i can't forget about this girl. i tried substance abuse, but once the effect is over, the feeling came back again. how bout rebound girl? don't suggest time cuz i want something fast and effective.
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Don't use substances, it just makes you feel worse the next day. My advice - try to remember what you did before you met her, and what made you happy then. Find your happy place and focus all your energies on that. Make sure you keep your friends very close, try to fill that emptiness inside you with those friends.
How long has it been? From my own recent experience, the first 3 days suck, the first two weeks are hard but as long as you WANT to be happy everything will start to get better. It's probably been about a month for me now and it still surprises me how fast all those feelings I've almost forgotten can rush back, and also how I now consider them memories rather than thoughts.
How long has it been? From my own recent experience, the first 3 days suck, the first two weeks are hard but as long as you WANT to be happy everything will start to get better. It's probably been about a month for me now and it still surprises me how fast all those feelings I've almost forgotten can rush back, and also how I now consider them memories rather than thoughts.
If you don't care about the life altering damage you can do to yourself to forget about a woman.... than going rebound is the best way.
But, time does mend all broken hearts.
Go to the strip club a couple times and see if motor-boating eases your woes.
But, time does mend all broken hearts.
Go to the strip club a couple times and see if motor-boating eases your woes.
it's been slightly more than a week. and what make it worse is we have mutual friends. you're right tho, the first 3 days did suck, it hurt so much that i tried to cry but couldn't shed a tear. i'm better now, but i thought i was over her yesterday and everything came back to me just a few hours ago. i feel stupid like this.
Yeah man, I hear you like it was yesterday. But the hard part is over! You'll keep having those good/bad days, but the bad ones will become fewer and eventually you'll realize that you've stopped having bad days altogether. The fact that you've already started having days where you think you're over her is a good sign! The next time you have a good day, try to think about how damn good it feels to be emotionally free of her, and the next time you have a bad one remember that if you can get through that day it will just keep getting better.
If you find that you can't get work/school done cause you can't get her off your mind (I had quite a few breakdowns) call someone - anyone who will listen - and talk to them about it. It is amazingly helpful to get those thoughts out of your head so you can start to think about everything else
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Do yourself a favor though...don't ever see her or talk to her. It's hard as hell to break those emotional ties, but time and distance from her are the key to getting all that dust to settle.
If you find that you can't get work/school done cause you can't get her off your mind (I had quite a few breakdowns) call someone - anyone who will listen - and talk to them about it. It is amazingly helpful to get those thoughts out of your head so you can start to think about everything else
.Do yourself a favor though...don't ever see her or talk to her. It's hard as hell to break those emotional ties, but time and distance from her are the key to getting all that dust to settle.
i hope i'm not as bitter as i sound. i just can't be friends with her anymore. it's hard to severe the emotional ties and treat her as if nothing ever happened between us, or at least what i felt towards her. i'm becoming grumpier at work, which is something i try to avoid. even my friends are scared of me. sometimes, i wish i didn't put too much heart into this. isn't there a magic pill out there to fix this emotional attachment syndrome?
you're friggin macgyver! you could probably make a hotter, smarter, richer girlfriend out of used bubblegum, a bra, and that vaunted swiss army knife of yours!
/cue macgyver theme music
/cue macgyver theme music
i hate it when after they end it, they still want to be friends and keep trying to talk to you. Cutting it off is so much easier.
But it sucks that you have mutual friends...that makes it harder to cut off contact.
But it sucks that you have mutual friends...that makes it harder to cut off contact.
go post in P&N
find someone who is passionate about something and every post try to frustrate them. Just post facts that go against their viewpoint.
Usually these people don't present facts and just post biased opinions.
That should occupy your mind.
find someone who is passionate about something and every post try to frustrate them. Just post facts that go against their viewpoint.
Usually these people don't present facts and just post biased opinions.
That should occupy your mind.
Seriously...This WIILL work.
Which tv shows have you not seen? Ill go through the list, and start watching them, in that order...starting from the first episode if u havent seen at all
- 24
- DayBreak (available on ABC's site)
- Lost
- Alias
Every free time you have you would want to see the next episode and forget about her. If you run out and still remember, Ill give ya couple more, but after that...you would probably need professional help.
Which tv shows have you not seen? Ill go through the list, and start watching them, in that order...starting from the first episode if u havent seen at all
- 24
- DayBreak (available on ABC's site)
- Lost
- Alias
Every free time you have you would want to see the next episode and forget about her. If you run out and still remember, Ill give ya couple more, but after that...you would probably need professional help.
angminas
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No. Except to realize that there isn't one, and it will take time, and going for a quick fix is just going to make things worse. Then you can actually move ahead.
Take up a new hobby. Exercise. Clean your house / car / lawn. Offer to help friends with same. Watch Victory At Sea. Read those books you've never gotten around to (the Bible is good). Play an old-school RPG where you have to make your own maps on graph paper. Beat Final Fantasy with four white wizards. Rewrite the last 3 Star Wars movies to make them less stupid.
In short, keep busy. Don't rebound. Not only will you hurt yourself, you'll hurt the new girl.
Christobevii3, that was disgusting, not to mention unhelpful. Mods?
The sooner you realize she left you because you're a pathetic ugly subsapien, and should have never had a girl like that in the first place, the sooner you can move on with your life knowing it was never meant to be. Trying to find another girl as great as she was will only yield more disappointment. You got lucky once, won't happen again.
There, doesn't that make you feel better? It sure made me feel better.
There, doesn't that make you feel better? It sure made me feel better.
best cure:
dust off that blazer/jacket and hit the clubs.
enjoy being single again....while you can.
dust off that blazer/jacket and hit the clubs.
enjoy being single again....while you can.
judasmachine
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eits
Lifer
i'm just like you and i can tell you that time is the only answer...
it's just one of life's lessons we gotta learn...
i went to sleep at 4 and woke up 4 hours later staring at the ceiling. LOL!!!!! turn up the music a bit, blast off the remaining depression inside of me. one word, better, i'm feeling a whole lot better about myself today. life is waiting for me ahead, i'm going to do a lil catch up.
moshquerade
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IronWing
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Go on a religious mission overseas. In time you will regain your center. It matters not that you believe, just go and do.
This is a win-win. You will see new interesting people and we will have one less emo, heartsick kid slobbering on his keyboard.
This is a win-win. You will see new interesting people and we will have one less emo, heartsick kid slobbering on his keyboard.
Don't be irrational by drinking or doing drugs, they're not going to improve anything. Take up a positive hobby. Exercising is a great option, but there are other things to do like studying a martial art or start painting. Allow yourself some time for grief. When I went through a similar situation I would allocate myself maybe ten minutes to be upset about it while I was driving then I'd get out of my car and face the world again. BTW how old are you OP?
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