YAGT: Why avoid it ?

[polm]

So I met a girl last week, and we jumped into a pretty fast physical relationship. We have spent EVERY night tother since last Saturday. We have been having a great time, and I thought things were going well.

Yesterday she told me she had to work till 1:00 AM, but wanted to make sure we were going to get together after work. I said yes, and she agreed to call me after work was over.

Well about 1:30 I am up at the bar with my friends, and no call. About 2:00 I decided I would call myself. So I call up at her work, and she gets on the phone and sais "Hang on, I can barely hear you...let me call you back in 2 minutes."

Needless to say, she never called.

So I don't get it. Why not just call to say she didn't want to hang out. We aren't anything official. Noone is pledging love vows or anything like that. Why not just be honest ?

She has shoes, clothes, etc. over at my house. Doesn't she want this stuff ? Why avoid talking to me last night, if she is going to have to talk to me to get her stuff back ?

I just dont get it.

 

[GoingUp]

it happened once, slow it down and chill

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
it happened once, slow it down and chill

Im just piseed that she lied to me twice...when she didn't have to at all. I mean, shiz, I am not her BF..I don't want to be.

All I EVER asked from her was to be honest. Maybe that was expecting to much ?

 

[slikmunks]

dude, you sound so attached already! kick back, it's only once!! she'll be back... i'll remember to let her go earlier next time... no more "special" work in my office

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
it happened once, slow it down and chill

Im just piseed that she lied to me twice...when she didn't have to at all. I mean, shiz, I am not her BF..I don't want to be.

All I EVER asked from her was to be honest. Maybe that was expecting to much ?

maybe it was circumstantial and maybe she didn't do it on purpose...? don't look into a missed phone call... there are a LOT of reasons you can miss a phone call...

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: slikmunks
dude, you sound so attached already! kick back, it's only once!! she'll be back... i'll remember to let her go earlier next time... no more "special" work in my office

I don't even want her back. I am not pissed that I didn't get to see her. I had a fun time with my friends. I am just mad that she LIED. I can't stand lyers....especially when it serves no purpose.

I AM NOT ATTACHED !

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: slikmunks
dude, you sound so attached already! kick back, it's only once!! she'll be back... i'll remember to let her go earlier next time... no more "special" work in my office

I don't even want her back. I am not pissed that I didn't get to see her. I had a fun time with my friends. I am just mad that she LIED. I can't stand lyers....especially when it serves no purpose.

I AM NOT ATTACHED !

like i said... maybe she didn't call cuz she couldn't call... not all women are out to lie to and screw men...

 

[yobarman]

stop banging fat chicks man

 

[Geekbabe]

Maybe things get really hectic at work for her and by the time she had a chance to make a call it was really,really late?

 

[goodoptics]

Originally posted by: yobarman
stop banging fat chicks man

He couldn't resist.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Maybe things get really hectic at work for her and by the time she had a chance to make a call it was really,really late?

She knows I was going to be up partying till 6 or 7 AM. She was the one that wanted to meet up late night after work.

Anyway....your'e right. This could be a mis-understanding. But my gut feeling sais otherwise. She is a "wild child" and I know she is bull shizzing me. Oh well....my mistake for hooking up in the first place.

 

[pulse8]

It's not that big of a deal. Get over it.

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Maybe things get really hectic at work for her and by the time she had a chance to make a call it was really,really late?

She knows I was going to be up partying till 6 or 7 AM. She was the one that wanted to meet up late night after work.

Anyway....your'e right. This could be a mis-understanding. But my gut feeling sais otherwise. She is a "wild child" and I know she is bull shizzing me. Oh well....my mistake for hooking up in the first place.

well if she is bs-ing you, the mistake isn't in hooking up... the mistake is caring sometimes you just gotta let a booty call be a booty call!!

 

[melly]

Originally posted by: polm


Im just piseed that she lied to me twice...when she didn't have to at all. I mean, shiz, I am not her BF..I don't want to be.

