Good call on the pic. It was when she was about 17.
Unfortunately my camera is still at college == all you get.
We're both in our early twenties now. Side comment the "future" thing was/is not immediate. (What tense should that be in?)
More to the point though, I'll just continue on. In my experience time deepens all relationships that do not wither, and I've sunk a good few years into this one.
Besides, even if she does go out and find some better "fish" in the sea, I'm not selfish enough to be angry at her for that. I'd like her to be happy, even if it's not with me.
I know, sounds like sappy crap, but true none the less.
:shrug:
L'chaim :beer:.
I'll hook up with chick I know at college after break.
Nothing to take your mind off of a woman like another one.
Unfortunately my camera is still at college == all you get.
We're both in our early twenties now. Side comment the "future" thing was/is not immediate. (What tense should that be in?)
More to the point though, I'll just continue on. In my experience time deepens all relationships that do not wither, and I've sunk a good few years into this one.
Besides, even if she does go out and find some better "fish" in the sea, I'm not selfish enough to be angry at her for that. I'd like her to be happy, even if it's not with me.
I know, sounds like sappy crap, but true none the less.
:shrug:
L'chaim :beer:.
I'll hook up with chick I know at college after break.
Nothing to take your mind off of a woman like another one.
I would advise against it. If you really want to give it a shot, make your intentions clear and if she gives more vague responses that keep you tied to her but don't really go anywhere, then run away fast. As others have said more bluntly than I will she wants to be with you but isn't sure if someone better is out there.
If you aren't obviously the best person out there to her, then I could only see it leading to heartbreak later on. So get a clear response out of her or get away. The whole friendship you two have should probably end if this doesn't work out, too, because it is only stringing you along and preventing you from moving on with your life.
If you aren't obviously the best person out there to her, then I could only see it leading to heartbreak later on. So get a clear response out of her or get away. The whole friendship you two have should probably end if this doesn't work out, too, because it is only stringing you along and preventing you from moving on with your life.
DrPizza
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I've been happily married to my ex-girlfriend for 17+ years. I got sick of her crap, told her off, and left. Almost a year later, she came to me, apologized and asked for another chance. Her family adored me. (who wouldn't 
) We got back together on Thanksgiving. We were married the following September. In my opinion, if you even think there's a slight chance you're ready to settle down, go for it. If you have a strong relationship that'll last (and if you managed to remain on friendly terms without either of you thinking the other is a psycho-ex, then it may apply to the two of you), then marrying relatively young has a lot of advantages.
) We got back together on Thanksgiving. We were married the following September. In my opinion, if you even think there's a slight chance you're ready to settle down, go for it. If you have a strong relationship that'll last (and if you managed to remain on friendly terms without either of you thinking the other is a psycho-ex, then it may apply to the two of you), then marrying relatively young has a lot of advantages.Bottom line. GF and I broke up a couple weeks ago for that very reason. Dated a couple months in high school, broke up, stayed friends, ended up getting serious after freshman year in college, dated for two years seriously, long-distance thing took its toll .. we decided to break up "for now." She has NEVER dated anyone but me in her life and we both think it's better for her to date other people, and if we end up getting together again great, if not, that works too. I know I personally couldn't get married to someone that has never dated anyone else, I'd always worry about the "what if."
I don't doubt this girl has feelings for you but she's in that "find herself" mode and you just have to let it happen.
Eh, I think it's necessary that people know what's out there so that they can understand how to be in a relationship. Say you end up getting married to this girl, then one day she starts wondering what else is out there. She can't just start dating other people, you either have to break up, or have her always wonder what could have been.
shortylickens
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As cute as she is I recommend stay away.
She is a trouble-maker and you dont need that. Let some other guy deal with her stuff.
She is a trouble-maker and you dont need that. Let some other guy deal with her stuff.
Typical woman - she doesn't know what's good for her. It took her mom and her sisters to wise her up to the reality.
Having said that - why did you break up in the first place? Who initiated it? Whoever did will be confronted with the same issues in the not too distant future. Unless you both have matured, then it will likely cause a lot of conflict.
Having said that - why did you break up in the first place? Who initiated it? Whoever did will be confronted with the same issues in the not too distant future. Unless you both have matured, then it will likely cause a lot of conflict.
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Send her to me.
I guarantee she will go back to you, but don't be surprised if she accidentally calls out my name while in bed.
