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polm

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Originally posted by: Spikey289
Dude trust me, she will call you back. YOur gonna get upset for no reason. When you talk to her next she is going to have a logical explanation for why she didnt call back and your gonna feel bad cause you were so pissed. Trust me been down this road before.

maybe you are right. She still has to come get her stuff from my house anyway...at some point. And she took some of my pajamas too...I better get those back.
 

Murphyrulez

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My last girlfriend did that to me once. She was supposed to call me and didn't, so I called her and got a "Hang on I'm busy gotta go". So a couple hours later I call her back, and it turns out her little dog escaped out the back door and she spent 2 hours trying to find it in the neighborhood.

Now she's my wife. For the past 7 years. :)


Talk to her. See what the deal is.
 

Spac3d

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If she left her clothes at your house... keep the panties and throw the rest of the clothes on her front lawn.

;):p
 

nativesunshine

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OT...

but why wasn't his curse word censored?!?!

MODS!! where you at?


heehee. does that mean I can curse too? lol...j/k.
 

polm

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Originally posted by: Murphyrulez
My last girlfriend did that to me once. She was supposed to call me and didn't, so I called her and got a "Hang on I'm busy gotta go". So a couple hours later I call her back, and it turns out her little dog escaped out the back door and she spent 2 hours trying to find it in the neighborhood.

Now she's my wife. For the past 7 years. :)


Talk to her. See what the deal is.

Still haven't heard from her. You think I should call ?

I don't think so. If she does, I will just play it off anyway. I will tell her how I partied with friends (including an Ex GF) till 7:00 am...hung out with my Borther today....all of which will be the absolute truth.

I will not divulge my concerns. This girl is not looking for anything serious...and neither am I. Im not opening up to her...not after this.
 

sash1

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"About 2:00 I decided I would call myself"

Thats interesting... :)

~Aunix
 

nick1985

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Originally posted by: Spac3d
If she left her clothes at your house... keep the panties and throw the rest of the clothes on her front lawn.

;):p

and for the love of god, quit banging fat chicks


make some curtains outa the panties BTW
 

This kinda stuff happens all the time.
Chill out. You are quite the newbie with women it seems.
 
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she isn't lying.

she just isn't communicating. Namely, she obviously didn't know how to tell you that she want the night to herself.

Communication is the key to every relationship conflict/issue.
 

How old are you?
What you should do is hook up with some other chick, since you don't want her back just go shag with some other honey. If she calls, cool, if not, screw her (not literally). Sounds like you are starting to like her, just forget about her and if she comes back then cool. No sense in gettings all stressed out like this..... Good luck and keep us posted. :)
 

polm

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Damnit....I am such a l oser with women. I mean, I seriously don't deserve ANY of the women I have been with....EVER.

So my weak A$$ calls her up. And worst of all I was VERY stoned.

She claims that when I called her I sounded all drunk and that she tried calling me back twice and I didn't answer. ( I think she's lying, but whatever , it doesn't matter) . So anyway she was all excited that I called, and wanted me to come out then, and wanted to see me that night, and so on and so forth.

Unfortunately I let her know that I was kinda upset that I had not seen her, and she remarked "Why are you acting weird ? " . I tried to play it off, but I was under the influence of a large amount of THC, and I faltered (sp?) .

So it ended with me saying "I am going out with my friends for a while, I will call you later tonight" , and her making me promise that I would....I promised.

So now I feel like I have lost my upper edge. I have exposed myself...and it is kinda turning me off to the whole situation. Plus I ran into an old GF of mine last night and we actually hit it off real well. We have already spent a few hours talking on the phone together.

So its about 11:30...and I am taking it easy for the evening. I have a good friend coming in at 2:00 AM, so I may just wait up for him...or I may call MissBride'sMaid.

Any suggestions ?
 

dolph

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Originally posted by: polm
Damnit....I am such a l oser with women. I mean, I seriously don't deserve ANY of the women I have been with....EVER.

So my weak A$$ calls her up. And worst of all I was VERY stoned.

