YAGT: Yup, being drunk is a good way to piss someone off

Praetor

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I feel like starting another YAGT. (Yet Another Girl Thread)

I've been dating this girl for about a month and a half now. I like her, in my book she's damn near perfect.

So we go to a New Year's Party with the couple that set us up. They're married. The night is progressing fine, I had a crap load of shots of some stuff, I'm not sure what it was, plus my own case of Smirnoff Ice that I had brought (plus someone else's 12-pack) and some beer. We're all having a grand old time.

Our friend's husband was having some fun (and being sober) reached out my gf's shirt to undo the leather strap that tied the top together. Well, being completely wasted, I reached out to his forearm to grab him off. Now, there's no way in hell I could have done anything to back up my motion and he knew it. I completely backed off. But I'm not sure where on earth that even came from. I spent the rest of the night just freaking moping and being pissed off at what I had done.

I made sure my friends made me stop drinking after that moment. They assured me that she was drunk and she would either not remember it and that she liked me enough to not worry about it.

Today, I get a call and she tells me it's over.

Alright. I told her that I liked her more than anyone else I've ever met and that it kinda scared me, and that I was drunk. It wasn't an excuse, but I never get that wasted and that was just being too drunk. I asked her not to just let it go at that, but if that's what she felt, then I wouldn't force the issue. Asked her to call me tomorrow, but she's going out. Plus she's going out with an old boyfriend of hers this Saturday that she just ran into. She has issues with the jealousy that I showed.

No biggie. When she told me she was going out with someone else this weekend, it didn't faze me. I wasn't jealous, but I didn't tell her that.

What pisses me off the most is that I screwed up. That I actually allowed myself to get that drunk. That I can't figure out where that bit of jealousy came from.

I don't know what I'm going to do other than keep going on with my life. I sincerely hope she gives me another chance, but I'm not going to bother or harrass her about it. If she wants to let it go, then I'll let it be. I won't go where I'm not wanted.

Anyway. If you've read this, thanks. I just felt like getting it out there in the world. I've talked it over with a few of my friends at work and thought it over in my head ever since that night and it's driving me nuts. Oh, and if you're going to post how much you hate these girl threads, hey, it's your right. But keep in mind that I don't crap in your threads, so please don't crap in mine. :)
 
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Sorry to hear that. She's pretty picky if she broke up with you over something like that. It happens, but here's a rule of thumb: never get $hitfaced around women you like a lot or are dating.

<-- gets $hitfaced a lot around women he likes and blows any chance he has with them
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: Shaftatplanetquake
Seems like she sucks. A little too quick to dump you if you ask me.

Perhaps it is you that sucks.? Just a thought..

<shrug> Could be. If she didn't like me or the relationship, she should've said something before IMO, instead of waiting for me to screw up like this. That's what I would've done.
 

minendo

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So where you dating a slut? She gets pissed off because your friend's husband was trying to undo her shirt. What a joke.
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boyRacer

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If you think that one incident is what made her do this... NOOOOOOOOOO it isn't. Hope it works out... whatever you do...never beg... it only makes you look like an idiot.
 

Koing

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Originally posted by: minendo
So where you dating a slut? She gets pissed off because your friend's husband was trying to undo her shirt. What a joke.
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Dam she was quick. Not all women are quite as straight forward as that Praetor, so they'll leave it until you do ANYTHING and then use that as an excuse.

I say better to leave her if shes that fickle!
 

BigJ

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Damn, you're defending her when everyone's drunk, mope all night, and then SHE gets pissed at YOU? I find something really bizarre about this, which caused me to reread what you wrote several times, thinking I missed something. You guys need to talk things out, and maybe since Xmas and New Years are over, she got her presents and wants nothing else?
 

johnjohn320

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Wait, I'm confused. She dumped you because you stopped another guy from taking off her shirt?
 

boyRacer

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Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Wait, I'm confused. She dumped you because you stopped another guy from taking off her shirt?

