Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
Don't HOPE. Go make it happen. Very discreetly ask your supervisor if you can have your break the same time she has hers and do this with conviction/confidence.
They don't need to know your reasons; most won't care.
Btw, have you heard of the Ladder Theory? I think you need to read it:
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If you want to avoid all the BS and mental anguish you're about put yourself through (I used to do this to myself too), when you do get a date with her, be upfront and lay your cards on the table.
Tell her you have no interest whatsoever in becoming only friends. If she seems interesting or is interested in you (about 15-20 minutes into the date, ask your gut--it's seldom wrong), give her some compliments--mix it up a little, don't just talk about her looks. At the end of the date, if you had a good time, tell her that.
Btw, a lot of that stuff about women liking sensitive guys is
absolute BS. They want a sensitive guy when they're not out banging the outlaw biker (borrowed from the Ladder Theory). Women want men who are confident and charming--these two go hand-in-hand, although there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Just to cover your ass, ask her if she is attached (e.g. boyfriend, not-quite-boyfriend guy). Either way, find out and save yourself time, money, and unnecessary BS.
So in closing,
CALL HER and ask her out. Be confident, charming, open the door, pay the bill, be a gentleman, and let her know what your intentions are. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to jump her guns or rush anything. This is merely establishing groundzero so you do not spend weeks/months wasting your fvcking time--it's just not worth it.
I'm not suggesting you try this, but I have and so far it hasn't failed me:
"I am not looking to be only friends; I'm not in it to only get laid; I'm in it to find something meaningful; I'm not trying to rush anything--I just want to know where I stand."
Women respect men with the balls to say what they want because, hell, they don't know what they want so somebody's got to be the rational one, right?
I hope things go well with you, if not do not fret. The more experience you gain, the more immune you become to being turned down or disappointed. It's not a big fvcking deal. At the end of the day, you still got your health.
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