YAGT: when to call?

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: apac
Friday night I went out with a bunch of friends and met this girl (friend of a friend) and seemed to really hit it off. I guess she'd seen my friend and I at the gym earlier and checked us out, which is my only explanation for the immediate eye contact & flirting I got from her. Long story short, her and I and our friends ran around to a couple bars, and then she hugged me and gave me her phone # before grabbing a cab.

I think we had a great time and am definitely going to give her a call and invite her out for coffee or drinks. Now, normally I'd say fvck it and just call whenever I felt like it (probably tonight), but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now and I'm second guessing my instincts . How serious should I take the typical "3 day rule" in this case? I'm 21 and she's 24.

1) some girls folow the 3,7,10 day rule or whatever.
2) If gils follow rule 1, shold you care?

thrrefore, vall and if nothing happens, you are missing out on nothing.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Mojoed
The whole "3 day rule" thing is stupid. If you like someone, call them when you feel like it without over-analyzing things. If someone ever judged me negatively because I called them a day early or whatever, then that just saves me the time and effort of ever calling that person again.

I guess I'm just not one that plays games.

Heh, that's EXACTLY how I feel about it, but since it's the guy that does the calling sometimes you gotta play by their rules.

Ya, for the rest of your life.

 

[sjwaste]

Originally posted by: apac
Friday night I went out with a bunch of friends and met this girl (friend of a friend) and seemed to really hit it off. I guess she'd seen my friend and I at the gym earlier and checked us out, which is my only explanation for the immediate eye contact & flirting I got from her. Long story short, her and I and our friends ran around to a couple bars, and then she hugged me and gave me her phone # before grabbing a cab.

I think we had a great time and am definitely going to give her a call and invite her out for coffee or drinks. Now, normally I'd say fvck it and just call whenever I felt like it (probably tonight), but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now and I'm second guessing my instincts . How serious should I take the typical "3 day rule" in this case? I'm 21 and she's 24.

Call whenever you feel like it. She's expecting you to wait, so it'd probably be a nice surprise.

I called my current gf like the very next day when we met, and she admitted she thought I was going to wait and that it was a nice surprise, anyway.

It's not like you two are total strangers, so she probably knows from your common friend that you're not creepy. You might be creepy, but generally your friends don't think that of you, so she probably gave you the thumbs up

 

[Flyback]

Originally posted by: yllus
The next day if you honestly had a good time. There's game playing, and then there's game playing. Don't do the latter.

Ding.

 

[Flyback]

Originally posted by: Alphathree33
Ignore KarenMarie. Do NOT let her decide how/when you get together. KarenMarie is, AFAIK, a girl, and therefore has never tried to pick up a girl before (unless she's a lesbian. =))

The amount of time isn't that important.

What IS important is that:
1) When you call, you are light hearted but have a specific plan in mind. ("Drinks at 7pm. Tonight. Bob's Bar." NOT "Uh, so, what do you feel like doing?")

2) If she tries to dick you around (you make plans, she cancels because "her dog is sick"), you tell her "oh, sorry to hear that, talk to you later then. *click*" DO NOT accommodate her bullshit. And she WILL pull bullshit on you if she's hot.

Follow these two simple rules, plus smell good, lead, and escalate confidently and you'll get laid.

Beyond that, you enter into the mysterious realm called "managing longer-term relationships with hot girls," which is an ongoing area of research with me. =)

Sounds like you're familiar with the Mystery Method

 

[jpeyton]

She's going to be banging another guy on day 2, so I think waiting 3 days is a bad idea.

 

[Jahee]

Just give her a call next time you're all going out again or something, then chat to her in the bar or wherever you lot go.. I'd prefer to get to know a girl a little better before going on a date.. Thats just me anyway.

 

[DarkThinker]

FVCK THIS YAGT CRAP, listen man, go with whatever your mind tells you, you will only get lost if you keep discussing this, if a girl likes you truly then she'll want to hear from you very soon, yet she doesn't want to be stalked by you, so as long as you are a reasonable logical person you should be able to establish the right duration of time that would be suitable on your own, keep in mind only you have met this girl not anyone else that will be posting in this thread so you would know better.

 

[JS80]

txt her ftw!

 

[AbAbber2k]

Plan something for later in the week and then caller her in advance so she has fair warning. The rules about how long to wait are just to help desperate losers not fvck up before they even start.

Oh, and I'd highly recommend NOT inviting her out to bars with you and your friends. Nothing wrong with inviting her along with your friends, but a bar is the last place to take a girl if you're trying to "get to know her".

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: apac
Friday night I went out with a bunch of friends and met this girl (friend of a friend) and seemed to really hit it off. I guess she'd seen my friend and I at the gym earlier and checked us out, which is my only explanation for the immediate eye contact & flirting I got from her. Long story short, her and I and our friends ran around to a couple bars, and then she hugged me and gave me her phone # before grabbing a cab.

I think we had a great time and am definitely going to give her a call and invite her out for coffee or drinks. Now, normally I'd say fvck it and just call whenever I felt like it (probably tonight), but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now and I'm second guessing my instincts . How serious should I take the typical "3 day rule" in this case? I'm 21 and she's 24.

Repeat after me: there is no three-days rule! The whole thing was created by some downbeat losers who couldn't get a girl on the phone in three years, let alone three days.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
Repeat after me: there is no three-days rule! The whole thing was created by some downbeat losers who couldn't get a girl on the phone in three years, let alone three days.

It can help the unexperienced, but for most people with half a clue it's completely unnecessary. I didn't call my current GF for almost a week after she gave me her number. She later admitted that it drove her crazy that I hadn't called her, and when I finally did she was more or less overjoyed. I didn't purposefully wait though. That's just when it worked out best for me.

 

[Krueger81]

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fvcked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what? Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

LOL Best Movie Ever

 

[gotsmack]

Next time tell her when you're gonna call and get an e-mail.

I wait 2 days and I don't call on a Friday or Saturday.

 

[AMCRambler]

Two day rule? Three day rule? Just call her. I highly doubt she's sitting there with a stop watch saying if he calls me even 2 minutes short of two days, then he's overbearing and I don't want anything to do with him. She is not going to be anymore likely to say yes or no in two days as opposed to now.

 

[jiggahertz]

Originally posted by: AMCRambler
Two day rule? Three day rule? Just call her. I highly doubt she's sitting there with a stop watch saying if he calls me even 2 minutes short of two days, then he's overbearing and I don't want anything to do with him. She is not going to be anymore likely to say yes or no in two days as opposed to now.

Yeah, this is true. Listen, it doesn't matter when you call (within reason). If she likes you, thinks you're hot, whatever she'll go out with you. Waiting 3 days instead of 2 for the sole reason of waiting 3 days is stupid. Just don't call her 18 times within 10 minutes of getting home that night and you're fine.

 

[jiggahertz]

I talked to a girl for about 15 minutes at a bar on friday night, asked what she was doing on saturday. She said she didn't have any plans so I told her I'd give her a call tomorrow and we could do something. We went out the next night and had a great time. It's not rocket science guys, and I am not exactly a ladies man.