YAGT: What does maybe mean?

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Aceshigh
If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

I was told by a friend that I should try and become friends first, then build up from there.

was this a female friend?

every girl i know says that, but it's bull imo... you should be friends with her just enough so that she is acquainted with you... like you've hung out alone 1 or 2 times. if you're like good friends, it's going to be harder to convert into an actual relationship.

 

[PowerMacG5]

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Aceshigh If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

that's right. ask her if she wants to walk barefoot on the moonlit beach.

You're forgetting, I live on Long Island New York (North Shore Nassau County). Beach has broken glass and all the fun nasty sh|t on it.

 

[Rayden]

i was just kidding about that.

 

[PowerMacG5]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Aceshigh If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

I was told by a friend that I should try and become friends first, then build up from there.

was this a female friend?

No, a male friend.

Originally posted by: Rayden
age? yours and hers.

I am 17, she is 16. As of now I am a junior, and she is a sophomore (In High School).

Originally posted by: Rayden
i was just kidding about that.

O, oops.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Aceshigh
If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

I was told by a friend that I should try and become friends first, then build up from there.

Your friend is a wise man . If you're friends already, you've got something in common that you can carry over to a "relationship".

 

[PowerMacG5]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Aceshigh If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

I was told by a friend that I should try and become friends first, then build up from there.

Your friend is a wise man . If you're friends already, you've got something in common that you can carry over to a "relationship".

That's what I was thinking. If I knew her for a while I would jump right in and ask, but I've only known her for like 6 months, so I thought a friendship would be a better start, so we could see if compatabilities exist.

 

[Rayden]

next time your friend goes on a boat trip with you invite her along. sounds perfect to me.

 

[Insidious]

Oh for God's sake....

Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided.

Love,

Sid

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: Aceshigh If you're attracted to a girl, don't say would you like to hang out with me. That implies friendship only.

I was told by a friend that I should try and become friends first, then build up from there.

Your friend is a wise man . If you're friends already, you've got something in common that you can carry over to a "relationship".

That's what I was thinking. If I knew her for a while I would jump right in and ask, but I've only known her for like 6 months, so I thought a friendship would be a better start, so we could see if compatabilities exist.

Cool. Go with it. My wife and I started out as friends and mutual attraction brought us together. Take it slow and see if the "chemistry" exists between you and her.

 

[Rayden]

Originally posted by: Insidious
Oh for God's sake....

Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided.

Love,

Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious
Oh for God's sake....

Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided.

Love,

Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

And especially not if he's taking his (stupid) friends advice and trying to "be friends first, relationship later." Here's a tip for you. There will not be a relationship later. You will be relegated to the Friend Zone. Enjoy listening to her stories of all the guys she has wild sex with.

And I can't help you without

- M4H

 

[PowerMacG5]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious Oh for God's sake.... Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided. Love, Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

And especially not if he's taking his (stupid) friends advice and trying to "be friends first, relationship later." Here's a tip for you. There will not be a relationship later. You will be relegated to the Friend Zone. Enjoy listening to her stories of all the guys she has wild sex with. And I can't help you without - M4H

That's fine, as long as I am one of those guys that has wild sex with her. Why are you and Rayden so negative?

 

[Insidious]

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious
Oh for God's sake....

Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided.

Love,

Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

Exactly!

Does this guy think if he does the silly-dance her mind is going to change..... if she isn't interested.... get over it!

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious Oh for God's sake.... Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided. Love, Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

And especially not if he's taking his (stupid) friends advice and trying to "be friends first, relationship later." Here's a tip for you. There will not be a relationship later. You will be relegated to the Friend Zone. Enjoy listening to her stories of all the guys she has wild sex with. And I can't help you without - M4H

That's fine, as long as I am one of those guys that has wild sex with her. Why are you and Rayden so negative?

it's just the way things are... though in HS people might still be innocent enough that what they said doesn't apply as much.

 

[PowerMacG5]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious Oh for God's sake.... Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided. Love, Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

And especially not if he's taking his (stupid) friends advice and trying to "be friends first, relationship later." Here's a tip for you. There will not be a relationship later. You will be relegated to the Friend Zone. Enjoy listening to her stories of all the guys she has wild sex with. And I can't help you without - M4H

That's fine, as long as I am one of those guys that has wild sex with her. Why are you and Rayden so negative?

it's just the way things are... though in HS people might still be innocent enough that what they said doesn't apply as much.

What do you mean? That the maybe may imply yes just because we are in High School, but anywhere else it would mean no?

 

[jjones]

First off, don't let chicks pull that "maybe" crap. Next time any chick tells you maybe, ask her what the hell she means, "maybe". Tell her this was a yes or no question, does she want to go or not. If she still says maybe, then tell her to get in touch with you when she's capable of making a decision. Second, now that you're in the "maybe" situation, get it resolved one way or the other asap.

