YAGT: Should I be putting myself through this ?

just go for it ??

I don't know what I am going for !!

There isn't anything to acheive . She can't be with me right now, and I can't be with her.

The question is...should I put myself through the torture of keeping her in my life ?

stfu and drink beer like all the other men.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Why are you going to Israel again?? I can't think of a single reason!

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Why are you going to Israel again?? I can't think of a single reason!

I want to reconnect (physically) with my religous home-land.

That is 1 of very very many reasons.

 

[Hoober]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Why are you going to Israel again?? I can't think of a single reason!

I want to reconnect (physically) with my religous home-land.

That is 1 of very very many reasons.

Then, perhaps, you'll meet someone new over there.

Personally, this woman sounds like she's stringing you along. Knowing that, you have to make up your own mind. If she wants to wait for you, fine. If she wants to marry you, and actually get married before you leave, congratulations. If not, then I think, in the long run, you'll be better off for it. Go to Israel. Forget her if she doesn't want to put her money where her mouth is.

 

[dabuddha]

Last time i checked, most "friends" don't have phone sex with each other. Think of it this way. If she's still toying around with this other guy, whats to say she won't screw around on you? The girl wants her cake and wants to eat it to. And you're letting her.
And BTW, no you didn't take most people's advice from your previous threads. Most of us told you to dump her and move on. I know it sucks and hurts and all but in the long run, you'll be happier for it.

 

[Hammer]

if you're that emotionally attached to her, then no.

 

[yoda291]

you know what...if you can't TELL HER that she's making u uncomfortable...then you have issues because if you can't tell your friend something, how close of a friend are they?

If you don't feel well when you are talking to her, then stop talking to her. Honestly...if someone posted that it hurt when they poked the gash in their leg, people here would yell at them to STOP POKING THE GASH!

My advice is fsck her(not literally, she's not a computer). Forget about her and get laid. Heck, lemme itemize it for you then. Go out with 5 other girls. Romance them, bed them down, whatever...just forget her completely. If she comes back to you, grow a pair, lay down some terms and if she doesn't like it, you don't need her. If you go around like a lapdog pining for her, I guarantee that a romantic relationship wouldn't work because she's got too much power over you and you don't have enough self respect to function without her then.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: yoda291
you know what...if you can't TELL HER that she's making u uncomfortable...then you have issues because if you can't tell your friend something, how close of a friend are they?

If you don't feel well when you are talking to her, then stop talking to her. Honestly...if someone posted that it hurt when they poked the gash in their leg, people here would yell at them to STOP POKING THE GASH!

My advice is fsck her(not literally, she's not a computer). Forget about her and get laid. Heck, lemme itemize it for you then. Go out with 5 other girls. Romance them, bed them down, whatever...just forget her completely. If she comes back to you, grow a pair, lay down some terms and if she doesn't like it, you don't need her. If you go around like a lapdog pining for her, I guarantee that a romantic relationship wouldn't work because she's got too much power over you and you don't have enough self respect to function without her then.

Very good points.

 

[SuepaFly]

I feel like she's lacking the decision making skills. She's doing whats safe and thats not a good sign. If she really feels about you the way you feel about her, she would dump her boyfriend and go for you. Some things I think a good relationship needs:

TRUST: 6 months is nothing if two people trust eachother. She shouldn't fear you being different when you come back. Besides, obviously she was gone somewhere and you two experienced some sort of seperation and feelings haven't changed on your side.

INDIVIDUAL STRENGTH: If she really means that "things would be different if you weren't leaving" she's implying she would dump her current boyfriend for you right? So she's not willing to spend these next couple months totally free to enjoy your company then 6 months alone then get to spend unlimited time with you again? I feel like she's taking the safe bet on the decision.

LOVE: Yeah, you have a very romantic notion of love, and maybe its true but maybe its not. Aristotle says that such things have no justice (which in my mind makes so much sense but is so hard to achieve in regular life). Idealistically things are beautiful. Realistically, love and friendship are two way roads and justice isn't necessary when you know the other road is well travelled. So basically, IMHO, your love isn't being reciprocated and its time to choose you over her.