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YAGT: why cant women adhere to a simple agreement?!

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Don't get her anything, but make sure you remember what happened when next year rolls around.

Instead, wait a while and surprise her out of no where with a small but thoughtful gift.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade

she shouldn't have, but don't be mad at her for it. it's only because she :heart: you.

and don't give her one back... it's that simple. maybe then she'll realize "no gifts" means "no gifts".
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Conventional wisdom would suggest that you should never use V-day to 'teach her a lesson'.

Just get her something small that you can surprise her with when she gives you your gift. A card with a heartfelt message is always worth a few brownie points.

 
You failed. Its too late to fix it now.

My GF (6 months) and I both have birthdays near Valentines Day. So after Christmas and Birthday gifts we agreed not to get anything for Valentines Day. Guess what, she got me a card and Starburst (my favorite candy). Of course I planned for this and I got her a card and a container of chocolate covered pretzels that she has hinted about for the whole time we've been dating (yet I've never seen her eat them). She was stunned that I knew exactly what brand to buy, in what flavor, and in what box shape. The "no gift" agreement ALWAYS means little toughtful gifts.
 
Dude - you have to get her something. You can never skip these Hallmark holidays, no matter what they say. If you are still with her in 10 years, she will still remember that you didn't get her anything and will find a way to bring it up.

But, like you said, running out to get a gift isn't going to do it, so now you have to do something special. Go pick up some food that she likes and take it to where she works and tell her you're there to have lunch with her. If it's cold out, find a quiet indoor place to go with her.

1 - This will surprise her
2 - The women she works with will envy her
3 - You have to eat lunch anyway
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Aharami
Originally posted by: dabuddha
LOL you still should have gotten her something even if you said you weren't. It would have made her day.
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i know. i feel bad. 🙁

worst part is when we were speaking on the phone, i was sorta pissed that she broke the agreement so i told her i didnt get her anything...and she seemed disappointed
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i wouldn't get her anything, but that's me. if you do you are just promoting that these "agreements" don't hold water.
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:thumbsdown:
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elaborate boy 😛
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its Valentines day, she's a woman. do i need to elaborate any further 😀
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but they agreed to no gifts.
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Like he said, she's a woman. 😀

*Runs like hell*
 
Originally posted by: dullard
You failed. Its too late to fix it now.

My GF (6 months) and I both have birthdays near Valentines Day. So after Christmas and Birthday gifts we agreed not to get anything for Valentines Day. Guess what, she got me a card and Starburst (my favorite candy). Of course I planned for this and I got her a card and a container of chocolate covered pretzels that she has hinted about for the whole time we've been dating (yet I've never seen her eat them). She was stunned that I knew exactly what brand to buy, in what flavor, and in what box shape. The "no gift" agreement ALWAYS means little toughtful gifts.
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Exactly! I had flowers delivered to my wife at her workplace and that made her ultra happy. Later on that evening, she made me ultra happy 😀
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
Originally posted by: dullard
You failed. Its too late to fix it now.

My GF (6 months) and I both have birthdays near Valentines Day. So after Christmas and Birthday gifts we agreed not to get anything for Valentines Day. Guess what, she got me a card and Starburst (my favorite candy). Of course I planned for this and I got her a card and a container of chocolate covered pretzels that she has hinted about for the whole time we've been dating (yet I've never seen her eat them). She was stunned that I knew exactly what brand to buy, in what flavor, and in what box shape. The "no gift" agreement ALWAYS means little toughtful gifts.
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Exactly! I had flowers delivered to my wife at her workplace and that made her ultra happy. Later on that evening, she made me ultra happy 😀
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:thumbsup:
 
Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
Like he said, she's a woman. 😀

*Runs like hell*
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We just can't resist the temptation to do something nice for someone we care about. Sue us. 😛

 
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
Like he said, she's a woman. 😀

*Runs like hell*
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We just can't resist the temptation to do something nice for someone we care about. Sue us. 😛
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No. What you can't resist is an opportunity to make us look like schmuks.

 
Originally posted by: sixone


We just can't resist the temptation to do something nice for someone we care about. Sue us. 😛
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I don't buy that crap for a second. There's always something expected in return. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
Originally posted by: dullard
You failed. Its too late to fix it now.

My GF (6 months) and I both have birthdays near Valentines Day. So after Christmas and Birthday gifts we agreed not to get anything for Valentines Day. Guess what, she got me a card and Starburst (my favorite candy). Of course I planned for this and I got her a card and a container of chocolate covered pretzels that she has hinted about for the whole time we've been dating (yet I've never seen her eat them). She was stunned that I knew exactly what brand to buy, in what flavor, and in what box shape. The "no gift" agreement ALWAYS means little toughtful gifts.
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Exactly! I had flowers delivered to my wife at her workplace and that made her ultra happy. Later on that evening, she made me ultra happy 😀
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I've failed the "no gift" test before.

We had the usual agreement. "Money's tight, so we're not going to get each other anything this year"

Boy did I feel like an idiot when she gave me a homemade card that she had obviously put a lot of effot into and I was left stammering "I thought we weren't supposed to get each other anything..."
 
Don't worry about it so much. Be gracious and accept the gift without complaint.

She didn't do it do bother you - she did it because she wanted to. I'm sure she realizes it's not what you agreed - that's why it's a suprise.

If it bothers you that much, just consider it a perfect reason to suprise her with a small gift sometime later on. Not that you need any reason :gift:
 
I agree that you should just take her out for dinner. Apologize maybe in a subtle manner over some good wine.
 
Agreed, I would take her to her favorite restaurent... maybe a movie too.

Oh and tell her you are sorry to be so bad at life.
 
Originally posted by: Aharami
gf and i both agreed that we arent gonna do anything or get each other anything for valentines day this year since we spent 2 nights in AC a week ago and we both spent way too much money there.

and i just get an email from her saying that my little present is coming in via UPS. wtf woman?! apparantly my definition of nothing doesnt coincide with her definition of nothing. when i said nothing, i meant just that...nothing. no card, no gift, nothing. but her definition of nothing means nothing big. she got me a card and something small. i dont know what this gift is, but I dont want it because a) we had an agreement, and b) I adhered to the agreement and didnt get her anything - so I feel bad accepting a gift (esp for v-day) when I didnt get her anything.

and not like i can get her anything now since she already knows i didnt get her anything. so if i give her a gift, she'll know its only because she bought me something and not 100% because i want to give her something.

bah. now i feel guilty when i clearly shouldnt...
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get a nice card and write something really nice in it
 
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