:laugh:
zinfamous
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Oh yeah...the sad thing is (for late bloomers like her, who are also attarctive) this can drag on well into her 30's...I've seen it and it ain't pretty (hot? yes; but pretty? no...)
What do you know about her recent history since the first breakup? Why hasn't she dated? She been interested, commitment issues, just really shy? what?
Just let her do her thing for a while. It sounds like she wants you to make that decision for her. That is never good.
Shyness issues mostly, which I've never really seen in action...
As she puts it she gets "crushes." She's been interested in a few guys, more recently one of a mutual acquaintance that obviously got along well with her. And she does nothing despite multiple opportunities.
Before that she went to a movie or two/dinner with like 2 guys but they were pretty short, think 1-2 dates.
Well, in MY experience, it CAN work out getting back together with an EX. I dated a girl for Jr. and Sr. year of high school, we broke up right before the start of college, just because we wanted to give each other some space, and see how we handled it, and really see how real it was. We ended up getting back together about 5 months later, and its been amazing since day 1.
Go for it man. :beer:
Go for it man. :beer:
JEDI
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Originally posted by: Fineghal
Obl. Pic
(Yeah a little pixelated. Eh.)
So I dated Angela* about 3 or 4 years ago, broke up, stayed pretty good friends.
Fast forward to this August: The then current GF and I split up pretty messily and Angela and I start talking more. Up to this point we'd been talking once or twice a week or so, usually late at night when I'd just gotten off of work, she'd be up and my GF wouldn't...
So anyway, I realize a few weeks after this that I'm starting to fall for her or what not.
Being the Good Guy and realizing that at this point we'll be living about 2.5 hours away from each other + college stuff, I talk to her about it. Her basic position is "I don't really feel the same way, I don't want to be a rebound or anything." Doing the only thing I can do, I accept that.
Fast forward again, this time to Nov./Dec. holidays.
We've been talking even more on the phone. Averaging about an hour and a half every two days I'd guess, most weeks a little more often.
I get invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas (her family loves me?) her parents got me some christmas stuff, which I totally didn't see coming.
The whole time she kind of maintained there wasn't anything going on, and it got the point where her mother was saying "How's fineghal*-poo?" In response to Angela saying that we weren't a couple or anything.
Now the fun part:
Pre new years eve party with her sister who is in town from Chicago and her other sister and a bunch of people etc.
(No you dirty lechers, I did not get drunk and make out with one of her sisters!)
Few days ago she calls me, we're just chatting and what not when she goes
"So I finally figured out how I feel about you/us."
Apparently her mother, her oldest sister, and her other sister's boyfriend all asked her what was up with the two of us.
Slight paraphrase:
"I like you a lot, and it seems like if we got back together now we'd be in for the long haul... whenever I think about the future like a house or something I always think 'oh well, he'd want a big kitchen...' I always see myself with you."
Wait for it...
"But I'm not sure if that's because that's how I feel or what since you're the only bf I've had. (Wtf?) So I don't want you to wait for me or anything..."
Cliffs:
Broke up with crazy ex.
Got interesed in another ex. Again.
Ex-Ex gets interested back.
Ex-Ex isn't sure if she's interested. Because she hasn't dated alot.
i assume she;s in her 20's since you mentioned college.
she's cute.
and you're the only BF she's had?!
what are you not telling us?
Cerpin Taxt
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EMPshockwave82
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she doesnt want to start dating now because she wants to see / sleep with other people..................
she probably does care about you but doesn't realize she's being as stupid as a 5 year old during pillow fight
my advice:
tread very cautiously and make her come to you.... dont stop the phone calls but stop talking about dating her. if you stop calling her / talking to her she'll think something is wrong (which it is) and she'll go away, this time maybe forever. if you have any feelings for this girl whatsoever you need to stop talking to her about dating and just talk to her as a friend. You'll either get married or stay good friends.... both options have pro's and cons
she probably does care about you but doesn't realize she's being as stupid as a 5 year old during pillow fight
my advice:
tread very cautiously and make her come to you.... dont stop the phone calls but stop talking about dating her. if you stop calling her / talking to her she'll think something is wrong (which it is) and she'll go away, this time maybe forever. if you have any feelings for this girl whatsoever you need to stop talking to her about dating and just talk to her as a friend. You'll either get married or stay good friends.... both options have pro's and cons
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