YAGT: Would you be persistent or not?!?!

[kranky]

I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: GrumpyMan
Next time be cocky, funny and tease her until you get an arm slap and a laugh. If that happens, you're in.

That's what I was thinkin...at least a small effort, say something and see the reaction...if it's not the reaction I was looking for then I'd let it drop...but still be cool with her; she seems nice if anything.

rgwalt- Family is keeping me here. I have a six-year old daughter, my brother is getting out of jail soon and I'm the only one who is financially secure enough to help him get on his feet, and my parents are old (grandfather took my father's role when he died) so it's beginning to be my turn to take care of them. I'm graduating college in May and I have a good job. The only downfall is the selection of women. I've been with many but they weren't anything special to me. And with the amount of guys in this town, the decent-looking women are either already taken or you're competing with every other guy.

gigapet- You're right. No, I never thought of asking her "why" she didn't call me...unless it was in a comedic/sarcastic tone. And yeah, I guess what you wear, tone of voice, etc is part of the game. To my credit, I was lookin great...although when you have to practically yell to talk to someone it makes it hard to "talk"...if you know what I mean. I probably did stike out; I'll get a much better feel this weekend.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

Yeah, we both have 6-year old daughters. We're both mature adults (other than the fact that I'm a SHY SOB)...it's her 2nd job and I'm sure the last thing she looks forward to is guys hitting on her @ her work.

SuperSix- Ha, that's not a bad idea.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

I was gonna post along similar lines to this. Just drop her a note inviting her for midday meal/coffee, then leave her alone. It's up to her to follow up then.

 

[xospec1alk]

isn't asing for your number a cop out so they don't have to give you theirs?

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

Yeah, we both have 6-year old daughters. We're both mature adults (other than the fact that I'm a SHY SOB)...it's her 2nd job and I'm sure the last thing she looks forward to is guys hitting on her @ her work.

SuperSix- Ha, that's not a bad idea.

As another last resort....try and get her to give up her email address. Chicks are usually much less protective of that and its alot less threatening.

email back and forth a couple of times then suggest meeting for coffee so you can see what she looks like outside her work clothes. completely non threatening

 

[Koing]

I'd go ask her out again.

Be persistent and I reckon it'll be different to the other guys that have tried. Just be more persistent then them

Koing

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: Koing
I'd go ask her out again.

Be persistent and I reckon it'll be different to the other guys that have tried. Just be more persistent then them

Koing

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
isn't asing for your number a cop out so they don't have to give you theirs?

Normally, yes...I've never tried to take out a server at a bar so I don't know if this case is the same. Normally, if a girl tried to do this I would say "no"...but she seemed like the type to tell me like it is. She could have easily said that she had a bf or husband or whatever.

 

[tm37]

Originally posted by: ggnl
It sounds like she's already made her descision. If you persist, it's just going to come across as desperate and/or creepy.

Some chicks like that.

Just remember while the loser who doesn't give up gets the girl in the movies in real life usually he get a restraining order!

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

Yeah, we both have 6-year old daughters. We're both mature adults (other than the fact that I'm a SHY SOB)...it's her 2nd job and I'm sure the last thing she looks forward to is guys hitting on her @ her work.

SuperSix- Ha, that's not a bad idea.

As another last resort....try and get her to give up her email address. Chicks are usually much less protective of that and its alot less threatening.

email back and forth a couple of times then suggest meeting for coffee so you can see what she looks like outside her work clothes. completely non threatening

Hmm...I don't know about the email address thing. I have an issue with asking for an email address, seem ODD to me.

But thanks for the advice man, I appreciate it.

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: ggnl
It sounds like she's already made her descision. If you persist, it's just going to come across as desperate and/or creepy.

I agree...the ball is on her court. If she doesn't call, keep the relationship as a server-customer basis.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: tm37

Originally posted by: ggnl
It sounds like she's already made her descision. If you persist, it's just going to come across as desperate and/or creepy.

Some chicks like that.

Just remember while the loser who doesn't give up gets the girl in the movies in real life usually he get a restraining order!

Ha! You're right on that too...but there's a "right" way to persist and a "wrong" way. The wrong way would be to go there this Thursday and say, "I came here just to see you....why didn't you call? Why did you ask for my # when you knew you weren't going to call?

The right way would be to go there this weekend with my buddies, see her, smile, and act like it was no big deal...and if she comes to talk to me I'll crack a joke about why she didn't call...let her no I'm geniunely interested without looking like a tool.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: dquan97

Originally posted by: ggnl
It sounds like she's already made her descision. If you persist, it's just going to come across as desperate and/or creepy.

