YAGT: What is going on?

[Bumrush99]

Another thing, if she calls you 6 months later after "realizing" how special you are, don't give her the time of day. Once a ho, always a ho.

 

[Hyperblaze]

You are actually taking advice from ATOT for a real life situation without consultation from REAL friends?

The sad part is...folks from ATOT don't know the entire situation. They cannot know the situation from 9 sentences.

Sad sad sad.

 

[Kishan]

Originally posted by: y2kc

PSA YAGTers: do not try to "settle down" with any woman under 25. They (and you) are not ready. Date, have fun, make sex and move on...

QFT.

 

[n7]

I feel for you man.

My ex & i ended in a somewhat similar fashion, & man , did i hate her for it :|

 

[rh71]

she wants to explore but needs you as a backup / safety net. Good for you for putting out the ultimatum. Think it's time to cut her off entirely given the things she's said.

 

[Toasthead]

I had a similar situation. We dated for 3 years and once we went to college she decided she need to 'experience' more ( we went to the same college) and make sure I was the right one. We parted ways and never got back together. I just recently heard from her again ( after 11 years) and found out she has a family 2 kids and is doing well, as am I. Sometimes you just have to let them go

 

[Pepsei]

changing your number? wtf? don't be a drama queen. keep it the way it is.

why let her cheating stand in the way of keeping your old number? if you don't want any calls from her, just block her numbers.

 

[EGGO]

Not too different from my story at all, except she said she didn't want to experience freedom.

It won't be easy or short to go through the paint. Trust me, I'm still surviving through it somehow. =0)

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Aimster
So now what?
What's the best way to make the pain stop? It's like someone got a knife and stabbed me with it. In the past I just moved onto another girl (always had a backup). I don't have a backup plan now nor do I want one.

I'm just keeping myself busy right now with school and tomorrow I have work and I'm hitting the gym.

"Life is survival. Sometimes you need to use people to survive"

You need to begin a fvck buddy relationship with someone.... if you're having sex 3-4 times a day with someone new, you won't have time to feel the pain....

Other than that.... nothing you can do except live through it.

-Max

 

[PingSpike]

Yeah, regardless...you're done. Might as well move on and forget her...after 2.5 years its gonna be a b|tch to do...but whats the alternative? Playing fall back boy for when the new guy she wants/is already fvcking dumps her?

 

[bleeb]

Don't listen to any of these bozos. =)

 

[Aimster]

yeah,
Update:

She found out my new number and called it. I changed my number to get her away from me. I'm also in love with her and I don't want to be drawn into a big game, because I like the sex and I'll go back to it. I just canceled my cell phone service today and I changed all my locks. She's confused and keeps coming back and I still love her, so this is MY way of dealing with it. If I didn't do any of that, me and her would be having sex/breaking up/sex/breaking up for months until we just hate each other.

Why did I ask ATOT? Why not? All guys do is say "She's ugly you can do better she is not worth it". All the girls I know will just say "want to go out to lunch she is a bitch, don't love her love me (in their head)". Everyone in here has had at least one serious relationship. There are lots of geeky/dorky girls around for all the ATOT people.

There was another guy, but she told me she has never talked to him. She has feelings for a guy she has never met. OK. Girls are stupid. I miss dating woman. They are straight up honest with you and they are the best sex.

 

[sao123]

dude it sounds like she still wants to be with you... why not at least talk to her. dont get back together until she is ready for a full committed relationship, but dont discount your absence making her realize finally that is what she wants.

 

[Aimster]

I should give her time to think about it?

I don't like being compared to anyone. I should come first. That is just the way I am. Is that wrong?

 

[The Stigenator]

its called the 21 yr old.. itch.. its come early here.

She wants to be a slut.. and a whore.. and explore.. if she is anything like my ex, who called and said she went from one end of the scale (me) to a possesive boy (the other end).. its natural.

Just move on with someone else, prettier and hotter and forget the ex.. they at this age are useless for an LTR.

