YAGT: The End

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: waylman
this is not a long distance relationship...not even close. she's just using this as her excuse.

I think this is entirely possible.

Don't sweat it, you're better off in the long run.

 

[zippy]

Well, I know she isn't going after another guy and I know it's not just some lame excuse. I mean, a week and a half ago when I came to visit her for the day (despite my family being in town) we talked for like 3 hours and hooked up a bit. It clearly wasn't on her mind then.

The day before I came to town I talked to her on the phone for like 40 minutes.

I'm her 2nd boyfriend and even I had a tough time getting her. When I told some guys that I was going out with her they were amazed. The exact words were, "Wow. You've gone where no man has ever gone before." She's not one to rush into things at all.

Anyway, we were only going out for a bit over a month and a half. Yeah, it was a kind of sudden thing - I took her to my Senior Ball and things really clicked. It took her some convincing to become a couple in the first place because I moved (an hour and a half away) at the beginning of summer. But after a few more dates she brought it up again with me and said she wanted to try it.

Ugh...wanna know the worst part? You don't have a choice, so I hope you just said yes. Before I left for my week vacation I had been thinking that I wasn't sure what I was going to do when the time came. I was really on the fence and I was thinking I would probably be more in favor of breaking it off. Then as my vacation went on the ol' "distance makes the heart grow fonder" thing kicked in. I even had a dream about when I got home and saw her while on vacation (don't make any wet dream jokes - it wasn't sexual - cept for a little 'hello kiss' and holding her close). Grrr. If she had known before I left I probably wouldn't have really cared too much but the more I thought about it the more I realized how much I like her and missed her.

DAMN IT!

In the long run, as much as I'd like to be with her now, I know deep down it wouldn't have worked. Gah. And she isn't even looking at colleges in Ithaca (Ithaca or Cornell) so it's not like we could try long distance for a year and then she'd be around.

I might give her a call tomorrow and see if we could talk. I was caught way off guard yesterday so I didn't know what to say. I don't think I'll try and get back together with her, but she's not someone I want to lose touch with. Not to mention, the way it ended was just sloppy and it felt like it wasn't final. "Have a good year at Cornell" "Good bye..." (with a kind of question mark at the end) "So is this it?" I dunno, I don't want any doubts. I'll see. I need some sleep now.

 

[Eli]

Damn, it sounds like she has some sort of issue, hard to pin it down though.. 1:15 is nothing really, besides.. who cares if you won't be able to see eachother for a few days at a time sometimes? Even a couple weeks, max? If she really cared about you two as a "thing", she would be saying "It's only 1:15..", not.. "I don't know how we can work this..".

My girlfriend was 4.5 hours a way for the first 7 months I knew her, It was hard.. but it made her moving down here with me all the better. We had some pretty tough times, too.. Once her dad got pissed about the whole situation(It was hard for him to watch his "baby girl grow up" I guess), and we saw eachother for all of 45 minutes in a 2 month period. We averaged probably twice a month during that time, though.

I really think it just made us that much stronger as a couple.

 

[amnesiac]

1.25 hours is NOT A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.

My g/f and I are 1200 miles away. 2.5 hour plane flight / 22 hour drive.
We'll be together 1 year this month. It's hard but not impossible.

If it was meant to be, and both of you wanted it to work badly enough, then it would have worked.

And apparently it's not, of no fault of either of yours. So don't kill yourself over it.

 

[zippy]

I truly don't think she has any issue preventing her from continuing our relationship...beyond it being too hard. I don't think seeing me once per month (which, as I figured is about all it would be) is enough for her. Frankly, I don't know. I didn't tell her I would see her once a month - maybe I should have. THough, at the same time, she obviously made this decision on her own and I don't think she was asking me but rather telling me that she doesn't think it would work with me at college. I don't know.