I agree...the ball is on her court. If she doesn't call, keep the relationship as a server-customer basis.

Yeah maybe, that's why I posted this thread. Some girls like a persistent guy...not CREEPY persistent, but to show a genuine interest and not trying to get a drunken booty call.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

Yeah, we both have 6-year old daughters. We're both mature adults (other than the fact that I'm a SHY SOB)...it's her 2nd job and I'm sure the last thing she looks forward to is guys hitting on her @ her work.

SuperSix- Ha, that's not a bad idea.

As another last resort....try and get her to give up her email address. Chicks are usually much less protective of that and its alot less threatening.

email back and forth a couple of times then suggest meeting for coffee so you can see what she looks like outside her work clothes. completely non threatening

Hmm...I don't know about the email address thing. I have an issue with asking for an email address, seem ODD to me.

But thanks for the advice man, I appreciate it.

oh is email just catching on up there in alaska ;wink:

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't see anything wrong with giving it another try.

Next time you run into her there, why not offer to meet her for lunch, or coffee? That might sound a lot less "scary" than a full-fledged evening-out type of date. The advantage of the afternoon date is that she knows she has a way to bail if she wants. Give her a piece of paper with your info and something reasonably clever that will at least make some impression, then let her alone the rest of the night unless she initiates more contact. If that doesn't do it, oh well.

Now, I'm assuming that since she has a daughter she's reasonably mature, unlike the type of woman gigapet relates to where you have to have a "game".

Yeah, we both have 6-year old daughters. We're both mature adults (other than the fact that I'm a SHY SOB)...it's her 2nd job and I'm sure the last thing she looks forward to is guys hitting on her @ her work.

SuperSix- Ha, that's not a bad idea.

As another last resort....try and get her to give up her email address. Chicks are usually much less protective of that and its alot less threatening.

email back and forth a couple of times then suggest meeting for coffee so you can see what she looks like outside her work clothes. completely non threatening

Hmm...I don't know about the email address thing. I have an issue with asking for an email address, seem ODD to me.

But thanks for the advice man, I appreciate it.

oh is email just catching on up there in alaska ;wink:

Ha, nah, I don't know...my buddies are "internet guys"...all have messenger services of some sort and use it to talk to women they meet...I've never been able to bring myself to that (same as posting a pic on hotornot...or what have you)...just asking for an email address seems...lack of a better term..."geeky" (no offense to anyone who does this).

 

[eakers]

maybe she is hesitant because she is married or has a bf?

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Originally posted by: gigapet
what reason did you give her to call you? you seem utterly boring and typical of every single other guy that did the exact same thing as you. She took your number as a means of rejecting you without hurting your feelings out right.

oh and one more thing....regarding women.......see my sig

Yes, profound words from a seasoned misogynist "prison culture" piece of dogsh*t. Sure, responsible single women with jobs and a kid just love a worthless gangsta scumbag whos riddled with bullets and dumb as a bag of doorknobs.

 

[TheNinja]

You need to keep trying. It is also helpful if you follow her home from work. Another thing they really love is if you are standing outside their house/apartment when the leave for work in the morning. Chicks will tell you that they don't appreciate it and may even get a restraining order on you, but deep down, they love it and want you to continue!

Actually I think you should try once more though, ask her straight up for her number and/or why she didn't call and be sure you mention it's ok if she doesn't want to, but if she would just tell you straight up.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong

Originally posted by: gigapet
what reason did you give her to call you? you seem utterly boring and typical of every single other guy that did the exact same thing as you. She took your number as a means of rejecting you without hurting your feelings out right.

oh and one more thing....regarding women.......see my sig

Yes, profound words from a seasoned misogynist "prison culture" piece of dogsh*t. Sure, responsible single women with jobs and a kid just love a worthless gangsta scumbag whos riddled with bullets and dumb as a bag of doorknobs.

wow you missed the point of the quote. he's saying dont worry about chasing women......get rich and the women come automatically........you have issues.

 

[jjones]

Be persistent, but not too much more. If she shoots you down again, move on.

 

[Kishan]

like what everyone said-shes used to it.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: eakers
maybe she is hesitant because she is married or has a bf?

Yeah, but wouldn't she just say THAT instead of acting interested? Plus, at least according to my buddy, she's single.

 

[sixone]

Okay, so I read the OP and skipped to the last page. Get over it.

She has your number. If she was interested, she'd call, unless she has stuff going down that makes it a bad time. Lay off, and find something else to do.

 

[Nutdotnet]

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