what I did. I did what I said, and now I need to fix it again.

well you can get a time machine and go back in time and do something different

but don't sweat it. seems like she's just messing with you. chances are, go ask her out on something meaningful, she'll go out with you.

Okay, name something meaningful, then. I'll ask her to go out with me next weekend.

some good movie, some kickass concert, or just about anything... bowling, baseball game, charity event... whatever. just don't ask her to go to the mall because you want to check out the xbox360 or something.

Movie: Too far away.
Concert: Too far away, too expensive.
Bowling: Too expensive.
Baseball game: Haven't got that here.
Charity event: LOL! :p Nevar!

Something to do at home, perhaps? :(

that would be the last thing i would do... face it, you need to spend some money to get the girls. i'd go for some sports that she might enjoy. i still like bowling, but swimming, tennis, bedminton are not bad choices either. maybe mini golf?

I wouldn't mind spending money on her, but you have to have money to spend it ;).
 

Vegitto

Diamond Member
May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: joedrake
save up money, then
bowling isn't really that expensive

It is here. ?20 an hour, that doesn't include renting the shoes and drinks. Also, an hour is kind of short, and I don't really wanna spend ~?80 on a first date. ?80 is what I get in like, 6 months.
 

sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: joedrake
save up money, then
bowling isn't really that expensive

It is here. ?20 an hour, that doesn't include renting the shoes and drinks. Also, an hour is kind of short, and I don't really wanna spend ~?80 on a first date. ?80 is what I get in like, 6 months.

well. time to take apart your opteron rig!

but it does seem expensive. bowling at this ghetto alley was like $8 per person last time i went there. of course, the shoes are old, the balls are old, and people don't even wash their hands after they came out of the bathroom. but hey, i think it's a fun group activity,
 

Vegitto

Diamond Member
May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: joedrake
save up money, then
bowling isn't really that expensive

It is here. ?20 an hour, that doesn't include renting the shoes and drinks. Also, an hour is kind of short, and I don't really wanna spend ~?80 on a first date. ?80 is what I get in like, 6 months.

well. time to take apart your opteron rig!

but it does seem expensive. bowling at this ghetto alley was like $8 per person last time i went there. of course, the shoes are old, the balls are old, and people don't even wash their hands after they came out of the bathroom. but hey, i think it's a fun group activity,

Well, my Opteron rig'll come apart around September, but that's only because I'll go Conroe.

I really wanna make money, but I can't get a job until vacation. I work 45h a week for 10 weeks in my vacation.

Can't drive, here, you can't drive until you're 18.
 

eminemrh25

Golden Member
Feb 21, 2005
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Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: joedrake
save up money, then
bowling isn't really that expensive

It is here. ?20 an hour, that doesn't include renting the shoes and drinks. Also, an hour is kind of short, and I don't really wanna spend ~?80 on a first date. ?80 is what I get in like, 6 months.

well. time to take apart your opteron rig!

but it does seem expensive. bowling at this ghetto alley was like $8 per person last time i went there. of course, the shoes are old, the balls are old, and people don't even wash their hands after they came out of the bathroom. but hey, i think it's a fun group activity,

Well, my Opteron rig'll come apart around September, but that's only because I'll go Conroe.

I really wanna make money, but I can't get a job until vacation. I work 45h a week for 10 weeks in my vacation.

Can't drive, here, you can't drive until you're 18.
Have you never heard of driving without your license? Quit being a fvcking pussy, and take a damn car. If you don't suck at driving, then you have nothing to worry about it... I did that for about 7 months before I got my license
 

Vegitto

Diamond Member
May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: eminemrh25
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: Vegitto
Originally posted by: joedrake
save up money, then
bowling isn't really that expensive

It is here. ?20 an hour, that doesn't include renting the shoes and drinks. Also, an hour is kind of short, and I don't really wanna spend ~?80 on a first date. ?80 is what I get in like, 6 months.

well. time to take apart your opteron rig!

but it does seem expensive. bowling at this ghetto alley was like $8 per person last time i went there. of course, the shoes are old, the balls are old, and people don't even wash their hands after they came out of the bathroom. but hey, i think it's a fun group activity,

Well, my Opteron rig'll come apart around September, but that's only because I'll go Conroe.

I really wanna make money, but I can't get a job until vacation. I work 45h a week for 10 weeks in my vacation.

Can't drive, here, you can't drive until you're 18.
Have you never heard of driving without your license? Quit being a fvcking pussy, and take a damn car. If you don't suck at driving, then you have nothing to worry about it... I did that for about 7 months before I got my license

Yes, I can drive. But I won't risk getting pulled over and getting arrested just to ride a damn car to a goddamned beach.
 

Crazee

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Seems pretty obvious to me that she wants you to admit you like her and tell her why. You didn't have the sack to tell her so that was a turn off right there. Just tell her why you like her and that you want to spend time with her, if she feels the same she will say yes, if she doesn't she will say no. It's pretty simple, quit overthinking it and grow a sack.

I swear about 99% of these YAGT threads come down to guys who just won't say what's on their mind. If the girl likes you then it will be a turn on for them that you are interested and man enough to express it. If she doesn't like you then you will know and can move on to another girl.
 

Vegitto

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May 3, 2005
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Originally posted by: Crazee
Seems pretty obvious to me that she wants you to admit you like her and tell her why. You didn't have the sack to tell her so that was a turn off right there. Just tell her why you like her and that you want to spend time with her, if she feels the same she will say yes, if she doesn't she will say no. It's pretty simple, quit overthinking it and grow a sack.

I swear about 99% of these YAGT threads come down to guys who just won't say what's on their mind. If the girl likes you then it will be a turn on for them that you are interested and man enough to express it. If she doesn't like you then you will know and can move on to another girl.

Really? Okay, I'll just tell her :p.
 

dawnbug

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Oct 29, 2002
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Originally posted by: Crazee
Seems pretty obvious to me that she wants you to admit you like her and tell her why. You didn't have the sack to tell her so that was a turn off right there. Just tell her why you like her and that you want to spend time with her, if she feels the same she will say yes, if she doesn't she will say no. It's pretty simple, quit overthinking it and grow a sack.

I swear about 99% of these YAGT threads come down to guys who just won't say what's on their mind. If the girl likes you then it will be a turn on for them that you are interested and man enough to express it. If she doesn't like you then you will know and can move on to another girl.


I agree that that's what she was looking for when she asked what your reasoning was. Tell her that you like her and why. Then do something fun, whatever it may be. You guys could go to a nearby park and have a picnic or something or go for a walk. The movie idea at your house isn't too bad if there's nothing else to do, also.

Good luck! :)