Exactly... i don't see the logic in that... supposedly it's called jealousy... i look at it as an alibi... for her at least. :frown:
 

BigJ

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Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Wait, I'm confused. She dumped you because you stopped another guy from taking off her shirt?

thats why i had to reread the post! i just wasnt getting why she was pissed
 

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Perhaps you got dumped not for defending her but rather for not letting it go afterwards and ruining the rest of the evening for everyone with your drunken obessing about the incident?
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: KEV1N
Her fault 100%; she was just looking for an excuse

That's what I kinda thought, but I'd like to believe the best of her. Another of my friends thinks it's because she's interested in someone else, and if she's going out with an ex-bf this weekend then...? However -

Originally posted by: minendo
So where you dating a slut? She gets pissed off because your friend's husband was trying to undo her shirt. What a joke.
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here I showed some "possessive jealousy." Honestly, what guy in this world would not take offense to some other guy starting to take off his girlfriend's shirt? Yes, I was out of line what I did. I would have just said something mean were I sober, if it would have happened at all.

Originally posted by: BoYRaCeR
If you think that one incident is what made her do this... NOOOOOOOOOO it isn't. Hope it works out... whatever you do...never beg... it only makes you look like an idiot.

I've no intention of begging. I intend to just let it drop. I don't know how I'll act around our mutual friends though. Whew.
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Perhaps you got dumped not for defending her but rather for not letting it go afterwards and ruining the rest of the evening for everyone with your drunken obessing about the incident?

Quite possibly, I'm not ruling that out. But she was at work when she called me earlier, I was at the gym working out with a co-worker, and my cell-phone was on it's last legs. I asked her if I could call her when I got home to talk further, but she nixed that idea. Plus, she's "busy" all day tomorrow. I was going to ask her about that myself, but it doesn't look like I'll have the chance.



Originally posted by: BigJ2078
Damn, you're defending her when everyone's drunk, mope all night, and then SHE gets pissed at YOU? I find something really bizarre about this, which caused me to reread what you wrote several times, thinking I missed something. You guys need to talk things out, and maybe since Xmas and New Years are over, she got her presents and wants nothing else?

The ironic thing about this is that I had yet to get the chance to give her her Christmas presents. :( About 2 hours after that incident, she passed out and started puking. After which I was the first person to make sure she was outside, holding her hair back while she puked, giving her her water and walker her around.

But like GeekBabe said, maybe she thought I was moping because of jealousy?
 

PlatinumGold

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Our friend's husband was having some fun (and being sober) reached out my gf's shirt to undo the leather strap that tied the top together. Well, being completely wasted, I reached out to his forearm to grab him off.

even if i wasn't drunk i'd do the same thing. shoot i wouldn't let someone else mess around w/ my gf (or in current situation, my wifes) clothing like that.

i don't know what your gf is pissed about.
 

lilFajita

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I don't think you deserved that reaction. It seems kind of harsh. Then again, I don't know if you are toning down exactly how rough you got with your friend. It might have scared her a little if you were violent.

The fact that she is going out with an old boyfriend might be indicative of a deeper problem. Do you think she ran into him, and then felt like she wanted some space? Just exploring...

anyway, that really sucks. :( sorry your new years was ruined. Don't feel bad about a YAGT...I think its good that you get to get it out of your system...:)
 
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Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Our friend's husband was having some fun (and being sober) reached out my gf's shirt to undo the leather strap that tied the top together. Well, being completely wasted, I reached out to his forearm to grab him off.

even if i wasn't drunk i'd do the same thing. shoot i wouldn't let someone else mess around w/ my gf (or in current situation, my wifes) clothing like that.

i don't know what your gf is pissed about.
I was about to post the same thing. Whether you've been going out for 2 months or 2 days, or even if you two were 'talking' and enjoying an evening together, he has no business trying to have 'fun' like that. Anyone touches my girlfriend's shirt for ANY reason, they get punched in the nose, especially if they are jokingly acting like they are taking it off.

Dude, you had/have no reason to be pissed at yourself.

Why do people think jealousy is a bad thing? If my girl didn't get jealous when I talked to another girl, I'd be worried.
 

Kadarin

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Hmm.. seems to me that unless there's something we don't know, none of this is your fault. Let's review:

Our friend's husband was having some fun (and being sober) reached out my gf's shirt to undo the leather strap that tied the top together. Well, being completely wasted, I reached out to his forearm to grab him off.