She claims that when I called her I sounded all drunk and that she tried calling me back twice and I didn't answer. ( I think she's lying, but whatever , it doesn't matter) . So anyway she was all excited that I called, and wanted me to come out then, and wanted to see me that night, and so on and so forth.

Unfortunately I let her know that I was kinda upset that I had not seen her, and she remarked "Why are you acting weird ? " . I tried to play it off, but I was under the influence of a large amount of THC, and I faltered (sp?) .

So it ended with me saying "I am going out with my friends for a while, I will call you later tonight" , and her making me promise that I would....I promised.

So now I feel like I have lost my upper edge. I have exposed myself...and it is kinda turning me off to the whole situation. Plus I ran into an old GF of mine last night and we actually hit it off real well. We have already spent a few hours talking on the phone together.

So its about 11:30...and I am taking it easy for the evening. I have a good friend coming in at 2:00 AM, so I may just wait up for him...or I may call MissBride'sMaid.

Any suggestions ?

call her and be honest. it's a hell of a lot easier than making something up.
 

Jugernot

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Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
it happened once, slow it down and chill

Im just piseed that she lied to me twice...when she didn't have to at all. I mean, shiz, I am not her BF..I don't want to be.

All I EVER asked from her was to be honest. Maybe that was expecting to much ?

Dude, you've known each other for a week... you don't even know her. Why do you expect so much?
 

polm

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Originally posted by: Jugernot
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
it happened once, slow it down and chill

Im just piseed that she lied to me twice...when she didn't have to at all. I mean, shiz, I am not her BF..I don't want to be.

All I EVER asked from her was to be honest. Maybe that was expecting to much ?

Dude, you've known each other for a week... you don't even know her. Why do you expect so much?

i agree..I have started this all wrong. I need to cut my losses and move on.
 
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If you're going to get high off drugs you have better things in life to be worrying about than a woman who doesn't call you back
 

yowolabi

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Last time you posted about this girl, I was giving you some friendly advice. I'm going to say some more things I would say to a friend in your situation.

1. You do have "feelings" for her or you wouldn't be getting so disturbed. It's not like you were sitting at home waiting for her, you were out partying.

2. You're acting like a petulant child with your "i'm going to hang out with friends instead" because i still want to sulk line. She gave you a reasonable explanation and that should be the end of it.

3. If you're drunk/high on two occasions (when you called the first time, and when you called back), then you need to stop calling her a wild child. Her lifestyle is obviously not that much different than yours.

4. Being indecisive is fine if it's just you. You're approaching the point of being an a$$. Now you have someone else involved. She asked you if you would be her boyfriend, and it's obvious you both are thinking in longer term than just the next night (evidenced by the expectations of nightly stays and her clothes at your place). You're moving past that point where you can casually say things like "i agree..I have started this all wrong. I need to cut my losses and move on". You're already past the point where it's okay to cancel seeing her so you can get it on with your ex-gf. Get in a relationship, be bang buddies and make sure you both understand that's what it is, or break it off now. Don't swing back and forth depending on your mood and level of intoxication.

5. If being exposed turns you off then you shouldn't be with anyone until you get that settled. You have the perfect combination of being vulnerable way too early, and being too scared of being hurt to accept your vulnerability. Along with getting stoned with regularity, you're going to make any girl who spends time with you real happy.
 

y2kc

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You have been together everyday for a week and you freak out because she didn't call you once, and because of that you are ready to break it off?

You need a b!tch slap.

/SLAP

GET IT TOGETHER MAN! You're acting like a hysterical woman.....

/end SLAP

You have exposed yourself and (possibly) made yourself look like a potential stalker to boot.

Fall back, do not mention the incident, play it cool and maybe she'll forget about it..
 

crisp82

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Anyway....your'e right. This could be a mis-understanding. But my gut feeling sais otherwise. She is a "wild child" and I know she is bull shizzing me. Oh well....my mistake for hooking up in the first place.
Sounds like you think she hooked up with someone else and you are worried.........
I AM NOT ATTACHED ! :)
Denial!!!!!!...............