YAGT: Should I tell my best girl friend how I really feel about her?

[Leejai]

you'll meet plenty of chicks in college...shoot, for all you know, your pothead friend may even throw some your way.....don't wreck a life long friendship over a girl..

"bros b4 hoes"....remember that!

 

[toekramp]

get 'er done

 

[jobuRAVE]

If something has been causing you turmoil in the regard that you have not been able to sleep for a week or two and your life is altered in some way (i.e can't eat, thoughts dwell on someone, etc), then I would say definately breach this subject with the girl. I would recommend that you keep it semi light though and not get heavy in terms of feelings and whatnot. I would say something like, you know, I've been thinking about us lately and it seems like we have alot of similar interests such as x,y,z. I also know that we have a solid foundation for a great relationship as a true marriage is about marrying your best friend. On that note, would you be willing to try to take things to a different level?

In relationships, communication is the most important thing. If you can't talk about something, then you have nothing.

Good Luck.

 

[anno]

when did they break up?

I think ya oughta keep on being her friend. friends do stuff together, so.. do stuff together sometimes. keep on being her friend. make sure they're broken up for good. keep on being her friend. let her go out with some other jerk, even.. keep on being her friend. do stuff together. the friend needs to move on too.. have anther girlfriend, even.. then.. when you're sure it's over, really over, between her and your friend.. then, if she's still the girl for you.. then you can tell her.

course.. if she's as interested in you as you are in her, then you may not need to wait that long. but you really don't want to get in the middle until you're sure they're really done with each other, or you're liable to wind up losing 2 friends.

anno

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: Leejai
you'll meet plenty of chicks in college...shoot, for all you know, your pothead friend may even throw some your way.....don't wreck a life long friendship over a girl..

"bros b4 hoes"....remember that!

Odds are it isn't going to be a life long friendship with either person. He won't be ruining anything.

 

[Gulzakar]

when she turns 18 send her over to me.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: jbWHO
me think u r thinking too much,

just tell her...if she likes you then she'll say yay, if not, then she'll say nay, easy as that

just don't end up thinking too much and play "oh what if..." game,

i know there are "oh never date best bud's ex" rule, but don't you(and her) deserve happiness too?

(plus he'll understand if he really is your best bud)

Ditto. That is what I did to this girl I liked. I kept seeing her for about 2 months. When I mean 'seeing' her I mean just literally that as 'friends' and nothing else. We got on great, blah blah etc. Well I grew stronger feelings for her. Had my 'suspicions' about her feelings for me. Well I mulled about thinking what I was going to say.

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
Oh, and I say just say something like, "Hey, I was just thinking...do you suppose we, you and me, would ever become more than just friends?" See how she responds to that...if well, ask her out somewhere.

That puts the guard up.

I basically said that to my girl at the time. I just told her what I thought of her. I told her I liked her more then as friends and asked if she could see us as more then friends? Worked out in the end.

Just grow a pair and tell her how you feel and if she can see you guys together as more then friensd? If she is in to you she will say so. If not then at least you grew a pair and asked her and KNOW and not what 'could have beens'.

Koing

 

[Stark]

she needs to see someone else before you make your move

being the next in line after a "first love" type situation makes you the rebound. Better to let someone else take that role and move in when she's had time to "officially" move on from the first boyfriend emotionally.

 

[cheapgoose]

i'm not even gonna read your post. go for it. couple of things can happen, the positive, you guys get together, doesn't matter if it last or turns into a long distance thing. for at least a year, you'll have what you want, and be happy.

but if you don't say anything, you're friendship will be over anyway.
if she says no, it'll be weird around her. if you don't say anything, it'll be weird anyway. you're always gonna be around someone who you really wanna bone but can't. How did it make you feel when she came to you and talked about other guys? 'cause that'll continue. and how weird would it make you feel to have someone you love talk to you about how good sex was with some other guy?

go for it! you never know!

 

[Gooberlx2]

You said it yourself, you're going off to college in less than a year.....whaddaya got to lose? Some friendships that don't seem likely to stay intact over distance and time anyway?

When I look back to before highschool graduation, I always wish I had broken up with my HS girlfriend and left our dead relationship a long time earlier. That way I could have atleast tried other things with other people.

