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YAGT: What's the best way to handle this?

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Stiganator

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what's the best way to handle the old, "Oh, I'm sorry, I just want to be friends. " at date 3.

1) Yeah, cool let's be friends.

2) Cya!

Is there a good way to determine if this going to happen right off the bat, should I put forth the disclaimer of, "Hey if you have no desire to actually go out then don't take me up on my offer."

Thoughts?
 
Originally posted by: Stiganator
what's the best way to handle the old, "Oh, I'm sorry, I just want to be friends. " at date 3.

1) Yeah, cool let's be friends.

2) Cya!

Is there a good way to determine if this going to happen right off the bat, should I put forth the disclaimer of, "Hey if you have no desire to actually go out then don't take me up on my offer."

Thoughts?
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I read this in a book - "I'm open minded enough to give a friend a chance, based on knowing that some of the strongest relationships start as friendships"

I've been there often enough to know how it hurts, so I feel for you. How to know in advance? Well, body language is one way. But let's not get into mind reading.. If you try to kiss her and you get that talk then say what I just mentioned or cut her off... don't be that sap (the sap that I usually am)
 
Cya!

I've actually told a girl before that I don't need anymore friends when she pulled that one.

Just cut ties then and there.

 
well yeah, I'm just gonna let it go I think, if she wants to come crawling back whatever. I got a few on deck.

I would punch her in the ovaries, but she's got a body like a rock (dancer 14 years).

Just need to find another dancer now...hmm Sharpova is close enough lol.
 
Originally posted by: Kwaipie
2.) There is no such thing as man/woman "friends"
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That's not totally true - most of my friends are female BUT I don't believe that friendships should be the result of unrequited love... that never goes well.
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Kwaipie
2.) There is no such thing as man/woman "friends"
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That's not totally true - most of my friends are female BUT I don't believe that friendships should be the result of unrequited love... that never goes well.
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your not allowed to comment in other peoples YAGT.
 
I actually met one of her friends who was pretty cool, she even plays starcraft no less. Not a dancer, but just as good looking as said friend. She told me to give her a call sometime, so maybe I will.
 
Originally posted by: Fmr12B

2) Cya!
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What all men need are more friends who are girls.........:roll:
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That is very cynical of you. :roll:

BTW, OP. Best thing to do is tell her straight up that you don't feel like it is working out, that she is a great girl but there is no reomantic chemistry, and that you still respect her and consider her a friend. If she is actually a cool person, then she will take the news well, otherwise, it is her problem then.

If that isn't true though, it would be time to just bounce. 😉

BTW, honest and direct is always the best way in relationships. Otherwise... :roll:
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Kwaipie
2.) There is no such thing as man/woman "friends"
Click to expand...

That's not totally true - most of my friends are female BUT I don't believe that friendships should be the result of unrequited love... that never goes well.
Click to expand...

Yes, you can have good friendships with the opposite sex, but you definitely have to be more careful and more mature about certain things. Some things you just can't discuss with opposite sex friends.
 
I once met a girl from Craigslist. We went out, and I just could not find her attractive despite lots of drinks. So I went back on Craigslist and chatted up a new girl about a week later. Turns out she was best friends of the previous chick. Small-fvcking world, right?

Anyhow, she was like "I don't want to hurt my friend by going out with you, but you and I can be friends." So I tell her I have plenty of friends and I don't need my time wasted if she doesn't plan on going out with me. My display of not caring, perhaps reverse psychology, who knows, but since I was the one now rejecting her, that pushed her to want to see me.

Date went horrible and I was depressed for a week, but that's another story. Morale: it is possible to break out of the "let's be friends" box.
 
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