Your friend's husband had NO business doing that, unless ground rules were established in advance, and that's not the case here if you were upset.

Today, I get a call and she tells me it's over.

She dumped you by phone. Classy..

Asked her to call me tomorrow, but she's going out. Plus she's going out with an old boyfriend of hers this Saturday that she just ran into. She has issues with the jealousy that I showed.

Do I even need to talk about this one? If she can ditch you just like that and go out with an old boyfriend that, conveniently, "she just ran into"...
 

WinkOsmosis

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1) What's so abnormal about stopping someone from taking off your date's shirt? Shouldn't she have been pissed that you failed in stopping this guy?? I really do not understand this at all. My mind boggles.

2) Even if stopping someone from taking off your date's shirt is wrong... you were drunk. Hell, she should be even more pissed at the guy who tried to take off her shirt since he was sober.


Am I missing something?

Sounds like this girl is either stupid or using this as a reason to get rid of you so she can go out with her ex.
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: WoodchuckCharlie
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Our friend's husband was having some fun (and being sober) reached out my gf's shirt to undo the leather strap that tied the top together. Well, being completely wasted, I reached out to his forearm to grab him off.

even if i wasn't drunk i'd do the same thing. shoot i wouldn't let someone else mess around w/ my gf (or in current situation, my wifes) clothing like that.

i don't know what your gf is pissed about.
I was about to post the same thing. Whether you've been going out for 2 months or 2 days, or even if you two were 'talking' and enjoying an evening together, he has no business trying to have 'fun' like that. Anyone touches my girlfriend's shirt for ANY reason, they get punched in the nose, especially if they are jokingly acting like they are taking it off.

Dude, you had/have no reason to be pissed at yourself.

Why do people think jealousy is a bad thing? If my girl didn't get jealous when I talked to another girl, I'd be worried.

Well, thanks for the votes of confidence here. Why is jealousy a bad thing? Too much can seriously ruin a relationship. I was pissed at myself because of how I acted. I don't know where it came from and it sorta worried me.

lilfajita, I didn't really tone it down. That's pretty much how it happened. I think. Remember, I was pretty far gone. But he knew I was drunk, so that's why he just told me to cool it and left it at that.

Oi. I dunno. I was talking it over with a friend of mine (who just got enaged tonight) and she thinks I should ask our friends (the couple that went to the party with us) to talk to her about it. I don't know how hot of an idea that is, especially since it was the husband who I went off on. And I don't want to make their friendships uncomfortable. They're decent friends of mine, my gf (ex?) and his wife are now best friends, but I've known her and been friends longer than my gf. I won't ask them to take sides.

Who knows, who knows. :(
 

Yossarian

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Originally posted by: PraetorAfter which I was the first person to make sure she was outside, holding her hair back while she puked, giving her her water and walker her around.

Dude you don't just like this chick, you love her if you do that! But this situation is very screwed up, you didn't do anything wrong (except for the obsessing over nothing part).
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: Jellomancer
1) What's so abnormal about stopping someone from taking off your date's shirt? Shouldn't she have been pissed that you failed in stopping this guy??

She was drunk too and having a good time up until I did my thing.

I really do not understand this at all. My mind boggles.

You too, huh? :confused:

2) Even if stopping someone from taking off your date's shirt is wrong... you were drunk. Hell, she should be even more pissed at the guy who tried to take off her shirt since he was sober.

Yup. I'd agree with this 100%


Am I missing something?

In a word, no.

Sounds like this girl is either stupid or using this as a reason to get rid of you so she can go out with her ex.

True. But why can't people just say that "I don't like you, I like my ex better."? It makes things so much easier.

Okay, maybe I will ask my friend to intervene and get this answered for me, just so I can drop it all after that.
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: PraetorAfter which I was the first person to make sure she was outside, holding her hair back while she puked, giving her her water and walker her around.

Dude you don't just like this chick, you love her if you do that! But this situation is very screwed up, you didn't do anything wrong (except for the obsessing over nothing part).

Umm... and there's no way in hell I'd tell her that now.