YAGT: Social Proof

[MercenaryForHire]

Yeah, I just got off the horn with the big guy. God does not want you to breed. Sorry. He showed me your whole Life Script. The only time you see boobs is in a strip joint, you pawn your car to try to get a "Happy Ending" and then get turfed by the bouncers.

STOP POSTING.

- M4H

 

[imported_KirbsAw]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Yeah, I just got off the horn with the big guy. God does not want you to breed. Sorry. He showed me your whole Life Script. The only time you see boobs is in a strip joint, you pawn your car to try to get a "Happy Ending" and then get turfed by the bouncers.

STOP POSTING.

- M4H

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[BD2003]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: BD2003

Wrong. Girls are not dumb for wanting your the desperate way that you are. Theyre very, very smart.

Because listen to you. Youre so caught up in getting a girl that youre losing sight completely. Youre objectifying women, and women DO NOT like to be objectified. They are not prey to be caught.

Youre so desperate that youre willing to go out with anyone, but what that means is that who your GF is is meaningless, as long as she's your girl. Would you want someone dating you that didnt give a crap who you were, but they are going out with you only to feel better about themselves?

Women are human beings, and youre never going to get one until you start treating them like people.

I can still look for women without being desperate. I just look harder, but keep my standards high.
You guys are failing to see this.

Just because someone is obsessed with trying to find the right girl for him, doesnt mean that he is objectifying women. I think if he is looking for that 'special' woman, then what he is doing is totally okay.

No, you cant look for women without being desperate. That is practically the definition of desperation!

If someone who cant figure out how to get a girl, posts 10 million polls about it, and then doesnt heed anyones advice about being themselves, and trying to figure out the best way to change themselves to get more girls, isnt desperation, I dont know what is!

I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

Again, if that isnt objectifying women, I dont know what is.

Its what sets you apart from the other dorks who cant get a girl on this board. Most YAGTs are about a specific girl they are trying to get with. You dont even have anyone in mind, but all you care about is getting "someone". As if its a possession to be had. Something you feel you need or want.

And thats what you have to understand. Women do not like to be thought of as trophies or prizes, really dont like to be thought of as a possession like a car or computer, and they ESPECIALLY dont like to be thought of as game to be hunted.

Regardless of whether or not you tell the actual girl this, she will see right through you, 100%. I can guarantee it. The reason you dont have a girl is part cause youre a dork, and part because of your disgusting attitude towards girls.

The reason you do not have a girl is not because youre ugly, or cause you dont have game, or cause youre a nerd or any of that. Im not ugly, and I dont have that much game, and I am certainly a closet nerd, but I havent had much trouble finding women. Because I know Im a nerd, I embrace it, and I met someone just like me, and pursued it. I didnt go around knocking on girls doors trying to see if they were nerds too and would like to go out with me etc etc. I just did my thing, and just like everyone else, someone came along that floated my boat. So I talked to her, then a little while later asked her out. Easy as cake.

PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO HELP YOU. LISTEN TO THEM. Stop fvcking arguing with them and LISTEN.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Props to you, HC, for taking the time to try and explain it to Skywalker...patience is a virtue. I don't understand why he isn't heeding advice of females. This is his #1223355679211 post on how to get a girl and he still won't hear what we have to say...personally I don't think it has anything to do with religion or waiting for the tide to roll in (whatever), and lots of inexperienced people also giving their 0.02. I think you hit the nail on the head when you suggested he develop other parts of his life (or lack, thereof).

So maybe I do ask a lot of questions that are different every time, but lead to the same main question, "how can i get a girl?"
and you guys and girls have basically given one answer: "get a life instead"

and I refuse to accept that answer, because I see people around me who ALWAYS are dating somebody. people who just are blessed in the relationships realm, and enjoying a part of life that I'm not experiencing.
I guess what this comes down to is that I want a different answer. I want to be told how to become one of those people, instead of being told: 'leave it up to the hands of fate'

Those people HAVE lives, and consequently have ways and means of attracting girls - like personality.

Poll

Those people who answered "by chance" weren't leaving it up to fate, but they were out enjoying their lives and met women who were doing the same thing.

