YAGT: Offer moving help?

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: ElFenix
yet again, atot is full of pussies

We don't have many girls around here, so a large portion of the male population took it upon themselves to turn into them.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing
This is exactly what I mean by trust issues. The average guy is completely incapable of trusting a girl not to do something naughty when the situation is beyond his direct control.

Maybe one day I'll understand what all you people are on about. My last girlfriend cheated on me with a guy that mowed lawns for a living and ultimately left me for him. But I'd still have no problems letting a girlfriend go out with a guy from school or work or something to do something so minor as watch a freaking movie. As far as I'm concerned, and as far as I can tell from her, we're just friends. Would it be magically different if I had boobies and a vag?

Sure, I'm interested in her, and I'm acutely aware of the situation between them. But I have no intentions of hurrying things along for my own benefit.

I didn't have time yesterday, but I wanted to explain something for you that should hopefully help you later in life.

Trusting somebody does not equate to believing they are incapable of cheating on you. Monogomy within a love relationship doesn't come about because neither partner is able to be attracted to anyone but their partner, but, rather, because of their desire to honor and respect their partner and show them, in a very real and literal way, that they are unique and cherished. That desire can only be fulfilled if it's braced by a committment...in other words, just wanting to be monogomous doesn't mean you will be, you need to make conscious decisions to remain so.

Temptation is a withering storm that nobody is immune from. Given the right person and the right circumstances, anybody is capable of cheating. A person truly in love with someone else will see to it that they do not end up in those kinds of circumstances with those kinds of people. In the Bible, Joseph was tempted and he didn't stand there like an Oak tree brushing off her advances, he ran.

At work I'm very polite....but I never even half-way flirt with anybody. I don't check out chicks while driving or at the mall. I have no "girl" friends. I don't look at porn. I try at all times to keep my mind free of any illicit thoughts. I don't drink. I don't go to clubs with my guy friends. Nothing. And it's all a conscious effort. And I do it because I love my wife and I am happy to constantly prove my love and make her feel that much more special. And I'm 99.999% sure even with optimal circumstances I would never ever cheat on her, but I'm not taking any chances. Why? Because I love her.

So, allowing your girlfriend to go to movies with other guys doesn't make you a secure and trusting individual in a committed relationship it makes you a fool and her, at least, somebody not interested in a true love relationship.

 

[mitmot]

just dont become the cuddle b|tch :Q

 

[neutralizer]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: Merlyn3D

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: shuan24
shes gonna dump her bf for you. Then when you two are having rocky times, she's going to leave you for another dude to help her move and take her to the movies.

:laugh:

Actually, the only reason they're having problems is that he can't deal with her going away. Typical male trust issues.

Seems like his lack of trust is justified if she's goin to the movies with you.

This is exactly what I mean by trust issues. The average guy is completely incapable of trusting a girl not to do something naughty when the situation is beyond his direct control.

Maybe one day I'll understand what all you people are on about. My last girlfriend cheated on me with a guy that mowed lawns for a living and ultimately left me for him. But I'd still have no problems letting a girlfriend go out with a guy from school or work or something to do something so minor as watch a freaking movie. As far as I'm concerned, and as far as I can tell from her, we're just friends. Would it be magically different if I had boobies and a vag?

Sure, I'm interested in her, and I'm acutely aware of the situation between them. But I have no intentions of hurrying things along for my own benefit.

Yes.

You're a guy. You are only looking for the p00n. Don't try to convince us otherwise.

The ladder theory wins again.

 

[lightweight]

No, not unless you would offer this to any one of your other friends that you have. Don't even think about getting involved with someone who already has a boyfriend, or try to "rescue her" from her boyfriend. It won't work, and there's plenty of other women out there who are single. It's BS.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: shuan24
shes gonna dump her bf for you. Then when you two are having rocky times, she's going to leave you for another dude to help her move and take her to the movies.

FTW

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: Merlyn3D

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: shuan24
shes gonna dump her bf for you. Then when you two are having rocky times, she's going to leave you for another dude to help her move and take her to the movies.

:laugh:

Actually, the only reason they're having problems is that he can't deal with her going away. Typical male trust issues.

Seems like his lack of trust is justified if she's goin to the movies with you.

also ftw?

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Beyond that, I wouldn't want to be around if the bf shows up.

I'd win that fight.

Yea, but you'd lose the battle.

 

[Toasthead]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing
So, I was talking to this girl last night. We'd barely ever spoken before, but it seemed like we hit it off CRAZY well. We ended up talking for about 3 hours about all kinds of things - including some rather personal things. She and her boyfriend aren't getting along very well.

She moves out for uni on Saturday. Not too far away. You guys think I should offer the services of me and my van to get her there and set her up?

Note: No, I'm not lame enough to ask this under normal circumstances. What you guys say here won't affect in any way my actions, I just want to put something on the front page other than spam.

hahah spam. What the best way to cook it?

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: neutralizer

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: Merlyn3D

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: shuan24
shes gonna dump her bf for you. Then when you two are having rocky times, she's going to leave you for another dude to help her move and take her to the movies.

:laugh:

Actually, the only reason they're having problems is that he can't deal with her going away. Typical male trust issues.

Seems like his lack of trust is justified if she's goin to the movies with you.

This is exactly what I mean by trust issues. The average guy is completely incapable of trusting a girl not to do something naughty when the situation is beyond his direct control.

Maybe one day I'll understand what all you people are on about. My last girlfriend cheated on me with a guy that mowed lawns for a living and ultimately left me for him. But I'd still have no problems letting a girlfriend go out with a guy from school or work or something to do something so minor as watch a freaking movie. As far as I'm concerned, and as far as I can tell from her, we're just friends. Would it be magically different if I had boobies and a vag?

Sure, I'm interested in her, and I'm acutely aware of the situation between them. But I have no intentions of hurrying things along for my own benefit.

Yes.

You're a guy. You are only looking for the p00n. Don't try to convince us otherwise.

The ladder theory wins again.

Ladder theory is wrong. I've said it before, I'll say it again. It's attempting to artificially force logical systems onto an inherently illogical creature. It's a close approximation, but it's NOT correct because it was written by bitter assholes who gave up after the first try, not bitter assholes who just try again and pay more attention this time.

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
In the Bible, Joseph was tempted and he didn't stand there like an Oak tree brushing off her advances, he ran.

And that was fiction (even IF God exists, it's almost certain that every story set forth in the bible is either straight-up fiction designed to convey His teachings, or a modification of real events for the same) set at the beginning of time, this is reality in the 21st century A.D. Things have changed. Society is integrated now, there are BILLIONS of us, we know more about ourselves and the world around us than ever before, and we have things that we can go do for entertainment other than make babies.

So a guy and a girl are best friends. That girl gets married to some other guy. How is it fair to the friend and to her to follow what you're saying? I've been on the foul end of that arrangement before, and it pissed me off to NO end.