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YAGT--retard on my team asked my girlfriend to prom...

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Originally posted by: shimsham
even if it was a "friend" and someone at work? or on the company softball team that they may interact with frequently? we arent talking about a random, face-less person, or someone out in a bar.

edit: and for the record, my wife tells me all the time when men hit on her. i have no problem with it, and she doesnt do it stir any insecurities. id be a fool if i thought she didnt enjoy it, and to ask her not to would be asking her not to be human. if it makes her feel good and is innocent on her part, i have no problem with it what so ever.

now if its someone i know, and she doesnt tell me, then there would be a problem.
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As long as the person who's doing the asking maintanes a respectful tone and understands the word"no" what's the problem? Why would anyone wish to create problems for their SO at work or other places they go regularly?

A work peer asking if you'd like to catch a movie or go for a drink is a far cry from somebody saying "hey biatch,wanna do me?" or something rude and profane. The OP's girlfriend turned the other guy down and obviously did it in such a way that he felt a bit guilty for having asked,I'd say she did a good job of handling this.
 
As long as the person who's doing the asking maintanes a respectful tone and understands the word"no" what's the problem? Why would anyone wish to create problems for their SO at work or other places they go regularly?

A work peer asking if you'd like to catch a movie or go for a drink is a far cry from somebody saying "hey biatch,wanna do me?" or something rude and profane.
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what we are talking about is a date, not a casual drink in a social setting. it would be ok if a friend or co-worker asked your SO out on a date?

the problem wouldnt be created by the SO telling, it would be created by the person you know asking your SO out. a drink after work with a friend is one thing. dinner and a movie, prom (in this case), or any other date, is another. i think we all know the intent of a date it to develope a relationship, be it a one night stand, or a lasting one. if someone i work with, or a friend, were to ask my wife out on a date, that would be a problem since they have broken my trust. would i hunt them down and beat them? no, of course not. but i feel i would have a right to know that i couldnt trust the person asking like i thought i could, and would treat them accordingly. not telling would be playing me for a fool, whether it was intentional or not.

 
Solution:

Kick him in the testicles. Simple.

Or go to the prom with your date. YOUR date.

(For extra effect, I suggest you talk about all the preparations your two [you anf your g/f] are having for said event in front of that kid, just to rub it in a little. 😉 )
 
I think you're insecure as hell, especially for being mad at your girlfriend for not telling you. Surprisingly enough, I've been hit on by a couple girls since my gf and I started dating. Do I run home and tell her "Omg, you'll never guess what happened?" C'mon, man. Relax.
 
I think your making a big deal out of virtually nothing. So he is a putz and asked your girlfriend to a hs prom, oh no better go beat his ass and show him how cool and insecure you are!
 
It would be one thing if he was her classmate and asked her to go to prom as a friend, since you are off at college. But he goes to your school, and asked your girlfriend out... That's wrong. You don't ask another guy's girlfriend out, especially not to her prom.
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: shimsham
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Geez,the guy asked her to prom,she said no,the only thing that happened was that this other dude validated your good taste in women.Lighten up!
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my question is why people think i am over reacting? if you read the thread you will see im not going crazy over here. il say it again

1) im not mad at my girlfriend, just a little upset she didnt tell me
2) im mainly upset with that idiot. he had no right to pull a stunt like that

thats it, im not flipping out.... :beer:
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Why would she tell you? He asked,she said"no" end of story.When you get a little older you'll realise that most non-game playing women can handle a simple turn down without involving their b/friend.Unless a guy is persistant or degrading in his comments there's no reason to go running to your b/friend over something like this.
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i agree with you. except for 1 other factor, this guy is a teammate which makes it different. he isnt just some random guy off the street. she knew i would find out about this sometime and chose to not tell me. im not THAT upset, more like a little dissapointed.
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Perhaps she felt that she'd turned him him down in such a way that he wouldn't ask again and that to tell you of it would have only served to stir up needless crap that could have negatively effected your game.
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oh puh-lease. she shouldve told him period. if some woman was coming on to your man, asking him out, and he didnt tell you, i think we all know what would happen. he wasnt telling you for a reason, because he wanted her. there would be no excuse for such deception, other than evil intentions.

