YAGT-Would you commit...

krunchykrome

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Would you commit to a relationship with a girl that would be leaving the state in seven months? I've been seeing this girl and were talking about a relationship and all. Were both students, but she is transferring out of state to a different university after next semester. We are great together and there is no other reason not to start something with this girl. What do you think?
 
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If you can do it, then I say you stick it through, but if you know you'll cheat on her or something like that - don't let it start.
 

krunchykrome

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I've already brought home the dinner....on a regular basis now. The question is, should I commit to this girl and start a relationship knowing that she will be leaving for another state in seven months...?
 

rgwalt

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Give it a whirl. How far apart will you two be when she moves?

This is how I see it... If you don't give it a shot, you may regret it the rest of your life.

R
 

krunchykrome

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She is trying to convince me that the distance would only be four hours away, and we would still see each other once or twice a month.
 

midwestfisherman

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Originally posted by: SociallyChallenged
If you can do it, then I say you stick it through, but if you know you'll cheat on her or something like that - don't let it start.

Ditto

 

freakflag

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How long, from the point where she leaves the state, until she graduates? Also, will she be coming back to your area when she graduates, or, will her course of study put here in a position where she has to move to an entirely different location in order to find a job in her chosen field?
 

krunchykrome

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Were both in Maryland, were college students. She will be leaving for New York in a semester, about seven months. The drive to New York from Maryland is about five hours, four if I'm driving. So we have a good seven months before she leaves, but I don't know. I think it would be like setting myself up for a disapointment that I saw seven months ago.
 

Chrono

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i say...
think about this... if you liked the girl enough, you wouldn't have to ask us... you would've just got together with her.
can you handle having a relationship abruptly end after 7 months? seeing a person once or twice a month is going to be bad.
that's of course if you both don't stray.
 

AnyMal

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Can you trust her to stay faithful? Can you trust yourself to stay faithful? Unless you answer "yes" to both questions, save yourself the heartache.
 

dirtboy

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No. Why commit when you don't have to? Long distance relationships suck. Let her go and if things are meant to be, you'll get back together someday.
 

Sid59

Lifer
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enjoy the 7 months and at the end evaluate it then. can't evaulate what's fun or not you can have in 7 months.
 

dpm

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You're seeing her and you are talking about a relationship?

Seriously, it doesn't sound like you are anywhere near ready or willing to start a relationship thats going to go long distance - if you were, you'd already be there, and wouldn't have to ask.

End it now, or have fun for seven months, but be honest with yourself, and don't set yourself up for a lot of grief.
 

DaWhim

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Originally posted by: Chrono
i say...
think about this... if you liked the girl enough, you wouldn't have to ask us... you would've just got together with her.
can you handle having a relationship abruptly end after 7 months? seeing a person once or twice a month is going to be bad.
that's of course if you both don't stray.

2nd'ed
 

rh71

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Aug 28, 2001
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To make my opinion short... she's going to NY... and will be without a boyfriend presence. She may not cheat on you for all those years she'll be there... but the chances of that are very low.
 

TheToOTaLL

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7 months really isn't that long..... If you're really in to this girl, I'd definately stick it out with her!
 

TwinkleToes77

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Long distance relationships do work. IF both parties are willing to work for it. I spent 3 of 5 years 550 miles away from my now husband. And then another 1 year out of those 5, 4 hours away. I made an effort to see him atleast once a month and vice versa. We are now about to start year 7 since we first met. and have been married almost 1 year.
 

PunDogg

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i would commit, not everyday does a nice girl that you can have a realtionship with come along. Go for it

Dogg