YAGT - Torpid's first YAGT

[torpid]

So this weekend I'm going on a second date. We went dutch on the first, and it came out to about $20 each. During our first date, she mentioned that she had never been to see the local pro sports team or the one from her hometown, though would like to. They are playing this weekend, so I invited her. When getting tickets, though, the choices were not good? nosebleeds for $20 or lower level starting at $60. I went for the lower levels, because I like being closer and want to take a few photos. But now she has offered to pay for her ticket. I wasn't expecting this despite the obvious signs it would happen, so now I'm feeling guilty for choosing the expensive seats without consulting her.

Was it a Faux Pas to choose the expensive seats?

I am already planning on asking her to pay for the next date (how presumptuous of me) so that it will "even out".

Of course, the tricky part is that the price is on the ticket.

 

[wvtalbot]

Wow take a Valium man, you worry too much.

 

[Stuxnet]

Avoid telling her the price if possible, and just say "bah, this one's on me... give me some head and we'll call it even". Now if prostitution isn't her thing, just tell her she can buy you a steak.

 

[BriGy86]

tell her they were 60 bucks, and that she shouldn't worry about it, if she tells you again that she would to or wants to give you some money i would just go along with it

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: torpid
So this weekend I'm going on a second date. We went dutch on the first, and it came out to about $20 each. During our first date, she mentioned that she had never been to see the local pro sports team or the one from her hometown, though would like to. They are playing this weekend, so I invited her. When getting tickets, though, the choices were not good? nosebleeds for $20 or lower level starting at $60. I went for the lower levels, because I like being closer and want to take a few photos. But now she has offered to pay for her ticket. I wasn't expecting this despite the obvious signs it would happen, so now I'm feeling guilty for choosing the expensive seats without consulting her.

Was it a Faux Pas to choose the expensive seats?

I am already planning on asking her to pay for the next date (how presumptuous of me) so that it will "even out".




Of course, the tricky part is that the price is on the ticket.

um....well you picked good seats and didn't ask her to pay...but no faux pas..there.....but asking her to pay next time to make up for it? Pleeeease use a wording similar to that, and record her facial expression, then post it on ATOT

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
um....well you picked good seats and didn't ask her to pay...but no faux pas..there.....but asking her to pay next time to make up for it? Pleeeease use a wording similar to that, and record her facial expression, then post it on ATOT

Well I will have a camera. I don't know if I can take a picture of the drink being thrown in my face with it and still have time to dodge.

 

[swtethan]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
um....well you picked good seats and didn't ask her to pay...but no faux pas..there.....but asking her to pay next time to make up for it? Pleeeease use a wording similar to that, and record her facial expression, then post it on ATOT

Well I will have a camera. I don't know if I can take a picture of the drink being thrown in my face with it and still have time to dodge.

this is why you have a video camera.

just cover it for her, geez

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
Avoid telling her the price if possible, and just say "bah, this one's on me... give me some head and we'll call it even". Now if prostitution isn't her thing, just tell her she can buy you a steak.

Other than the sexor part this is good advice.

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: swtethan

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
um....well you picked good seats and didn't ask her to pay...but no faux pas..there.....but asking her to pay next time to make up for it? Pleeeease use a wording similar to that, and record her facial expression, then post it on ATOT

Well I will have a camera. I don't know if I can take a picture of the drink being thrown in my face with it and still have time to dodge.

this is why you have a video camera.

just cover it for her, geez

Video cameras aren't allowed at pro sporting events. Actually, they won't even let me bring a moderate zoom lens (75-300mm) to the thing.

The situation is under control, I'm just wondering for future reference whether it was a faux pas to choose expensive seats if going dutch. Not worried about the outcome, I'm sure it will be fine. I'm not used to dating people who can actually pay for things, so I'm trying to learn the ropes here.

 

[MotionMan]

Thank her for the offer, but turn it down. However, if she insists, then just take the money. (If things work out with this girl, it will all even out in the end, anyway.)

Oh, BTW, do not ever ask her to pay for anything. If she offers, turn her down (unless she insists - don't make a scene about it). Otherwise, be a man about it and pay for everything.

When I was dating my now wife, I borrowed an ex-GF's car to drive on our dates (my now wife had her own car) and I charged what I could or took money out of the ATM on my credit card to pay for things (and that was when I had so little money I would pay my Discover card with money drawn from my Citibank card!). Sometimes she would ask me out and pay or would simply grab the bill to pay (after she figured out how little money I had (she comes from money)).

