YAGT: Talking about previous encounters

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Does your experience compare to hers, or does she have a lot more sexual experience than you do? Perhaps you are upset because you wish you had done all those things?

Promiscuity isn't something desired by either gender -- I suppose that could be the case, but why would you WANT to have done all those things?

I guess some people want others who have more experience -- not sure why that matters, but everyone is different.

 

[bamacre]

Either way, I hope you use a condom with her.

 

[mobobuff]

I came into this thread expecting the general ATOT concensus, that all women are saints and you shouldn't judge them, and if you do you have security and personality issues.

I was pleasantly surprised.

 

[Acanthus]

Oh nos! Shes not a virgin!

Seriously, get over it...

Usually im not a negative poster, but this is just juvenile, people have sex and hook up, especially in college. Its not like shes blowing guys in front of you.

 

[thujone]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
you gotta let a ho be a ho - NWA

you just made my night.



also... if you're uncomfortable with her past... just let it be over. nothing's going to change her past and it doesn't sound like there's much that could be done to make you comfortable with it.

you'll probably both be happier with someone else.



for more information on the topic... see: Clerks.

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: Acanthus
Oh nos! Shes not a virgin!

Seriously, get over it...

Usually im not a negative poster, but this is just juvenile, people have sex and hook up, especially in college. Its not like shes blowing guys in front of you.

Theeeeeeeere it is. Shoo.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: NightDarker

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Does your experience compare to hers, or does she have a lot more sexual experience than you do? Perhaps you are upset because you wish you had done all those things?

Promiscuity isn't something desired by either gender -- I suppose that could be the case, but why would you WANT to have done all those things?

I guess some people want others who have more experience -- not sure why that matters, but everyone is different.

Um, because it's sex, and it feels good? It's kinky, it's fun? Why would I NOT want to do all those things?

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: NightDarker

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Does your experience compare to hers, or does she have a lot more sexual experience than you do? Perhaps you are upset because you wish you had done all those things?

Promiscuity isn't something desired by either gender -- I suppose that could be the case, but why would you WANT to have done all those things?

I guess some people want others who have more experience -- not sure why that matters, but everyone is different.

Um, because it's sex, and it feels good? It's kinky, it's fun? Why would I NOT want to do all those things?

It's ironic, that those who support promiscuity and the sexual deviances of those who do not want to be judged, support it because it's human nature, and natural, and all of those euphemisms which should make us feel so innocent.

It's ironic because those people are the most unhuman of all. All animals have sex, an abundance of it, actually. It's not priveledged to humans. What IS primarily priveledged to humans, however, is our broad scope of emotions and thoughts. Something the OP is displaying quite well. The OP is human, and those who pretend to be in favor of humanity and human inhibition, are actually in favor of the opposite. So they will disagree with him, and attempt to make him feel unattached, when it is actually they who are unattached to the true nature of human emotions. They are in favor of the prohibition of human emotion.

Sex is a primative function, it does not make you special or significant or well-adjusted. It is our emotions and our thoughts (even the bad ones) that make us human. Nobody should be made to feel different, inhuman, or unattached, for expressing the very traits that make us human. Sex does not drive our relationships with other people, it is EMOTIONS and EXPRESSIONS that create our most indestructable relationships.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: BigJ
If you do decide to break up with her, before you do ask her about a 3-way (the cool kind). Worse case scenario, she gets upset and breaks up with you. Best case scenario, you get a 3-way. It's a win-win situation.

do this thanks

 

[ppdes]

If you like something, you want to talk about it. This girl likes sex. Personally, I'd love a girl who is so open and interested in her sexuality. Someone you could have a real discussion with about which position is best for the both of you, new things to try, etc.. IME the guy is usually more interested in sex than the girl and you have to hold back.

 

[Aikouka]

I knew a girl who acted like this toward me, but it was also talking about past exes and their sex(es ). I found it quite irritating to constantly hear about how she did it on a picnic table in a park. Her past escapades existing didn't bother me, but the flagrant repetition of hearing about them was a bit unsettling and annoying.

 

[JDMnAR1]

Originally posted by: Flatscan

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
The girl I'm seeing now has quite a bit of experience (more than most people it seems) and she always manages to throw in how she's "done this" and "done that" and has "been around the block many times" leading to me getting slightly unnerved.

Say "don't tell me, show me" every time she brings it up.

And just hope that she doesn't pull up a greatest hits of her personal videos on the web. :Q

 

[Roguestar]

Maybe she mentions them not because she's boasting about past conquests but because they don't mean as much to her as you do; maybe they're something trivial she could mention in a sex-related conversation. Has she ever cheated on you? Perhaps you just need to talk to her about it.