whats the difference here?
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My guy is quite well built and very handsome,however,I trust that my man is more than capable of turning down women that hit on him,he needn't come home and give me a report of each time it happens and lemmie tell you people who run home and tell everytime somebody hits on them are usually just looking to stir up some jealousy to feed their ego's or shore up insecurities..
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dont you think the fact that he was on my team made the situation different?
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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It's because in your original post you made it sound like he goes to your high school. It's highly abnormal, and improper etiquette to ask someone to HER prom, so the logical assumption is that he goes to high school with her.
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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I'd read it as 50 out of 188 voters REALLY don't like you. The other 138 don't like you either, but they voted the way they really feel.
 
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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It's because in your original post you made it sound like he goes to your high school. It's highly abnormal, and improper etiquette to ask someone to HER prom, so the logical assumption is that he goes to high school with her.
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I knew from his post that this was a guy on his college xc team.... no confusion there.

I don't think you're overreacting either, but there may be a reason why she didn't tell you. You see, I tend to hide stuff like that from my gf because she is very insecure and jealous. I don't even tell her when another girl calls me or we hang out or something when she doesn't know about it because she will get all jealous, even though she knows I'd never do anything. She knows that I talk to a lot of girls, and that's it, but she still gets jealous. So I don't tell her. Maybe your gf didn't tell you because she thought you would flip out and didn't want to deal with it...?
 
I really don't care about incidents like that. If my gf got hit on or asked out, no big deal. I actually don't care if she did hang out with other guys. As far as going to a prom, I'd rather not go, so if someone else wanted to go with her, it might save me the trouble.
 
quit being a pussy and tell him to fvk off nick.

powermac4ever- I have dated my gf for 2 years and she is 2 years younger than me. Does that make me a dork, etc? its funny, once out of highschool people date/marry in a 5-10 year age diff. my gf's parents are 8 years apart.

did I date her bcuz noone my age liked me? nope, ive dated girls 2 or 3 years older than me, i could go on but its the internet for christ sake.

nick: seriously get over it, he asked her, your not over reacting but why bring it to ATOT? you know 3/4 of the members here are going to flame you just to piss you off.




btw- bad move posting pics of yourself and the guy.
:beer: for your troubles with ATOT🙂
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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If you were married I'd be inclined to agree, but your not so she's fair game, although it's hard to accept. You don't own her and she doesn't own you.
 
Originally posted by: Redviffer
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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If you were married I'd be inclined to agree, but your not so she's fair game.
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even though she has a SO she is fair game? 😕 i dont follow your logic
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: Redviffer
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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If you were married I'd be inclined to agree, but your not so she's fair game.
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even though she has a SO she is fair game? 😕 i dont follow your logic
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No ring? Ain't no thing. (I just made that up. I'm a poet and I'm not even aware of it!)
You don't own her and she's not in any kind of legal commitment to you. Guys can ask all they want. It's up to her to say "no."
 
Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: Redviffer
Originally posted by: nick1985
dp 50/188 voters REALLY think it was an alright thing to do? 😕 thats crazy...
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If you were married I'd be inclined to agree, but your not so she's fair game.
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even though she has a SO she is fair game? 😕 i dont follow your logic
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It's not really my logic, its life. Most people will hit on a girl without a ring on, there are some that will hit on those with rings on, thats life. It's even more true if you are with someone who is pretty. I always have people hitting on my wife, if I were to get upset each time then I'd have high blood pressure. Now, if they are persistant to the point of being annoying, then it's a different story.

I think the real reason that your friend might have done this is, deep down, he doesn't feel you are good enough for her. Have you done anything to ever give him that idea?
 
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