Don't let girls play these stupid games. The sooner you nip that sh!t in the bud, the better off you'll be. You won't waste your time wondering what headtrip she's on and it's all the sooner you can go after some girl who can answer a yes or no question.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: KraziKid

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Rayden

Originally posted by: Insidious Oh for God's sake.... Why don't you just wait and let her tell you what she decided. Love, Sid

she'll never get back to him. not after saying maybe.

And especially not if he's taking his (stupid) friends advice and trying to "be friends first, relationship later." Here's a tip for you. There will not be a relationship later. You will be relegated to the Friend Zone. Enjoy listening to her stories of all the guys she has wild sex with. And I can't help you without - M4H

That's fine, as long as I am one of those guys that has wild sex with her. Why are you and Rayden so negative?

You'll come off as a Nice Guy (tm). The kind of person she can tell anything, go shopping with, and come to in distress without fear she'll be taken advantage of. In other words, the kind of guy she'd never have the aforementioned wild sex with. The most you'd ever get would be either (a) drunken remorseful booty which destroys the friendship and relationship or (b) rebound-guy booty which destroys the friendship and relationship.

By all means, work both the Friend and Boyfriend angles simultaneously. You want to be the caring, kind guy she can tell anything, go shopping with, not be taken advantage of by, but still have enough Bad Boy (tm) in you to be the guy she dreams about at night, the one she flirts shamelessly with at bars, and the one who she eventually says "You. Me. Sex. Now." to.

Good luck.

- M4H

 

[Crappopotamus]

that means no. you got shot down bud. she likes you as a friend (as shown by her niceness) and doesnt wanna turn you down outright. hence the "maybe". sorry.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: nativesunshine

Originally posted by: KraziKid
Okay, so I finally grew a pair of balls, and asked a girl to hang put with me. So, I say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanna hang put sometime, and go on my waverunner? It's supposed to be nice on Friday, and am going out then,", then she says "Yeah, maybe." Does this mean yes, no, or actually mean maybe?

Probably means no...but it could also mean maybe. Hehe...how are we supposed to know? We can't read her mind...!

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: jjones
First off, don't let chicks pull that "maybe" crap. Next time any chick tells you maybe, ask her what the hell she means, "maybe". Tell her this was a yes or no question, does she want to go or not. If she still says maybe, then tell her to get in touch with you when she's capable of making a decision. Second, now that you're in the "maybe" situation, get it resolved one way or the other asap.

Don't let girls play these stupid games. The sooner you nip that sh!t in the bud, the better off you'll be. You won't waste your time wondering what headtrip she's on and it's all the sooner you can go after some girl who can answer a yes or no question.

Word, And M4H is right about the "friend zone". Do not go there. You may as well be gay if you do, for you will never sniff that rose.

Ask someone else. If she gets back to you,(unlikely), you can be the play-er, instead of the play-ee for once in a row.
Tell her "It didn't seem as if you were interested. I asked you a yes or no type of question and maybe wasn't an option. So I asked someone else."

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: KraziKid
Okay, so I finally grew a pair of balls, and asked a girl to hang out with me. So, I say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanna hang out sometime, and go on my waverunner? It's supposed to be nice on Friday, and am going out then,", then she says "Yeah, maybe." Does this mean yes, no, or actually mean maybe?

*hasn't actually read the rest of the thread*

dude, sorry... but maybe in that context means flat-out NEVER. (emphasis added on purpose)

 

[Liken]

Originally posted by: KraziKid
Okay, so I finally grew a pair of balls, and asked a girl to hang out with me. So, I say "Hey, I was wondering if you wanna hang out sometime, and go on my waverunner? It's supposed to be nice on Friday, and am going out then,", then she says "Yeah, maybe." Does this mean yes, no, or actually mean maybe?

well, having been told maybe many times, and having never gotten any, i'd say "maybe" means stfu, and leave me alone, and there's no chance in hell you ugly fvcking bast4rd!


but hey, that version of maybe probably only applies to me

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: Underground727
Girls that like you let you know they like you.

Girls that you ask to do things with and they respond with maybe just like to see how much they can control you.

She wants you to beg. This is just the beginning.

Don't let her hurt you, man.

Underground and I must know the same women. I knew a girl who always gave me maybes. Usually meant she'd hang out with me if she couldn't find anything better to do. No problem, I could find better things to do than hang out with her anyway.

 

[FuZoR]

Maybe is usually bad sign... should have followed up with a question asking if she had plans or something. Then again, i never had a Maybe... Just "no get away from you perv"

oh and the dreaded FriendZone, though i don't think asking a girl to hang out directly leads to it but it will happen if you dont play your cards right. When you're with her, Flirt alot and ask a proper date after you finishing "hanging out". You have to make sure she knows your intrested in her, if not that Friendzone will bite you in the ass.

 

[dirtboy]

It means no, unless everything she has planned falls through and she can't find anyone else to hang out with, then she might consider hanging out with you. And even then there's no certainty that she'd rather wash her hair than do something with you.