It will all work out but I think it is a good start for the guy to open doors for the girl and pay the bill.

MotionMan

 

[torpid]

Wouldn't it be weird to insist on paying for things if she is making a decent amount of money? If the situation were reversed, I would feel really uncomfortable with her paying for everything. But then again, I am the man (allegedly).

 

[eakers]

I agree. Thank her for the offer but decline. If she is insistant tell her she can pay for the snacks or dinner before hand or the next date or something.

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
Avoid telling her the price if possible, and just say "bah, this one's on me... give me some head and we'll call it even". Now if prostitution isn't her thing, just tell her she can buy you a steak.

:thumbsup: :laugh: :thumbsup:

 

[Chryso]

Tell her she can buy hot dogs and beers.
The prices should end up being about the same.

 

[MotionMan]

Originally posted by: torpid
But then again, I am the man (allegedly).

MotionMan

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: Chryso
Tell her she can buy hot dogs and beers.
The prices should end up being about the same.

Man, how many hot dogs do you eat at a game?? They are only like $4 here.

 

[zephyrprime]

Decline her by saying, "no thanks honey. The 60 should just about cover it for sex anyway."

But seriously, you should have consulted her before hand but it's no big deal. Don't sweat it.

 

[Rumpltzer]

I'm not sure this is so tough.

If you're not comfortable with the price of the tickets, then don't give the ticket to her to look at. Keep the tickets in your hand and give them both to the ticket taker yourself.

If she wants to split the price of the tickets, suggest that she pick up dinner or the next date instead and don't bother to bring up the price of the tickets.

If she asks the price of the tickets, use your amazing charm to change the subject or just tell her it wasn't too much.

If she insists on seeing the tickets, then you really have no choice... or you can tell her you know someone and got them free or at a discount.

 

[Preyhunter]

Originally posted by: MotionMan
Thank her for the offer, but turn it down. However, if she insists, then just take the money. (If things work out with this girl, it will all even out in the end, anyway.)

Oh, BTW, do not ever ask her to pay for anything. If she offers, turn her down (unless she insists - don't make a scene about it). Otherwise, be a man about it and pay for everything.

When I was dating my now wife, I borrowed an ex-GF's car to drive on our dates (my now wife had her own car) and I charged what I could or took money out of the ATM on my credit card to pay for things (and that was when I had so little money I would pay my Discover card with money drawn from my Citibank card!). Sometimes she would ask me out and pay or would simply grab the bill to pay (after she figured out how little money I had (she comes from money)).

It will all work out but I think it is a good start for the guy to open doors for the girl and pay the bill.

MotionMan

That must've been funny. I can see the conversation now...

Her: This is a nice car.
Him: Thanks, but it's not mine. It actually belongs to the chick I was banging before you.

 

[shimsham]

if its a date and you asked her to go, you pay. she may insist, but refuse.

most women really expect the man to pay, but they offer their share just so they wont be seen as a gold digger.

 

[stan394]

pics and we will decide

 

[Indolent]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: Chryso
Tell her she can buy hot dogs and beers.
The prices should end up being about the same.

Man, how many hot dogs do you eat at a game?? They are only like $4 here.

Well beers are about 6 or 7 around here, so 3 or 4 of those a piece plus food would be getting up there. Beer at sporting events are a waste. That's why I bring a flask

 

[lightpants]

The only reason that she will want to pay is so that she doesn't feel she owes you sex. Don't give her the opportunity to cop out. You paid for the nice tickets - she owes you!

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: MotionMan
When I was dating my now wife, I borrowed an ex-GF's car to drive on our dates (my now wife had her own car) and I charged what I could or took money out of the ATM on my credit card to pay for things (and that was when I had so little money I would pay my Discover card with money drawn from my Citibank card!). Sometimes she would ask me out and pay or would simply grab the bill to pay (after she figured out how little money I had (she comes from money)).

that's the dumbest suggestion yet. maybe you lucked out, but like hell if I'm going into debt just dating a girl. if who I might be dating has the mindframe the guy is suppose to pay for everything... pft

 

[JulesMaximus]

Just tell her that you want to pick up the tab for the tickets and for her not to worry about it.

Leave it at that.