yagt: what would you do if you think you're falling for someone but... update inside

[slikmunks]

oh boy, i'm going to hear it for this one...

but... i think i'm falling for someone, right? i think she likes me too, and that's just dandy and all... but here's the thing... she's not that hot looking or anything... no, she's not fugly, and no, she's not fat... she's got a little bit of love handles, almost kind of cute sometimes... but we get along great, have fun all the time, and all that good stuff... and the other thing is... i'm not sure if she's the type i want for something long term... hence the options...

update/edit: i put a rose on her door yesterday, left anonymously, then today, i was going to go and put another one there with a note, trying to be sweet and all... but then i busted my ankle, can barely walk... but i asked her out anyways, going out on friday

 

[Kadarin]

From that description, I'd say you're an idiot if you don't get with her. It sounds like she could be a great girl; you're just hung up on the fact that she's not "hot"..

 

[slikmunks]

it's not just that... (i knew i was going to get that) but it's also that i don't know if i can see myself with her in the long run... we're different people... don't know if i want to chance our friendship for something that might not last...

 

[Deeko]

Well, you have to take that into consideration. If you aren't physically attracted to a person, you will never fully love them. Now, realize that the phrase 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' is very true; if you truly do care for this person, and start a relationship, your feelings will grow, and you will come to find them more attractive. I can relate this to my ex...ok, granted, I always thought she was hot as fvcking hell, but she wasn't without defects, she had occasional breakouts, but I literally didn't notice them until she pointed it out, and she wasn't exactly scrawny, she weighed more than I did at the time (her 135, me 130), but I never noticed it. Its your decision. Mental attraction will help you for the long run, but if you aren't physically attracted to her, it will be tough to get the stage where it doesn't matter. Good luck.

 

[slikmunks]

thanks deeko any other opinions? wow... i thought you guys were all experts in girl matters

 

[Electric Amish]

Personally, I think you should be counted lucky to even have a GF if you're so shallow as to determine whether or not to "fall" for someone based on their "hotness".

Sounds like you need to get off your mom's teat before you get out into the real world


amish

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Personally, I think you should be counted lucky to even have a GF if you're so shallow as to determine whether or not to "fall" for someone based on their "hotness".

Sounds like you need to get off your mom's teat before you get out into the real world


amish

read above... it's not "hotness" it's also how long i think it'll last... we get along great, but i don't think she's the type (personalitywise) that will settle down with me or that i want to settle down with...

 

[dirtboy]

Falling for someone is overrated. Most people equate the feeling in their heart for true love. Let's face it, after being with someone for a few months, you can't really truly love them.

Besides, if you really were falling for her, you wouldn't be confused like you are now.

 

[Mr N8]

Looks come and go. It sounds like you have a great time with her, and the relationship is ideal. Give it a chance. I bet you'll find that very soon that she isn't as unattractive as you think she is.

 

[slpaulson]

Think of it this way.
Do you think you could ever regret not trying anything?

 

[ba2ng]

plain and simple. if being with her makes you happy, then go for it. you are lucky enough to find somebody you can get along with.

 

[CurtCold]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Falling for someone is overrated. Most people equate the feeling in their heart for true love. Let's face it, after being with someone for a few months, you can't really truly love them.

Besides, if you really were falling for her, you wouldn't be confused like you are now.

D0od some people know in a matter of weeks, I've been with my girl for almost a year now, and I knew that she was the one in a matter of the first couple of weeks.

As far as faulting her for her "love handles" that's just wrong. I really think that's what the problem is, but if your not physically attracted to her, then don't hurt her by going for it, then changing your mind later.

Hardly any women are physically perfect, differences are what make them unique, there is alot more to be said for someone who loves you back, and cares for you, than a perfect bod.

 

[Hammer]

if you do get with her, just make sure you don't feel like you're settling for her. you'll be doing both yourselves a disservice.

 

[Anghang]

tell her you don't want anything serious to come out of this...

 

[Pepsei]

Go out, have fun... if it works... do it.. if it doesn't go somewhere else...

why does the person have to be "the one" on the first time?

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: Hammer
if you do get with her, just make sure you don't feel like you're settling for her. you'll be doing both yourselves a disservice.

that's what i'm worried about...

 

[nitsuj3580]

well, I think about the only thing I can figure out that may be an issue is the whole "you guys date and then break up and it's hard to be friends again" versus "you dont date and stay friends but who knows what you may have missed out on"

I say go for it and ask her out and see where things go. That's what dating is. Not many people can look at a person and know they want to spent the rest of their life with that person. If you like the girl, take a chance!

 

[CraigRT]

I'd never get with someone when you have more than a couple doubts about it.
that doesn't sound to me like it'd work.. if you believe you can look past the things you dont like about her then go for it.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: MogulMonster
Looks come and go. It sounds like you have a great time with her, and the relationship is ideal. Give it a chance. I bet you'll find that very soon that she isn't as unattractive as you think she is.

until you two break up... then you'll be like "wtf..."

 

[profet]

i'm in the EXACT same boat. we have been friends for awhile, but she claims she loves me. and i have feeling for her, but may as well give it a shot, her family is cool, and she does not care about possessions.

go for it!

danny

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: slikmunks
oh boy, i'm going to hear it for this one...

but... i think i'm falling for someone, right? i think she likes me too, and that's just dandy and all... but here's the thing... she's not that hot looking or anything... no, she's not fugly, and no, she's not fat... she's got a little bit of love handles, almost kind of cute sometimes... but we get along great, have fun all the time, and all that good stuff... and the other thing is... i'm not sure if she's the type i want for something long term... hence the options...

"its time to get freaky" - one of the guys from the movie Can't Hardly Wait where he is carrying the bottles of Whip Cream.

 

[slikmunks]

update: we're going out on friday, valentines day

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: slikmunks
update: we're going out on friday, valentines day

Sweet man... good luck.. I'm sure you'll end up making the right decision!

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: Yield

Originally posted by: slikmunks
update: we're going out on friday, valentines day

Sweet man... good luck.. I'm sure you'll end up making the right decision!

thanks, i hope i do

 

[CraigRT]

Originally posted by: slikmunks

Originally posted by: Yield

Originally posted by: slikmunks
update: we're going out on friday, valentines day

Sweet man... good luck.. I'm sure you'll end up making the right decision!

thanks, i hope i do

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