I mean...
worst case scenario: she refuses, your pseudo-friend hates you, you go off to college for a new life with new people.
best case scenario: she accepts, your pseudo-friend is understanding, you go off to college, she follows a year later, you get married and live happily ever after.

...probable scenario (IMO): She awkwardly agrees to go on a date, your pseudo-friend is like "WTF!?!" and starts all kinds of retarded HS drama, you go off to college where either you or her or both will decide to end it after a couple/few months. You're still at college with a new life/people.

 

[Epoman]

Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt

Originally posted by: Epoman

Originally posted by: Supercharged

Originally posted by: AgaBooga

Originally posted by: HotChic
Talk to her about it or you'll regret not at least broaching the topic.

She's beautiful, btw. I don't know if you should have her pics up w/o permission though.

Yeah, talk to her about it, you don't necessarily have to tell her straight out that you've got a liking towards her

What exactly would I say? How would I bring it up?

Just make a BIG sign that says "Be my Girlfriend" on one side and if she says "I don't think of you that way"

Then turn the sign around and have "lol?" written on it.

haha, nice

Thanks,

 

[warriorfan23]

tell her u want more than to be just friends. if u stay friends with her u will only want her more and it will always be like that. think hard about it and u will probably find that u r only friends with her cuz u have "more than friends" feelings for her. save yourself some time and do it now

 

[warriorfan23]

only do the previous post if u r not still good friends with the guy of course

 

[alm4rr]

update???

 

[dotcommie]

www.intellectualwhores.com read the ladder theory, then decide. Its not fact, but ill be damned it it hasnt held 99% true.

 

[alm4rr]

haha that's funny
guy links to Chomsky on the 'Net so he's gotta be a lil wacko

 

[KEV1N]

If you're gettin the vibes, then move in. If no vibes, then hold back. You'd have to be silly to ask if she wants to be your girlfriend or whatever when it's completely inappropriate.

 

[Childs]

Originally posted by: Supercharged
She's the blond

I like the other one better. Anyways, you should post a picture of yourself. She may be out of your league, so telling her would be insane.

Originally posted by: Manzelle
Tell her...if she shoot you down just go Sandler on her..."YOU THINK YOU'RE BETTER THAN ME!?" ...either she'll laugh or you'll never hear from her again...

OR go the way of the jock in Disturbing Behavior:

Jock: Will you go out with me?
Girl : No.
Jock *screaming* : WHY NOT?!?!?!?!

Maybe funnier if you've seen the movie.

 

[petejk]

dude...you're 17...you don't need a girlfriend...

just hang out w/ her and do everything a couple would do without the title

 

[Shawn]

Ok, here's an update I guess. Well I was planning on telling her but changed my mind after I discovered she's still been hanging out with her ex a lot. I was gonna wait till she got over him but I don't think she will anytime soon. Infact I think they are back together again but I don't know cause I haven't talked to her today. Oh well.

I started up a converstaion with him on AIM today cause I sent him a link to that car video Warcrow posted earlier today. Out of nowhere he's like so you like Caitlin huh? :Q I asked him who told him that but he never did tell me. I didn't want to really press it because I didn't want to talk to him about it. I'm assuming she figured it out and told him. So looks like I may never have to tell her afterall....

 

[StormRider]

I like the sister.....

 

[z0mb13]

ok now u gotta tell her directly

I think its VERY bad if she finds out from a third party

 

[Shawn]

Originally posted by: z0mb13
ok now u gotta tell her directly

I think its VERY bad if she finds out from a third party

I don't think she found out from a third party. I think she figured it out herself. I haven't exactly been myself around her lately. I guess I made it obvious.

 

[Childs]

Originally posted by: Supercharged

Originally posted by: z0mb13
ok now u gotta tell her directly

I think its VERY bad if she finds out from a third party

I don't think she found out from a third party. I think she figured it out herself. I haven't exactly been myself around her lately. I guess I made it obvious.

Was it the constant drool and persistent erection? :Q

 

[shiner]

Sweet Jeebus....what the hell is it with you people who are afraid to talk to women? I swear if any of you ever get a piece of tail I will be amazed. Want to get laid? Well do you? THEN FVCKING TALK TO THEM!!! You have it easy in that this one is already your friend. Tell her how you feel? What is the worst that could happen? She says she doesn't feel the same? If that's the case the so be it. Move on and start trying to nail her sister.