 

[AreaCode707]

Any girl who cites a 3 day lack of "butterflies" after a 2.5 year relationship needs to grow up. I'd give her the time to grow up (away from you) and then re-evaluate.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Topic Title: YAGT: What is going on?
Sorry, couldn't resist. :disgust:

 

[deejayshakur]

OP, i won't comment if you made the right decision cause it was yours to make and you made it.

but you went about it in the best way possible--the complete cut-off. i always recommend it for my friends/relatives. ex's are ex's for a reason. focus on school and work and working out, and before you know it, you'll find one 1000x better that this one. good luck bro.

 

[ChefJoe]

Scotty doesn't know... Scotty doesn't know... errr..... Aimster doesn't know.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: Aimster
So I should just change my number and make it impossible for her to contact me? If I do not we will just get back together and I do not want that to happen once I change it.

She did say she was bored, but she said there was no other guy. My gut tells me there is. My past experiences tell me there is. I'm not going to be friends with her. That will just make her come to me whenever her new boyfriend that "doesn't" exist have problems. She'll also come to me when she is confused which will be an emotional rollercoaster for me.

So this waiting for a week thing is just a waste of my time, right? Could my gut be wrong about another guy?

If she is the one who wants to break up ask her to please not contact you again.

 

[Aimster]

Originally posted by: Siddhartha

Originally posted by: Aimster
So I should just change my number and make it impossible for her to contact me? If I do not we will just get back together and I do not want that to happen once I change it.

She did say she was bored, but she said there was no other guy. My gut tells me there is. My past experiences tell me there is. I'm not going to be friends with her. That will just make her come to me whenever her new boyfriend that "doesn't" exist have problems. She'll also come to me when she is confused which will be an emotional rollercoaster for me.

So this waiting for a week thing is just a waste of my time, right? Could my gut be wrong about another guy?

If she is the one who wants to break up ask her to please not contact you again.

I asked her today to break up with me and to stop contacting me.

She cried and said no. She just needs time to think. I said I am not allowing any time. I'm a jerk, but I've been nothing but loving to this girl. There should be nothing to think about and if there is something to think about she can have the other thing she is thinking about.

I love her and I want to be with her, but I don't see it ever working out again. I feel like I was cheated on. All the trust is gone. There doesn't seem to be a win situation here for me.

 

[MommysLittleMonster]

Originally posted by: Aimster
What do you guys make of this situation:

*Girlfriend of 2.5 years starts to hang around a new crowd of people. They are much different from her traditional group of friends.

*A month or two after that the girlfriend tells the boyfriend that she wants to break-up and that this is it. The boyfriend blames it on the new group of friends.

-Reason for breaking up? Her grades in school are slipping and she wants to do good. Her excuse was that the boyfriend was taking up too much of her time. She also said the chemistry was just not there the last 3-days (they were fighting over her friends).

*After about a couple hours discussing the situation, the girlfriend says she just wants to be single. She didn't say what that meant.

*Then after more time discussing the situation she mentions she wants to explore her options. She wants to be hurt/loved by others. She wants to see if she really loves the boyfriend.

She is 19 and feels she is trapped and wants to experience everything. After some more talking the boyfriend, he told her that he does not wish to be friends if it ends. She starts to cry and tells him that she thinks she is making a mistake about breaking up but she must do it. She kept insisting a 2 month break until school is finished, but the boyfriend told her he doesn't believe that is the reason and if she leaves it is over for good.

They come to a conclusion that the girlfriend is going to think about it and she is NOT to contact him until she has an answer of yes or no on wether they will stay together. It could be a day, week, or months. If it is NO the boyfriend is going to change his number and stop contacting her, if it is a yes they will work out the "problems".

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Another guy? Most def.

There is another guy, definetly! I've given this excuse to an ex girlfriend before when I wanted to "explore my options."

 

[her209]

I've been in a similar situation.