YAGT: Sigh...

[slackerinabox]

OK, it's not really YAGT thread but more of a problem I'm having with a friend.. I posted about hanging out with a friend I haven't seen in years but whoI've become very close to by long distance communications.. We became extremely close after she graduated and would IM each other every day, etc.. So she came back to NYC and we hung out and wend to a play.. I was nervous as hell but I thought everything went well.. Now we hardly talk.. It's been a week and she used to im me literally every day.. She'd used to email me with "where the hell are you, i need to talk!" type messages - we were that close.. now she's online a lot on aim but hasn't immed me.. I've immed her but the conversations were kinda just stale and she seemed uninterested..

What should I do? I'm thinking about just not going on AIM anymore for a while.. I spend too much time on the thing since my gf is away and I'm bored out of my mind - maybe it's a drag to see me on ALL the time or something.. I definitely don't plan on IMing her again... What sucks is that I really had a great time at the play (even though I was acting weird and nervous) and wanted to invite her and her bf to a yankees game this week... Now I think that's a bad idea...ANyways, I shouldn't confront her and ask her if something's wrong, right? Just wait it out and then let it die out if that's the case, right? Or what?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

I think you should stop posting ridiculous questions on AT and get the hell outside! Go play in society. You know, the real world.

 

[TommyVercetti]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
her and her bf

Could that be a clue?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
I think you should stop posting ridiculous questions on AT and get the hell outside! Go play in society. You know, the real world.

Your right though.. But the problem with having a long term gf is that you often lose your "boys" -so I've become rather friendless (which is odd because i was a popular party animal in high school).. sigh, yeah.. i suck...

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
her and her bf

Could that be a clue?

I told you, it's not a YAGT thread.. I'm not interested in her at all but she was (is) one of my best friends.... I've never met her bf but want to meet him- sounds like a nice guy..

 

[Luagsch]

why the hell are you nerveaus???? you want anything from her? she has a boyfreind so there's no need to be nerveous. just be the sucker you always are maybe she thinks you want something or whatever.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
I think you should stop posting ridiculous questions on AT and get the hell outside! Go play in society. You know, the real world.

Your right though.. But the problem with having a long term gf is that you often lose your "boys" -so I've become rather friendless (which is odd because i was a popular party animal in high school).. sigh, yeah.. i suck...

Uh... you only lose your "boys" if you CHOOSE to give them over --which is proof that you never really had any to begin with. I still have mine. They are very much intact. Oh, we're not talking about balls? Oh.

You have full control over most of your life. Just remember that in the future.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
I think you should stop posting ridiculous questions on AT and get the hell outside! Go play in society. You know, the real world.

Your right though.. But the problem with having a long term gf is that you often lose your "boys" -so I've become rather friendless (which is odd because i was a popular party animal in high school).. sigh, yeah.. i suck...

Uh... you only lose your "boys" if you CHOOSE to give them over --which is proof that you never really had any to begin with. I still have mine. They are very much intact.

Well, I still have my best friend from that period but I gave up a lot of my casual relationships.. I worked full time and went to school full time. I worked weekends.. I had ONE day off and spent it with my gf.. .. You're right though, if I tried harder I could have maintained the friendships.. I was just a little burnt out during college...

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Luagsch
why the hell are you nerveaus???? you want anything from her? she has a boyfreind so there's no need to be nerveous. just be the sucker you always are maybe she thinks you want something or whatever.

You know, that may be a factor.. I was acting a bit odd that night and she probably mistook my social anxiety for me being nervously attracted to her.. I wasn't though - in fact, the friend she took with her was the real looker regardless, how does one go about repairing that? i don't want to just blurt out "I'm not interested in you!".. i don't want to address this at all actually..

 

[ndee]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
I think you should stop posting ridiculous questions on AT and get the hell outside! Go play in society. You know, the real world.

Your right though.. But the problem with having a long term gf is that you often lose your "boys" -so I've become rather friendless (which is odd because i was a popular party animal in high school).. sigh, yeah.. i suck...

biggest problem: Never neglect your friends! I learned it the hardway but I was the first guy with a GF and so that was a lesson for all my buddies. Friends are for life, remember that.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Bros before hos!

 

[Luagsch]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Luagsch
why the hell are you nerveaus???? you want anything from her? she has a boyfreind so there's no need to be nerveous. just be the sucker you always are maybe she thinks you want something or whatever.

You know, that may be a factor.. I was acting a bit odd that night and she probably mistook my social anxiety for me being nervously attracted to her.. I wasn't though - in fact, the friend she took with her was the real looker regardless, how does one go about repairing that? i don't want to just blurt out "I'm not interested in you!".. i don't want to address this at all actually..

then don't.
just invite her to a drink or whatever you did in the past and just act plain normal as if nothing happened (and it didn't, it was only in your mind). either she's gonna comment on what happened or she won't. either way doesn't make a difference to you, right?