Was just sitting in Anthropology 100x earlier tonight and noticed this guy looking at this girl in front of him to his right. He kept looking her up and down over and over and over... you could see that he was day dreaming about something while looking at her. Was kind of creapy, IMO.
Anyway, the class had a 10minute break and he walked up behind her and opened his mouth to say something and nothing came out. He immediately turned around and went back to his seat. He got up a second time and did the same thing again.... she didn't even notice him.
This was a real story that happened earlier tonight. I don't bring it up to ridicule the guy, but to make a suggestion to all of you shy guys out there. Gather all your balls together and actually speak to a girl. Doesn't even matter if you stutter and choke on your words (well... maybe a little) but that is the first step. Once you choke a few times, it will get more and more comfortable for you. Sort of like eating octopus, it's an aquired taste/talent. Start out with small talk and move upto more important topics (if she has a boyfriend, etc.).
Second tip, compliment her on something... not her calculator (that goes out to all you TI graphing calc. nerds.
), but something that is personal to her.... her hair, her nails, etc. but this is a bit trickier. If you start on too strong, it will seem out of place and might start get some of the creepy factor I mentioned earlier in this post. Get a repore and graduate upto compliments.
Third tip, if you want to meet girls, dress appropriately. Girls want a guy who is grown up, but not old. Don't dress in a dirty oversized "AMD FOREVER" tshirt. I'm not suggesting you wear suits, etc. as that would be going overboard. You know your style more than anyone on here... just try to dress nicely if that is the type of girls you are attracted to. If you are into skater girls, dress like a skater. If you are into preppy (sp?) girls, dress preppy. You may have to make some sacrifices in this department if you want to get noticed.
Of course, these aren't a cure all be all solution. Each person is unique... I guess if I ingrain into one thing over everything else, just be yourself (aside from the dressing sloppy part above). Girls will be much more attracted to the real you, than someone you aren't. You'll sound more natural (hopefully) and it will be easier for you.
Anyone else want to contribute?
DISCLAIMER: I'm shy with girls too and should probably take my own advice more, but this all seems like common sense to me... I'm especially ashamed about my weight (I'm slowly taking care of that.), but they way I figure it is that you can only be turned down so many times before one person bites. Certain people (girls or guys) have a certain sense and understanding/objectivity about them. They can spot the nice guys over the pretty boys who have scrabbled eggs for a personality. Again, this is all my opinion and shoudln't be taken for anything more than that...
Anyway, the class had a 10minute break and he walked up behind her and opened his mouth to say something and nothing came out. He immediately turned around and went back to his seat. He got up a second time and did the same thing again.... she didn't even notice him.
This was a real story that happened earlier tonight. I don't bring it up to ridicule the guy, but to make a suggestion to all of you shy guys out there. Gather all your balls together and actually speak to a girl. Doesn't even matter if you stutter and choke on your words (well... maybe a little) but that is the first step. Once you choke a few times, it will get more and more comfortable for you. Sort of like eating octopus, it's an aquired taste/talent. Start out with small talk and move upto more important topics (if she has a boyfriend, etc.).
Second tip, compliment her on something... not her calculator (that goes out to all you TI graphing calc. nerds.
), but something that is personal to her.... her hair, her nails, etc. but this is a bit trickier. If you start on too strong, it will seem out of place and might start get some of the creepy factor I mentioned earlier in this post. Get a repore and graduate upto compliments.Third tip, if you want to meet girls, dress appropriately. Girls want a guy who is grown up, but not old. Don't dress in a dirty oversized "AMD FOREVER" tshirt. I'm not suggesting you wear suits, etc. as that would be going overboard. You know your style more than anyone on here... just try to dress nicely if that is the type of girls you are attracted to. If you are into skater girls, dress like a skater. If you are into preppy (sp?) girls, dress preppy. You may have to make some sacrifices in this department if you want to get noticed.
Of course, these aren't a cure all be all solution. Each person is unique... I guess if I ingrain into one thing over everything else, just be yourself (aside from the dressing sloppy part above). Girls will be much more attracted to the real you, than someone you aren't. You'll sound more natural (hopefully) and it will be easier for you.
Anyone else want to contribute?
DISCLAIMER: I'm shy with girls too and should probably take my own advice more, but this all seems like common sense to me... I'm especially ashamed about my weight (I'm slowly taking care of that.
), but they way I figure it is that you can only be turned down so many times before one person bites. Certain people (girls or guys) have a certain sense and understanding/objectivity about them. They can spot the nice guys over the pretty boys who have scrabbled eggs for a personality. Again, this is all my opinion and shoudln't be taken for anything more than that...
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