Anyway, you basically keep asking how you can get a girl without actually changing anything about your way of thinking or the way you can live your life. Sure, you can doubt that "my" way would get you a girl but we know that your way is batting .1000 as of right now...

 

[Kipper]

So guys,

I've thought about it, and I realize that if I am to go around and mack on chicks out in public I am going to need self confidence before doing so. And I've thought about it and there are 2 main things I need to improve on in my life in order to increase self confidence.

1. I obviously wouldnt mind if I looked better. So I will pursue that goal.

2. It would definately help if I had "social proof"

By social proof I mean this: a good group of friends that I hung out with on a regular basis.
As you all know I am a Christian and I like to have friends that share the same beliefs, and all throughout my life I've never really had a good close group of Christian friends. I had a good non-christian friend group in high school, but eventually that kind of fell apart when college started, and now we just hang out occaisionally sometimes over the summer.
I guess its safe to say that I havent really found any new close friends since highschool has ended. So as you can imagine, during the majority of the year, I dont have friends to hang around. And unfortunately a Christian female probably wouldnt be too impressed by the fact that my close friends are non-christian.

Not necessarily true. Remember, the relationship is with YOU, not with your friends. It sounds like you're more trying to start a relationship with a friend, rather than a significant other.

And this last year, yall know how I went to a private Christian college, but I didnt really make a tight group of friends there, mainly I think because I didnt put enough time into getting to know people, and also the people I did try getting to know were too stuck up to wanna be with me.

I realize one of the things that really hampers my self confidence is that I don't have a strong group of friends, Christian friends, (which is what I will probably need to have if I am trying to seek after a Christian girl)

I don't really see how religion is relevant to what type of friends you make, or seeking out a significant other. Reason: religion is an invisible sort of classification, only apparent in discussion, for the most part. Crosses around the neck are pretty much fashion statements, and have very little impact on the degree of religiosity. It's not like most people walk around with shirts that have JESUS emblazoned across them in big bold letters or walk around clutching a Bible, either. I think self confidence in your case may be more of a general issue rather than a restricted one, (i.e. restricted to women).

Do you guys think that maybe perhaps I am going to be really limited in my confidence towards approaching women and my success with them, until I go out and establish a main group of friends?

I dont know why, but I feel that my success with women will be limited, until I do that.

You will have problems with ANYBODY, regardless of sex, unless you make friends. But remember, self-confidence has little to do with the number of friends you have. If you derive self-confidence from external factors such as your friends, the clothes you wear, your car, etc. that doesn't solve the problem at all. Self-confidence comes from WITHIN, and no amount of external factors can artificially shore it up.

 

[xizor]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Okay, advice from a Christian female here:

STOP PURSUING GIRLS! Seriously. Because you are so focused on "girls" as an objective, and not one girl because you're attracted to her, you're pretty much worthless as a bf. You seem like a loser because you don't have any other apparent object in life.

Get a life, some hobbies, some interests, some ministries, learn to HONESTLY focus on those things as your top priority, focus on God as your top priority, and you're going to be much more interesting to Christian girls. Make yourself somebody that people of all types like the hang out with and make friends with some females without wondering about dating them (I can tell that you're the type girls avoid because they know showing any friendship at all will lead to an uncomfortable period of you being interested in them regardless of their romantic interest level.)

Take a mental break from females, thinking about sex, thinking about relationships, and learn that there's a little more to life than that.

woah, this about sums it up, christian girls will be attracted to your character and not your friends. don't try to act the part, be who you are, and the right girl will notice. you don't need to be an attention whore trying to impress every girl, only the right one... and she'll notice. if you are serious about your christianity bring it up w/ God and your ministry leaders. They'll give you better advice than anyone.

 

[TuxDave]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

1 thing: Youth Groups

My girlfriend constantly meets guys there, and it kinda bugs me.

1 thing: I'm 20 years old and out of highschool. There arent that many youth groups that have a place for fellers like me.

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There's NO YOUTH GROUPS for 20yr old people?!??! I dunno what you call them, but on campus we have a gazillion fellowships for people your age.