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YAGT: This is NOT Good

xanis

xanis

Lifer
So here's the story:

There is this girl that I've been friends with for a little over a year now. She and I have some of the same friends, and I know her brother, but I never really talked to her much until about a year ago. Fast forward to last week. I wanted to go to the prom, but I didn't have a date, so I asked this girl if she would go with me as a friend. She said sure, and we will be going to the prom together next Friday.

Since I asked her to prom, I've been dwelling on whether or not to ask her out. I decided a couple days ago that I would, thinking we could make a good couple. Today is when the problem arose. She talked to me in school today and said that some other guy had asked her out, and she said yes but she thought she would let me know just to be polite. I said that was fine, although as you could have guessed, I was pretty upset.

I'm not sure what to do at the moment. I really like her but she's going out with this guy now. She's really nice to me, and probably one of the best friends that I have, but I'm kind of upset/angry that someone else got to her first. I was going to wait until AFTER prom, but it looks like I'm a little too late...

So what's a guy to do? I'm interested to here what you all think... (see poll)

EDIT: PIC so I don't get shot

 
Originally posted by: Xanis

So what's a guy to do? I'm interested to here what you all think... (see poll)
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Tell everyone she has herpes?

But seriously, she fvcked you over. You can stay friends with her if you like, but forget about dating her. She gave you about as clear a signal as you can get that she's not interested.


 
you had my interest till you mentioned "prom"

now I realize its yet another high school drama that means nothing in the big picture of life..
 
WTF? You asked her, she said yes. Then another guy asks her, and she ditches you? If she had any feelings for you and is a decent human being, she would have declined.

EDIT: You are in high school.
 
Originally posted by: Dacalo
WTF? You asked her, she said yes. Then another guy asks her, and she ditches you? If she had any feelings for you and is a decent human being, she would have declined.

EDIT: You are in high school.
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QFT
 
Wait, he said he asked her to the prom "AS A FRIEND".
There is nothing wrong with her going out with some other guy.
If he wanted to go out with her that badly he could have asked her at any point in the previous year, but he didn't.
Besides, one date with some other guy does not make a relationship.


LOL, you can really identify the kiddies by all the hot headed replies. 😀
 
You gotta relax. I know its not easy. She's going to prom with you and on a date with another guy. No big deal. I wouldn't expect exclusivity until (and if) you two are actually going out regularly and become a couple.
 
Originally posted by: Dacalo
Originally posted by: Xanis
Originally posted by: Dacalo
EDIT: You are in high school.
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Great deduction sleuth.
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You obviously miss what I am alluding to. It will be better in college. :thumbsup:
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if he needs to post threads like this while he's in highschool then no...it will not be better in college 😛

the highschool solution : what OP needs to do is find another girl to make original girl jelous. Have new girl to be VERY affectionate and dump her ass soon as girl OP wants becomes availible.

the realworld soln : go buy some beer, drink with buddies, hopefully at a strip club.
 
Let's look at some quotes from the original post that help to illustrate why Xanis is having this problem:

There is this girl that I've been friends with for a little over a year now.
Click to expand...

I wanted to go to the prom, but I didn't have a date, so I asked this girl if she would go with me as a friend.
Click to expand...

and said that some other guy had asked her out, and she said yes
Click to expand...

She's really nice to me, and probably one of the best friends that I have
Click to expand...

I was going to wait until AFTER prom, but it looks like I'm a little too late...
Click to expand...

So here's my theory:

She's not interested because you have NEVER given her ANY signals in the past YEAR that you've wanted to date her. Like the picture someone else posted in this thread, you need to assert your goddamned pelvis if you want to get anywhere.
 
Sounds like a cute girl is willing to spend time with you, and you're letting your insane hormones take over and fool you into thinking that you're into her. Don't fool yourself, you're just desperate for sex.
 
ok..i had a whole response typed out..but i just deleted it all. Not worth me spending so much time over. lol.

I don't really get what you're so upset about tho..you're the one who MADE sure to tell her you're only taking her to prom as a JUST a friend.

And i'm not trying to be insensitive and mean..but there are plenty of girls out there...don't get too worked up over this one who will probably never see you as anything more than a friend.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Let's look at some quotes from the original post that help to illustrate why Xanis is having this problem:

There is this girl that I've been friends with for a little over a year now.
Click to expand...

I wanted to go to the prom, but I didn't have a date, so I asked this girl if she would go with me as a friend.
Click to expand...

and said that some other guy had asked her out, and she said yes
Click to expand...

She's really nice to me, and probably one of the best friends that I have
Click to expand...

I was going to wait until AFTER prom, but it looks like I'm a little too late...
Click to expand...

So here's my theory:

She's not interested because you have NEVER given her ANY signals in the past YEAR that you've wanted to date her. Like the picture someone else posted in this thread, you need to assert your goddamned pelvis if you want to get anywhere.
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what the fvck does that graffiti have to do with a pelvis?
 
Man, not even friends w/ benefit. She just wants a free ride to the prom. She'll dump you and go for the other guy at the prom.
 
Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: Xanis

So what's a guy to do? I'm interested to here what you all think... (see poll)
Click to expand...

Tell everyone she has herpes?

But seriously, she fvcked you over. You can stay friends with her if you like, but forget about dating her. She gave you about as clear a signal as you can get that she's not interested.
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I would also suggest to her that she go to Prom with her new boyfriend. No sense in you looking like a tool.
 
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Let's look at some quotes from the original post that help to illustrate why Xanis is having this problem:

There is this girl that I've been friends with for a little over a year now.
Click to expand...

I wanted to go to the prom, but I didn't have a date, so I asked this girl if she would go with me as a friend.
Click to expand...

and said that some other guy had asked her out, and she said yes
Click to expand...

She's really nice to me, and probably one of the best friends that I have
Click to expand...

I was going to wait until AFTER prom, but it looks like I'm a little too late...
Click to expand...

So here's my theory:

She's not interested because you have NEVER given her ANY signals in the past YEAR that you've wanted to date her. Like the picture someone else posted in this thread, you need to assert your goddamned pelvis if you want to get anywhere.
Click to expand...

what the fvck does that graffiti have to do with a pelvis?
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Who cares? The point is that if he has a pelvis, he needs to assert it.
 
Just be honest! Tell her "I know I asked you to the prom as a friend, but I'm begining to realize my feelings about you are a little stronger than that" "When you told me about your date with ?????, I got jealous and a little hurt". "Telling me about it was very classy, and I apprieciate it, and respect you for it". "I guess it was a wakeup call for me, and forced me to more clearly understand my feelings for you" "I'm not trying to freak you out or anything, but since you where so honest and straightforward with me I thought you deserved the same honesty"
 
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