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yagt: or something like that... any resident females on?

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stev0

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quick background:

i was at a get together (like 8 people) at a buddys apt, he invites a female friend from one of his classes, she brings her roomie. roomie happens to be a picture perfect 'my type' kinda girl 🙂 (blond hair, blue eyes, 5'5" (give or take an inch) 125lbs (give or take a few lbs) curves in all the right spots, light tan, country girl from rural ND. anyway. that was about 2.5...3 months ago. since then, i've become fairly good friends with her, we've gone a few 'dates'... dinner, movie, shoping, quite night at her place.. ect, i'm actually supprised at how well it is going.

but, here is my question. last time i had something going like this, my emotions got the best of me, and ended up telling her how i feel, too early, and i think she got scared off by that (still friends with this girl, not in a romantic relationship though)...

my question:

how do you keep your emotions from getting the best of you? i'd rather not mess this one up =/
 
Just don't say anything? Be careful though....earlier in my high school, I was all about this one girl, for like 3 years. Always assumed she was too good for me, so I didn't say anything. Since then, she's told me that she definitely would have gone out with me had I asked. One of the reasons I've developed a taste for aggressive girls that aren't afraid to go after what they want....shame they turn out to be sluts kinda often.
 
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
 
Originally posted by: theNEOone
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
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never said they were "exclusive"
 
Originally posted by: theNEOone
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
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2.5/3 months that i've actually known her, 1.5 months, tops, that i've actually been spending 1 on 1 time with her.
 
Originally posted by: amnesiac
Originally posted by: guyver01
Originally posted by: stev0
how do you keep your emotions from getting the best of you? i'd rather not mess this one up =/
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f@p often
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Hm. As nef-like as that answer is, it's actually something to keep in mind. 🙂
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yea... lol. i'm not talking about that urge to jump on her and sex her up... i'm talking about that feeling of being able to tell her how i feel about her and be able to have that out in the open (well.. open as between her and myself)
 
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: theNEOone
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
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2.5/3 months that i've actually known her, 1.5 months, tops, that i've actually been spending 1 on 1 time with her.
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If you're relatively inexperienced in relationships, it's VERY easy to jump the gun on expressing your feelings, but then again, some people just take time to "Warm up" to others. Every girl I've been with fell for me like THAT -- within a month or two.

My advice is to just keep things "normal" between you and since she already has a hint of how you feel, let her take the first steps from here on out...that is, if she's not perma-freaked by you.

But face it, everyone makes mistakes. Relationship mistakes are the hardest ones to make sometimes, especially if you really like the other person. If somehow you "lose" her just chalk it up to experience and figure that it wasn't meant to be. When you find your One, you'll realize it. God'll probably throw a few red herrings at you first. By then, you'll learn what signs to look for in a relationship and within yourself to know when you've "fallen" for someone for real.
 
Originally posted by: Tyler
You go on with the whole "friend" thing much longer and you're going to be stuck there forever.
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yea... thats the other thing i'm worried about, i've pulled a few of those "i think of you as a brother" things before. yea. those suck. 🙁
 
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: theNEOone
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
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2.5/3 months that i've actually known her, 1.5 months, tops, that i've actually been spending 1 on 1 time with her.
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i really don't see the problem here. if i was really into a girl, i don't care if it's 1 day or 1 month. you're misinterpreting your last encounter.

".....ended up telling her how i feel, too early, and i think she got scared off...."

you're assuming that you scared her off becuase you jumped into things. it seems to me you believe that, had you waited longer, this chick may have been more receptive to you. but did you consider the possibility that maybe she wasn't interested in you, and regardless of how long you waited, she would have been scared off?

anyway. my point is that there's no such thing as "too soon". if you like her, tell her. girls know immediately whether they'd date a guy seriously within 10 minutes of talking to them.
 
Originally posted by: amnesiac
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: theNEOone
3 months are you're afraid of doing telling her how you feel because it's too early?

............doesn't make sense to me
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2.5/3 months that i've actually known her, 1.5 months, tops, that i've actually been spending 1 on 1 time with her.
Click to expand...

If you're relatively inexperienced in relationships, it's VERY easy to jump the gun on expressing your feelings, but then again, some people just take time to "Warm up" to others. Every girl I've been with fell for me like THAT -- within a month or two.

My advice is to just keep things "normal" between you and since she already has a hint of how you feel, let her take the first steps from here on out...that is, if she's not perma-freaked by you.

But face it, everyone makes mistakes. Relationship mistakes are the hardest ones to make sometimes, especially if you really like the other person. If somehow you "lose" her just chalk it up to experience and figure that it wasn't meant to be. When you find your One, you'll realize it. God'll probably throw a few red herrings at you first. By then, you'll learn what signs to look for in a relationship and within yourself to know when you've "fallen" for someone for real.
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perma freaked?...
 
anyway. my point is that there's no such thing as "too soon". if you like her, tell her. girls know immediately whether they'd date a guy seriously within 10 minutes of talking to them.
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good advice, that i've already been told. idk, i'm torn between just telling her, or just playing it a bit longer and seeing how it goes.

i'd like to get luvly's opinion on this advice 🙂
 
Originally posted by: stev0
perma freaked?...
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Sometimes if a guy moves too quickly or tries too hard, it damages the relationship beyond repair -- at least for the girl. As such, she'll subsequently "avoid" the guy instead of making anything clear to him about her feelings.

 
Originally posted by: Tyler
You go on with the whole "friend" thing much longer and you're going to be stuck there forever.
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True...but sometimes you just need to be a little more patient. That's my word of the year...be patient. You've already had experience with scaring the girl off by telling her too soon...just wait a little whlie longer. Be friends with her...but don't be her best friend.

Good luck with everything! 🙂
 
Originally posted by: amnesiac
Originally posted by: stev0
perma freaked?...
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Sometimes if a guy moves too quickly or tries too hard, it damages the relationship beyond repair -- at least for the girl. As such, she'll subsequently "avoid" the guy instead of making anything clear to him about her feelings.
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ahh.. understood 🙂

True...but sometimes you just need to be a little more patient. That's my word of the year...be patient. You've already had experience with scaring the girl off by telling her too soon...just wait a little whlie longer. Be friends with her...but don't be her best friend.

Good luck with everything!
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imo, this seems to be the best way.

 
It's all about the chemistry and the attraction between you two. It's either there or it's not, and it should be fairly obvious.
 
Originally posted by: her209
Propose to her.
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yea! i'm going to do that! think a 3 karot ring is enough?

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Originally posted by: ElFenix
quick question: what part of ND isn't rural?
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well... less rural than fargo 😛... she was raised on a farm by Dickonson, ND. i grew up in the 'city' 😛
 
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