 

[Gulzakar]

Dating Men - 101 - We don't want to know who, how, where, and when you've banged other guys.

If women understood this, life would be a lot better. It's nice she's open, and maybe she's inviting you to try the Alabama Crab Dangle? but seriously, lay out those rules with her.

 

[2Xtreme21]

Originally posted by: Acanthus
Oh nos! Shes not a virgin!

Seriously, get over it...

Usually im not a negative poster, but this is just juvenile, people have sex and hook up, especially in college. Its not like shes blowing guys in front of you.

My point is, you're telling me you wouldn't be in the least bit upset if your girlfriend, significant other, wife, etc. (assuming you have one... if not, I can see why you'd say this) liked to talk about other dudes having sex with her? Dudes that you don't know, dudes that exist just to put their dick into someone...

It's not that I can't come to terms with her past. I can and I have and it never really bothered me because, yes, it's her past, I'm a realist, and I'm not a friggin saint either. Whatever! It's just that I don't want images of any random dude railing her from behind which are solicited by her talking of such.

 

[Dessert Tears]

Originally posted by: JDMnAR1

Originally posted by: Flatscan

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
The girl I'm seeing now has quite a bit of experience (more than most people it seems) and she always manages to throw in how she's "done this" and "done that" and has "been around the block many times" leading to me getting slightly unnerved.

Say "don't tell me, show me" every time she brings it up.

And just hope that she doesn't pull up a greatest hits of her personal videos on the web. :Q

And if she does, post here offering link by PM.

 

[KarenMarie]

If she had any class, she would keep her sexual escapades to herself.

NO guy wants to hear how their girl was banged, bumped or boodled by anyone else.

 

[doze]

Originally posted by: homercles337
Once you get older you will realize that what any woman has done with anyone BEFORE you does not matter. If you happen to fall in love, knowing what she is doing AFTER you will upset and hurt you much more. This is fact...

Just get over it, as long as she is not cheating on you.

Just because OP knows she slept with other guys does not mean he wants to hear about it. Things you did with an old gf/bf should bot be talked about with the new one. I doubt he thought she was a virgin when they got together.

 

[novasatori]

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: NightDarker

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Does your experience compare to hers, or does she have a lot more sexual experience than you do? Perhaps you are upset because you wish you had done all those things?

Promiscuity isn't something desired by either gender -- I suppose that could be the case, but why would you WANT to have done all those things?

I guess some people want others who have more experience -- not sure why that matters, but everyone is different.

Um, because it's sex, and it feels good? It's kinky, it's fun? Why would I NOT want to do all those things?

It's ironic, that those who support promiscuity and the sexual deviances of those who do not want to be judged, support it because it's human nature, and natural, and all of those euphemisms which should make us feel so innocent.

It's ironic because those people are the most unhuman of all. All animals have sex, an abundance of it, actually. It's not priveledged to humans. What IS primarily priveledged to humans, however, is our broad scope of emotions and thoughts. Something the OP is displaying quite well. The OP is human, and those who pretend to be in favor of humanity and human inhibition, are actually in favor of the opposite. So they will disagree with him, and attempt to make him feel unattached, when it is actually they who are unattached to the true nature of human emotions. They are in favor of the prohibition of human emotion.

Sex is a primative function, it does not make you special or significant or well-adjusted. It is our emotions and our thoughts (even the bad ones) that make us human. Nobody should be made to feel different, inhuman, or unattached, for expressing the very traits that make us human. Sex does not drive our relationships with other people, it is EMOTIONS and EXPRESSIONS that create our most indestructable relationships.

:thumbsup:
quite a fvcking post!

 

[ghostman]

I'm sure this has already been said, but if I were in that position, I'd stop her before she finishes and tell her I don't want to hear it. Don't let her take the high ground in this and blame you for "not accepting her past" BS. Anyone in a relationship should avoid talking boastfully about past relationships. It shows either a lack of respect for their SO.

For that matter, I'd go as far as to say that one shouldn't tell their SO about how [insert attractive attribute] about an opposite sex. It may be meant harmlessly, but it will come off as a direct comparison to the SO. For example:

Said: "My colleague is so charming!" Heard: "My colleague is so much more charming than you."
Said: "This really hot girl in my class..." Heard: "This hot girl in my class... well, hot, compared to you..."
Said: "He's the funniest guy I've ever met." Heard: "You're not as funny"

Yes, it is insecurity. But let's be honest... insecurity is part of a relationship at one point or another.