All I EVER asked from her was to be honest. Maybe that was expecting to much ?

in my experiences of late, yes. it's like honesty is a foreign concept to some people.

 

[Thegonagle]

CHILL OUT! I was right where you were recently. I know how you feel. But she probably needs some space for a day or two. Let her have it. She'll call you back. Maybe in a day or two, but she will call. Try to relax.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Maybe things get really hectic at work for her and by the time she had a chance to make a call it was really,really late?

Geekbabe...put yourself in her shoes. Would you not have at least called to say...I can't make it ? She has a cell phone...a work phone....a house phone....

What kind of circumstance would have kept her from picking up ANY one of those phones, at her disposal, for a quick courtesy call ??

If YOU were interested in the guy..wouldn't you make the effort to satisfy your commitments ?

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: Garfang
CHILL OUT! I was right where you were recently. I know how you feel. But she probably needs some space for a day or two. Let her have it. She'll call you back. Maybe in a day or two, but she will call. Try to relax.

:Q!! same girl!!! hahaha, that'd be a trip!

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Garfang
CHILL OUT! I was right where you were recently. I know how you feel. But she probably needs some space for a day or two. Let her have it. She'll call you back. Maybe in a day or two, but she will call. Try to relax.

If she wanted space she SHOULD NOT HAVE MADE PLANS !!

This is what I am trying to get at. We didn't have to make any plans....

 

[Thegonagle]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Garfang
CHILL OUT! I was right where you were recently. I know how you feel. But she probably needs some space for a day or two. Let her have it. She'll call you back. Maybe in a day or two, but she will call. Try to relax.

Fuck that. If she wanted space she SHOULD NOT HAVE MADE PLANS !!

This is what I am trying to get at. We didn't have to make any plans....

Not everyone knows what they want (or will want) at all times. Cool down before you swear at me again. Thanks.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Garfang

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Garfang
CHILL OUT! I was right where you were recently. I know how you feel. But she probably needs some space for a day or two. Let her have it. She'll call you back. Maybe in a day or two, but she will call. Try to relax.

If she wanted space she SHOULD NOT HAVE MADE PLANS !!

This is what I am trying to get at. We didn't have to make any plans....

Not everyone knows what they want (or will want) at all times. Cool down before you swear at me again. Thanks.

Sorry about the curse Garfang...im just a little pissed off.

I know that people are wishy washy...especially the women I tend to hook up with. I just don't understand why she didn't take the out when I gave it to her. I called...she could have done it RIGHT THERE. She could have quickly said..Im going out with other people. Boom...I would have been totally totally cool with it.

I have no desire to hang out with a person who doesn't have the common courtesy to be honest about something this trivial.

 

[polm]

Don't y'all understand my question ?

This was such a small deal ... why would she avoid calling me to say she wanted to do something else ??

What does she gain by avoiding the call ?

Why not take advantage of the call that I made to her, to say she didn't want to hang ?

 

[Thegonagle]

It's alright, Polm.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Garfang
It's alright.

It's just not my style. It is so easy, IMHO, to do the right thing in this situation, that I am shocked she took the other route.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Maybe things get really hectic at work for her and by the time she had a chance to make a call it was really,really late?

Geekbabe...put yourself in her shoes. Would you not have at least called to say...I can't make it ? She has a cell phone...a work phone....a house phone....

What kind of circumstance would have kept her from picking up ANY one of those phones, at her disposal, for a quick courtesy call ??

If YOU were interested in the guy..wouldn't you make the effort to satisfy your commitments ?

At my job a LOT could happen that would cause me to not return a call. Besides these people are sport fscking,there's no "commitment" there whatsoever .She got busy,they didn't hook up,there's 101 different reasons why that might be the case and none of them have to involve her having bad intent.

Geez and they say women are bad!

 

[Spikey289]

Dude trust me, she will call you back. YOur gonna get upset for no reason. When you talk to her next she is going to have a logical explanation for why she didnt call back and your gonna feel bad cause you were so pissed. Trust me been down this road before.